Our emails are simple and friendly, every few months to just check in and see how life is going. They are not a threat to my current boyfriend. He says he trusts me, but he doesn't trust guys and no boyfriend would be okay with it. I would be okay with him emailing an ex. Getting together is something entirely different, but I think email is pretty harmless.
2006-11-17 05:17:29 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I don't think it's right. I mean would you RALLY be ok with him e-mailing his ex? Aren't you scared old memories may come back he wants her again?
That's how he feels....
He may trust YOU but who knows what your ex wants, that's why your boyfriend doesn't trust guys (my hubby doesn't either). Maybe he's just scared you'll go back to him....
Just let him go and write other friends, no exes...
2006-11-17 05:21:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Guys get jealous when other guys start talking to their woman. Its the same for women, if their man starts contacting a woman they knew be it, ex or just a friend.
Its normal, you should be happy your boy friend loves you enough to show these feelings. Even a simple Hi, to another guy, is making your boyfriend upset.
Email sounds harmless, and most couples meet and fall in love dong so, then some dont. Just weigh the possiblities of it all.
The question you must ask yourself, is why is your ex really writing you, or you him, do you still miss or have have feelings for one another? Thats what your boyfriend is thinking, and it worries him, that he may loose you.
2006-11-17 05:26:18 · answer #2 · answered by Such A Chicka 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont see any harm in emailing your ex, if all you are is friends. It sounds like he is a litle insecure over your ex, but maybe there is more there than you see. Its not like your hiding your emails and he needs to have more faith in you in that area. I know you are just being friendly with your ex, but is there any real reason to emial them? That may be something you two need to talk about to allow you both to be happy. I know exs can stay in our lives and still interact as needed, but the new significant other should allow some patience in this area, since there may be an ex in their life and they should look at it on the opposite side, to see how you may feel. Good Luck!
2006-11-17 05:23:20 · answer #3 · answered by kevin T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the bigger question is why do you feel the need to hold on to the past? I can say that most men would not be okay with this. He is your ex for a reason. Either totally invest in your current relationship by cutting off ex or get out of the relationship you are in.
2006-11-17 05:21:49 · answer #4 · answered by Old Mad One 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you boyfriend means anything to you, i would give up emailing the x. I would not continue to have the same discussion. The x is an x for a reason, he is in the past, leave him there and not bring him into your present relationship. When the x finds a girlfriend he is really interested in he will not have anything to do with you, believe that, he is not going to put his relationship in jeopardy for you. You really need to think about what you are doing here. Good luck and God bless*
2006-11-17 05:21:52 · answer #5 · answered by ? 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
All relationships are different, just like all people are different. Just because you are fine with him emailing an ex, doesn't mean he has to be fine with it. Deep down, it might have something to do with trust because I was in this situation before. My b/f told me that he trusted me, but he didn't trust my ex so he asked me to stop conversing with him. I took what he said into consideration and I respected how he felt. So eventually, I cut all ties with the ex.
2006-11-17 05:23:17 · answer #6 · answered by melcar12345 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, email is harmless. What isn't is the connection and continuous communication w/ your past. Your boyfriend says he trusts you but he really is on the edge about it and you will be showing alot more of a great person you are by being considerate w/ him and hault this emails. As if it were from your end, im sure you wont tolerate such behavior regardless of the contents of the emails.
2006-11-17 05:21:08 · answer #7 · answered by lopez76g 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Some guys lack that kind of confidence for their partner to be chatting with any man, especially an 'ex'. Some are more secure. Yours is insecure. He'll either get over it or wont stand for it and continue to give you grief over it.
Some men use it as a control tactic. If you discontinue innocent contact will that appease him or will he find someone else, a girlfriend, a family member, coworkers that you arent allowed to chat with? Which is he? Peace.
2006-11-17 05:24:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's not that simple. my last ex talked to her ex (actually a couple of them) and swore up and down she would never get back with them. but sure enough, she went out of town to see her brother, who's best friend is her ex, and she hooked back up with him. she dumped me by leaving a note on my windshield saying why she dumped me. the fact that you are talkin with your ex is unnerving. regardless of how "innocent" you say it is, you're still talking to him. how would you feel if your boyfriend talked "innocently" to one of his exes? at first you would be ok with it but then after a while you would begin to wonder. exes are called exes for a reason. focus on your current boyfriend or you're gonna be in for a very unpleasant experience. lot's of drama. i don't really associate with girls who stay in touch with their exes cuz no matter what they say, you can't control feelings and 90% of the time they go crawling back. if you like your boyfriend a lot, then respect his feelings and focus on him more than exes. if he's a good guy, he'll do the same for you.
2006-11-17 05:27:12 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He doesn't have to think the same way you do. He probably doesn't want your ex coming up with feelings for you again and swaying you. He probably means it when he says he trusts you but not guys. My friend's bf was the same way. Now they are both married and very happy with two children.
2006-11-17 05:23:04 · answer #10 · answered by happykat 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋