Please help, if possible.?

Question

I was in a relationship for almost 4 years with the most wonderful man, I am 33. We have a 2 year old together. The problem is we broke up about 3 months ago. I still see him everyday, he is a wonderful dad and comes to see son. We have remained very good friends, but I still love him just as much as ever, and would like us to work it out. I don't feel like that will happen due to the reason we split up. (not abuse or cheating). He has begun talking to other women, but I can't seem to move on. He was the love of my life, and it is so hard not being with him. I do however want to remain friends with him, any suggestions on moving forward with my life?

Answer 1

I'm assuming of course, you've already at least told him you'd like to be back together? If so and he isn't go for it, then it's going to be rough for you for a while -- especially with a kid and seeing him most every day. It took me a good three years to get over my exhusband and sometimes I even still have sadness over the loss....AND I'm remarried with a kid now. Best thing you can do is try and get involved in lots of activities to help you keep you active and your mind off of your heart until you can heal a bit. Get your girlfriends to go out more often, get involved in church...that sort of thing. I wouldn't necessarily just jump right back into dating right now, because you won't be good for the other person at all. Just surround yourself with love from friends and family and time will heal - I promise. When the time is right and the person is right, you'll know it and then maybe finding someone new will help the healing speed up. As far as your current lost-love....remember that things can always work out, but don't be pushy or needy...he obviously just needs time. Just be ready to go on with your life and don't look back and realize you wasted years on nothing. Good Luck to you.

Answer 2

best advise i can give you is to say hang in there, u sound sincere about your situation (not like the other fools on this site) so I'll try to be as empathetic as poss. sometime a person has to let go an let the other do what they think or feel is right at that moment. for what ever reasons u 2 split somewhere he stills loves u but u have to remember he's a man an they simply can't say no to the **** especially new**** so if it's what u really want your going to have to be prepared to go threw the "fire" girlfriend. never let him see u cry (cause u will) be there for him as a friend and DON"T GIVE UP THE **** other wise how will he know what he's missing. all u have is time your children bind you 2 four ever(no need to rush) remember the fun things u stop doing cause of marriage & kids find that again OH! sexy always helps, but be settle just enough for him to notice the change.. it could take months even years people have found each other again years down the road.. weather it happens or not it can be fun and who knows you may find out something about yourslef..sincerely One.

Answer 3

Print out your question and show it to him the next time he comes over, using it as an ice-breaker. Tell him you're so sorry for whatever you did to offend him, or tell him you're willing to forgive and forget whatever he did to offend you, because your life is so empty without him, and you know that working together you can make it a beautiful life again. Remember, there is no such thing as a perfect man, or a perfect woman, or a perfect trouble free marriage. We are all imperfect people with our faults and weaknesses living in a imperfect world. Good marriages don't fall out of the sky. They are built one day at a time with patience, forgiveness, acceptance, and the willingness to swallow our pride and say "I'm sorry". You have to be willing to take the bad with the good because we all have our bad points. You're going to have to do all this to have a good lasting marriage or relationship, no matter who you hook up with, so it could just as well be with the one you already know and love and have a child with. I speak from 34 years of married experience. It's not always easy, but it's well worth the effort. God bless you and good luck!

Answer 4

The only way you'll ever get over him is to really get over him. Start dating, even if your not interested in the person just make yourself start over. Don't spend your whole life in limbo....realize that he's moved on and you do the same....staying friends is nice but you must draw a line, don't talk about the people your dating to eachother, it only makes the pain harder to bare, good luck honey

Answer 5

Well if you are sure you cannot get over what ever it was that the two of you broke up over, then you have no choice but to move on. You will just have to give yourself some time to get over him and when you are ready begin dating. Good luck and God bless*

Answer 6

Just move on. He is moving on and its not very classy to be chasing someone who doesn't want to be chased. It's hard but you two can remain friends and still find someone who truly loves you. Good Luck!!

Answer 7

In everything you do think first of your son. Do what you know and feel is right for him. Remember kids don't really want to make someone else their parent, they are just forced to when their parent brings someone else home. Put your son first in everything you do, its his feelings now not yours. Too bad you had a child without the benefit of marriage.

Answer 8

You broke up too recently. You've got to be patient. As time goes by, you will overcome your present problems. Be patient !

Answer 9

Keep seeing him. He will eventually leave other woman and will come to you. If u love somebody very much set him free. if it returns cherish him, if not he was never meant to be yours.

Answer 10

Move on you are yesterdays news. Not trying to be mean, but its over.()