ok here is the deal i was going out with my boyfriend well now ex for 4 years until we broke up i still have feelings 4 him but he has a new girlfriend now but theres a problem i cant stop seeing him wen i dont i miss him very much so we still keep seeing each other but i kind of feel bad cuz hes cheating on his new girlfriend with me wat do i do Do do i stop seeing him or just get it out of the way so he could be happy with his girlfriend Help .... I need advise
2006-11-17 05:22:37 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You are seeing him out of jealousy.
You need to back off, why is it okay for him to do this to someone else?
If this was happening to you it would devastate you, yet you are doing it to someone without regard to their feelings.
If your relationship ended it was for a reason, leave the past behind & get on with your life.
2006-11-17 05:27:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously yuu OK with the fact he has another girlfriend. And obviously he is OK with it too. The problem here is that his girlfriend doesn't know anything about you. If you or he are hiding your relationship with him from her then everything will crash around you and whether you try to get out of the way or not this will end badly for both you, him, and his other girlfriend.
if you want to continue to see him then either together with you (if you are friends with her), or by himself, Yo need to be open and honest with his other girlfriend and let her make the choices she wants to make.
The position your in is as old as the ages, and it never goes well or someone in your position unless all three of you have and understanding of what each of you mean to each other and that each of you are not trying to take him for himself (the same would apply to a woman as well who wast in this situation).
Be honest and get him to be honest as well and see what happens.
I might direct you to an address where you might get information that could help all three of you. it is:
http://www.polyamorysociety.org/
I have may email address on answers profile if you need more specific answers.
2006-11-17 05:38:53 · answer #2 · answered by jryanwinterhaven 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You stop cheating with your ex! Being a whore is generally considered a bad thing; although some will disagree with me. You leave him behind and move on with your life while picking up some positive morals along the way.
2006-11-17 05:27:49 · answer #3 · answered by OU812 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The problem is if he dumps her and comes back will he continue to see her on the side? Chances are he would since he is currently doing that with you. Go ahead and take him back, if he'll have you, just don't be surprised when he cheats on you.
2006-11-17 05:29:51 · answer #4 · answered by Bert 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he's just using you as a very convenient and easy booty call. he has no honesty or integrity and doesn't want to be with you now or in the future or he would break it off with her. he's trying to get as much you know what from as many as he can get it from. scrape up some self respect and dignity and sever all ties.
2006-11-17 08:53:36 · answer #5 · answered by Stevie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave him alone you deserve better then to be some body's side chick and that's dumb picture how his girl would feel if she found out and that don't make you look like a good female if you are allowing him to be with her and you and she doesn't know what if this was you how would you feel if he was with you and still seeing her behind your back.
2006-11-17 05:26:26 · answer #6 · answered by Mz.Tweety 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave. You don't need him, besides, by him cheating on on his gf with you, you may be sloppy seconds!!!
2006-11-17 05:34:40 · answer #7 · answered by Fuzzy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋