If you have been married for ten years (unhappy marriage) w/children. Then you find your high school sweetheart that was taken from you by certain events. Do you stay in a unhealthty marriage or do you persue the sweetheart?
2006-11-17 05:17:26 · 16 answers · asked by BIG 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
When you got married, you made a commitment to that person for the rest of your life, forsaking all others. That includes high school sweethearts. Get some marriage counseling. Tough it out. What example would you be setting for your children if you took the easy way out?
2006-11-17 05:21:01 · answer #1 · answered by togashiyokuni2001 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I met my husband when we were 16. We moved in together at 17, got married at 18 and have been happily married for 7 years. He was my high school sweetheart and the love of my life. We didn't get married because I was pregnant or had a baby. We were just in love and it felt right. Even though were so young and didn't really know each other that long, I have never regretted one second. Of course we have our little spats but what couple doesn't? I wouldn't change anything. The good thing is we are just now trying to have a baby. We were able to spend 7 years married to each other with it being just the 2 of us yet we are still young.
2016-05-21 23:01:51 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you asking from a religious standpoint (since you are in R&S)? If so, you need to do what you believe is morally right. Otherwise it will have a negative impact on you and your family.
I would probably endure the unhappy marriage for the sake of my children, then divorce when they are old enough to drive back and forth between my house and their moms. Or I may even stick it out until they start college.
But I would ask the sweetheart for a cup of coffee and talk, just to get a feel for things - maybe she is someone I can talk to. Sometimes old friends have good advice, and it doesn't have to be a romantic date. But this is entering dangerous waters...but I am just being honest about myself.
2006-11-17 05:24:36 · answer #3 · answered by Jesus Pleaseus 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've been married for 10 years. And, we've got kids. If I were to run into a high school sweetheart , what would I do? Hmmm......
It's probably exciting to think about being able to pick up where we had left off in high school or college. But, people change. Really. My husband and I have been through tough times. However, to take off and pursue a romance that was over years ago......just don't think that's smart.
2006-11-17 05:21:10 · answer #4 · answered by EV 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
the high school sweetheart doesn't matter.
if you are unhappy your family is probably just as unhappy.
was it always bad? would counseling help? did you love each other? you should at least try to work things out, and if that isn't possible make the split as friendly as you can.
staying together for the children is bad for all of you. your children know something is wrong (even babies can sense things).
2006-11-17 05:28:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You try to work out the marriage. I wonder what you mean by unhealthy? If you mean you don't get along well and there are personality issues, you get marriage counseling, see someone from your church...work it out. If there's a SERIOUS issue, like abuse, that might be a marriage deal-breaker. And even then, I'd suggest someone take time for themselves between relationships. Lucky girl who gets the guy after a ten year bender in a bad relationship.
2006-11-17 05:22:28 · answer #6 · answered by shannonscorpio 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is the marriage worth saving? If both people are unhappy it creates an unhealthy environment for the children. I would make sure to be honest and open with your wife. Let her know that you are ready to move on. I don't think it would be fair to anyone for you to cheat with the old flame. You just set yourself up to never be trusted if you do that. Follow your heart on this one. Good luck.
Love & Light
Sharon
2006-11-17 05:30:08 · answer #7 · answered by Soul 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you're really unhappy in your marriage, you should consider getting a divorce. If you don't want a divorce, you need to stay faithful to your spouse, But DON'T--for all three of your sakes--get involved with someone else while you're still married. That can only cause trouble.
2006-11-17 05:23:04 · answer #8 · answered by Amy F 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Who made it "unhealthty"?? Spouse? children!!? YOU!?! Hey, whose the man, the HUSBANDMAN? The husband takes credit for all decisions ...right or Wrong! The husband is accountable to GOD;remember your oath at the wedding(marriage ceremony) before a judge or clergy?! In front of witnesses!? That agreement,contract, etc. was before a heavenly host as well! If you need help now HE is still sharing each moment with you,her, your children! Ask HIS aid in this relationship...not your lust!
2006-11-17 05:38:38 · answer #9 · answered by K9 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That depends on your definition of unhealthy. If one of you is cheating on the other, or abusing the other, or abusing your kids, then maybe it's time to check things out. But if it's not that drastic, then you need to stay faithful to your spouse. Divorce is a sin. Look it up in the Bible.
Think of your kids! If you leave, and you're their father, think what that's going to do to them. "Dad doesn't love me and mom and my brothers and/or sisters enough to stay. I'm being so bad and he's angry at me so he's going to leave mom for some other girl."
2006-11-17 05:24:13 · answer #10 · answered by Avielleya 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋