How do you deal with a sister who claims Christianity but is mean and critical to everyone?

Answer 1

tell her to stop being a jerk...

Answer 2

Actions of being mean and critical need not be relevant to just Christianity. In fact many cultures and societies, whether they be religious or not, look down upon such behaviour. From this, it should be understood that approaching the problem from a Christian viewpoint may not necessarily be the only relevant method.

Arguably, the use of logic is the best way to persuade someones actions. Using logical arguments such as "society doesn't like mean people, therefore it would be beneficial if you were nice" may be an appropriate and neutral way of approaching someone with those personality traits.

However, as each person is individual, it may take a much more personal understanding and approach to that individual in order to deal with them.

Answer 3

Tell her that she is one of the reasons why so many people are turned off by the Christian faith. Do not try to change her with arguments of your own. Simply open up the Bible, and point out those sections which tell her how she as a Christian is supposed to act. Whenever she acts mean and critical, remind her that she is a representative of Christ on earth, and that she is not making him look very good!

Answer 4

tell her firmly but nicely that a good christian does not be mean or critical to any one. a good christian is tolerant of every one. there isn't a perfect person out there and every one has something wrong that we could all be critical off but, we, as good christians, should only look for the good in people. if you can help people to be better, then by all means do so but, if you can't, then don't say anything about those people and just pray for them.

Answer 5

Ask her for information. Tell her you have a friend that is mean and critical of everyone and claims to be a Christian. Tell her you would like her to help you find biblical passages that allows you to repond to this person. Then read them. You see the bible is the information resource. A good bible will send you from one bible chapter to another citing reference, eventually one of these references should hit home.

Answer 6

Matthew 18 - This chapter talks about how to confront a sister in love. Very detailed steps. Prepare ahead of time by finding out what the Bible says about her attitude. check online search Bibles. If she is truly a Christian, she has to respect the Word of God. If you are her sister, and you come to her humbly and in love, she has to accept you as well. If she does not, there are more steps laid out in Matt 18 on what to do next. Humility and prayer are key elements. This is a hard thing to do, but as a Christian sister, it is your duty.

Answer 7

Show her the scripture:

Matt 7:2-5 "For in the same way you judge others [there is the authority to judge], you will be judged [if we judge poorly, we will be judged poorly; if we judge well, we will be judged well], and with the measure you use, it will be measured to you [if we use extremes to manipulate the outcome, extremes will be used on us]. Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brother's eye [point out his sins, "minor" in Jesus' example here] and pay no attention to the plank in your own eye [our own sins, even and especially those we will not see, magnified by our selective blindness]? How can you say to your brother, 'Let me take the speck out of your eye,' [tell him of his "minor" sins] when all the time there is a plank in your own eye [that there are greater or the same sins in our own lives which we do nothing about]? You hypocrite [telling/accusing others of sins while thinking one is above sin], first take the plank out of your own eye [sincerely ask the Lord for forgiveness and learn AND live the Truth and Light by His Word], and then you will see clearly [be in a righteous position] to remove the speck from your brother's eye [to judge and to help him out of his bondage to sin]." At Galilee, the Decapolis, Jerusalem, Judea and the region across the Jordan, Jesus was talking to the multitudes gathered there after hearing of His message and of His healings to beseech them to not become like the pharisees and hypocrites who think they are above sin.

That should shut her up.

Blessed be.

Answer 8

Tell her firmly that while she has the right to believe what she wants to, she is hurting your relationship with her with her hateful words. Depending on your age (ie, do you still live at home or on your own) avoid her if necessary. YOu have to decide. Do you want to stay around your sister and her hateful nature, or will you walk away?

Answer 9

The same way you deal with a sister who claims no religion and is mean and critical to everyone.

Concentrate on your own behavior.

Know what belongs to you and what belongs to others

Keep in mind that her boorishness doesn't reflect on you - unless you allow yourself to be boorish in reaction.

Answer 10

She has no reason NOT to be mean. Christianity doesn't prevent it, nor does it require its followers to be nice.

So you need to find something to prevent her. You can't tell her she'll go to hell if she's not nice, because she probably doesn't believe that. You might try "what would jesus do."

You have to hit her where she lives. Does she care that her actions alienate others? Will she care if she's not included in things?

You might need to really study her for a while to find the best approach.

Answer 11

Ask her to read to you Gal. 5 (Fruit of the Spirit); also 1 Cor. 13. Perhaps it will remind her what behavior is acceptable...and what isn't.