how 2 deal with a break-up.even thou you still love your ex girlfriend?

Answer 1

you will hear it time and time again and not believe it right now.....TIME HEALS! Its so true. It hurts like hell....its the worst feeling in the world.... you feel like you cant go on..... but it WILL change. In fact, believe it or not ..... you will be greatful in the end that you went through it all....coz in the long run it actually makes you feel stronger in future relationships and makes sure you dont end up in mundane relationships that arent actually working. One thing that helped me when i split up with a guy that i really loved was to think of all the reasons why it was good that it was over. No use hanging onto love that has no future... in the long run you would only be miserable. Here.....have a hug...xxxx

Answer 2

I don't think that cheap sex with a woman would help you. Its hard to deal with this kind of situation, but its something that can be done. I know what if feels like, but once your okay again you will ask your self why did you love that person for so long. Sometimes it is hard to handel the fact of being in love and no longer having that person love you anymore, but just remember that there is somone out there that wants to love you. Also remember the relationship may have been good, but it ended for a reason. Hope this helps.

Answer 3

Time, my friend, I hate to sound like an old cliche, but if something is meant to be, it will be. You can't change fate. If someone loves you, he/she will be there for you. It's that simple. Now if its something that you are doing to cause the relationship to crumble, maybe you should try fixing it. If its not you, then give the other person time to fix it. If it can't be fixed, walk away from it, because it will only get worse, and then you/he/she may wind up hating you. Love hurts but so does infatuation, know the difference between the two. One realistic question that you have to ask yourself, "if someone you love is hurting, wouldn't you want to make her/him feel better?" Therefore, if you are still in love (and maybe the other person isn't) then maybe its not love on their part, and even though that may be a hard pill to swallow, you have no choice but to accept it. Work on your faults and better yourself in the meantime. Love yourself also, that's what's most important. When you love yourself, you are honest with yourself, and your self esteem is not low. Life/Love will hurt, but life/love also is forever, not for a time, therefore life/love goes on. Love sometimes has a way of finding you. Be strong in the meantime and remember its ok to cry. Its the rain/tears that brings about change and makes you stronger as you grow.

Answer 4

Therapy.

Answer 5

The grief of being abandoned can quickly progress to extreme sadness, self doubt, insecurity, and fear. Abandonment drains our self-esteem. It can lead to depression, addictions, compulsions, and uncontrollable anxiety or panic attacks. In extreme cases, some are left with suicidal thoughts. If left unresolved, abandonment can interfere with - or even prevent - any healthy future relationships. Once in this cycle, we will often find ourselves abandoned over and over again, as we become either blocked from fully connecting to others, or struggle with extreme-attachment for fear of being abandoned again. We may accept abuse and infidelity, Just to avoid feelings of abandonment. Sometimes we remain in a panic-like state of obsessiveness and hyper-vigilance towards our abandoner, or inner focused on our own pain and hurt. We often carry with us feelings of being deserted, needy, and demoralized. Eventually, our lack of self-control makes us feel like a victim within our own creation, causing self hatred, harm, or injury.

Curing the grief that surrounds you is to find happiness within you. Sounds impossible, but it isn't. It is not only very possible, it has been there all along. If it hadn't been you would have curled up in a ball at the foot of the one who left you, and died. And, yes, you might have felt that way, but did you do it? No! Because you still know, buried deep inside of you, that your ex was not the be-all to your life. And how do I know that? Because you are here, reading this, looking for answers to your pain. Searching for help to mend your abandoned self! You have the courage and the desire to 'continue on'. You believe in you, you have faith in life, and you are aware of your capacity to love again. A new and better life is not only possible, not only probable, but a plain and simple fact.

But right now, you just hurt. And you hurt bad. And you want to know why.

Well.. look at it this way. You loved someone. You loved them very much. And they abandoned you. You thought the world of them and they crushed your heart and stole your dreams. Wow - so much power they have.. to be able to inflict such heavy and massive destruction to your well-being. And with this 'imposed' power they become almost 'God-like' to you. You subconsciously fear this power, and by fearing it, The object of your power - your ex - actually becomes almost like an obsession to you. You think about them all the time. You dream of them. They're the first thought in your head when you wake and the last when you go to sleep. And this constant dwelling confuses you. You actually come to believe that you love them and need them far more than you actually do.

And what about the one who abandoned you?

Here are some facts to ponder:

Some abandoners often times feel powerful in the fact that they can and have inflicted so much emotional pain on someone. They feel almighty in the knowledge that they have, alone, created such extensive devastation. They might even feel a heightened sense of self-importance. Sadly, their ego may be exaggerated as they witness either the begging and pleas, or the hopeless, lost agony coming from you.

Often abandoners will not openly admit to these feelings of triumph. Hiding these emotions, they will more often than not, tend to relay feeling of guilt or regret, either for causing the other person pain, or simply because they are 'sorry that the relationship didn't work out'.

However, for many abandoners the guilt is very real. To diminish their own guilt, and justify their decision to end the relationship, they will often point the finger away from them, blaming the other person (you) for the break up, or for the problems in the relationship. They will attempt to save their own face at all costs. Even at the cost of you. They often come off as callous, heartless, or cruel to the ones they left behind. Many 'dumpees' have come up to me and asked, "How can they just move on so easily, and not hurt like I do? How can someone who claimed they loved me just two weeks ago, this week announce to the world that I am a neurotic *****?"

Although breakups are painful, let me point out that many who make the choice to leave and end a relationship do not set out directly to cause hurt and pain. Their main goal is to find happiness and personal fulfillment, not to directly cause hurt to someone they care about. When you can stop taking 'ownership' of another's choices and start to acknowledge that you are a lovable, worthy being, and that someday soon you will experience the unconditional love from another, will you find peace and acceptance in the end of a relationship and find the joyous anticipation of a new, and more stable love.... i wish u the best that u may move on and find love again.. u will be okay ...

Answer 6

Lots of cheap sex with easy women.

Answer 7

take one day at a time and you will get over her. go out with your friends and try and keep yourself busy.