I have a questions for you guys,
my boyfriend and i had broken up back in June of this year, i still love him and i talk to him all of the time, and i want to tell him but i don't know how.. He lives in another state anyway, do you think that I should tell him Just so he knows or should i just keep it to myself? We never had a bad relationship we ended things Mutually.
2006-11-17 05:14:01 · 12 answers · asked by aaliyahevanescence 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Absolutely you should, be prepared though for the fact that he may not feel the same way. Also be prepared for he fact that he may have someone else in his life.
Before you contact him you need to make a judgment call whether you are willing to become a part of his life again and under what circumstances?
Do you want to start a relationship again even though he may have someone else in his life, if so could you handle the jealousy?
Do you want this to be a long distance relationship, if so then you can't hold what he does when your not with him against him later?
Are you willing, at least for the moment, to have a part time relationship?
These are the biggies, but there are a lot of questions you need to ask yourself before you contact him.
2006-11-17 05:23:06 · answer #1 · answered by jryanwinterhaven 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're still on good terms with him, and there is a possibility of the two of you getting back together again, I think you ought to tell him you miss him, and you wish the two of you were still together. If he feels the same way, it would be silly for the two of you to remain separated, just because neither of you spoke up.
Once you have explained yourself, the ball is in his court. Don't make yourself look needy, by repeatedly bringing up the subject. If you do, and he isn't receptive, he may feel like he's being harassed. If he is receptive, after giving him a little encouragement, you need to back off, and allow him to pursue you, just like you would with a man that you just met.
2006-11-17 13:22:25 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you dont want to get involved in a long term relationship, as your chances of getting hurt or things turning out 'bad', are much higher. I'd say leave things with the same 'happy' ending it had. If he moves in to your state or wiseversa, then think about what this can go.
2006-11-17 13:16:41 · answer #3 · answered by Tony S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should tell him. Us guys are not the best at seeing the emotions that you girls instinctively recognize. He may be feeling the same way. Either way you can still talk, and at least you will know.
2006-11-17 13:17:46 · answer #4 · answered by RubberSoul_61 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound of young age, so if in fact it was by agreement to dissolve, then let it go. Rid of things you gathered while w/ him either by trashing or storing it away from view to assist in clearing your path to your next experience.
2006-11-17 13:18:00 · answer #5 · answered by lopez76g 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say that long distance will be very hard to work out for the both of you. I would say, painful as it may be, that you move on.
2006-11-17 13:17:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with Saint. Give it up and start over.
2006-11-17 13:18:40 · answer #7 · answered by Fifi 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Cut the cord. You'll never get over him any other way.
2006-11-17 13:16:38 · answer #8 · answered by togashiyokuni2001 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be honest.... we (guys) don't do well with mixed signals.... and if you don't want to tell him first, ask him how he feels about you.
2006-11-17 13:18:44 · answer #9 · answered by nite_cap 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep it to yourself - stop calling him
2006-11-17 13:18:52 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋