I am nearly 17 and i have been with my bf for nearly nine motnhs now and she wont let me stay at his house or him stay at mine? is this normal? how can i persuade her to let us?
2006-11-17 05:34:15 · 33 answers · asked by JoJo40 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes it is normal and you shouldnt untill you pay your own rent.()
2006-11-17 05:36:25 · answer #1 · answered by Saint 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
When you are older and wiser you will wish that you did not rush being young. It is so short compared to what happens when you are solely responsible for yourself and your surroundings. Stay young relish in it. Love being with your mum and your entire family because some drift away as we grow older. Make your first time at anything you do special and right. THink about what would happen if you did this and it was not for the right reasons and all you have left is regret. Going home for the sleeping hours in a day and joining your boyfriend the next day is just as loving as spending the night together when you are 17.
Enjoy being a child and thank your MUM for letting you be one.
2006-11-17 05:44:24 · answer #2 · answered by Twingleton Momma 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would have agreed with you not long ago, but now I'm a mum, even though my daughter is only 8 at the moment, I don't think I would agree to it either. Trouble is, if you split up and meet someone else you will be saying to your mum 'well you let my last boyfriend stay'. Having said that my mum allowed my boyfriend to stay and we hadn't been together as long as you two. You are 17 though, why are you asking permission to stay at his at your age? Does she have total say over where you go and what you do??
2006-11-17 05:44:27 · answer #3 · answered by jeeps 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Completely normal- you're only sixteen (nearly 17 or 11mths from 17, you're 16 all the same) you have plenty of time to worry about spending the night with your boyfriends. So for now, respect the your mother's choice- or move out and make rules of your own , which ever seems more worth it to you.
2006-11-17 05:40:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mum sounds quite normal... Just because she knows you are in a 9 month relationship and probably thinks that you may be having a relationship (nice way of saying sex), she doesn't a) have to agree with it and b)be a party to encouraging you to do so... I know that may not be what you want or think is right, but she too is entitled to her beliefs and whilst you're still at home, it is her house and she is only trying to protect you (it's a parent thing... you'll get like it later - trust me!) But, if you think your mum is bad, I was married and my mother hated me and my wife sleeping in the same bed when we stayed at her house... and I was in my 40's :)
2006-11-17 05:41:36 · answer #5 · answered by Boring Old Fart 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are very lucky. I doubt you will be spending the rest of your life with your present boyfriend. You mum cares and she is right to stop you making mistakes. You are still a minor till you are eighteen. The laws of this land are there to protect you and so
is your mum. You are still very immature otherwise you would understand your mum's reasons. She is preventing you from disease and possible pregnancy. too many girls are getting into trouble these days.. Listen to your mum. When you are older you will thank her for doing her job as a parent. Tell her she is a great mum and a great example to you. would you let your daughter sleep with her boyfriend. You have a whole life in front of you. Don't race through it and regret your actions.
2006-11-17 05:45:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its hard for a mum when her little girl grows up,which is normal,but you could tell her in a kind way that you will be 18 one day,if you carry on like this then,all you will be doing is pushing me away,and i don't want that to ever happen,may be she will see what she is doing, may not be 100% healthy
2006-11-17 06:14:41 · answer #7 · answered by barnowl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your mom has loved & protected you for 17 years, trust her. even when she's annoying the fock out of you with her rigidness on these issues she is seeing & understanding more than you do no matter how bright & mature you think you are right now. and her love & protection is priceless.
when you are self sufficient & supporting your own life and able to solely handle the consequences of your actions then you can do all the sleepovers your heart desires.
trust your momma.
2006-11-17 05:38:15 · answer #8 · answered by sydmeister 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is normal, you are only 17, if you want to spend the night with your man, get a job, and get a place of your own. I think she is doing a great thing.
2006-11-17 05:35:50 · answer #9 · answered by Fuzzy 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Stay as in stay over night? If that's what you mean...your mom is 273% normal. I'm a really, really open-minded person, but it would be over my dead body that my underage child sleeps over their gf/bf's house!
2006-11-17 05:36:54 · answer #10 · answered by shannonscorpio 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you need to spend the night at your boyfriend's house?
You are a child, it's not the right thing to do.
Once you are 18, moved out of your parent's house and financially supporting yourself, then you can have a sleep over male guest, or sleep over at his house.
2006-11-17 05:36:33 · answer #11 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋