My husband's job just turned into a night job, so we never see each other. He leaves for work before I get home and I leave for work while he's sleeping. It's only been two days, but it's sucks terrible. He's a truckdriver and we live in a very rural area with few jobs. How do I keep from being bitchy and depressed. It's like I'm a single mom (yes, I've been there so I can compare), and I just hate it. We always do everything together, from cooking meals to playing with the kids, homework, entertainment, etc. I feel like crying all evening.
2006-11-17 05:06:23 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
have you ever tried to talk to your husband about this? You can't expect him to read your mind and know your feeling depressed. Talk with your husband and then try to find something you both can be happy about.
2006-11-17 05:08:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Wow, sounds like you are really sad and missing a man who is your best friend. I recently have been through a similar change and I hate it...I miss him so much but we still have more time together than you two do but not as much as we used to.
I am sure you both need the work so telling you to quit is not an option. I feel really sorry for you, you are one of the few out there who really really loves bein with your man and you can't because of stupid money.....
You obviously have a computer....is there any way you get a job working at home...???..Could you do something else to bring in that extra income?...
I have been a single mom too, maybe that makes people like us really appreciate that guy who makes it all okay and makes us miss them even more when they are gone, I dunno.
I guess none of this helps at all, I know a bunch of people are getting rich off ebay which you coud do any time of day....
It has gotten a bit easier for me, has been 6 months but I miss my best friend, alot. I guess the lonliness is why I do this thing!!!!
If you don't absolutely NEED your job, would you consider leaving it?....I hope someone can come up with a good answer, sorry to have wasted your time, just feel for you and wish you luck.
The one good thought I can leave you with is of little help, but think how great it is to love and miss the man when so many married people can't stand eachother and hate spending time together!!!!
2006-11-17 13:27:59 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you're not spoiled and unreasonable, you miss your husband and the quality time you shared. Hopefully you two have same days off, or try to get it that way if you can. You guys have to do what you have to do in order to make a living so different shifts can't be helped, but make the time you do spend together happy and wonderful, don't use it to be depressed and bitchy, it will just bring everyone down.
2006-11-17 13:10:43 · answer #3 · answered by Lovebug123 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try talking to him about this and let him know how much you miss your togetherness. If changing his job is not an option, I would suggest that you take up some kind of hobby to keep yourself busy while home alone. And look forward to the nights he has off so you can spend them with him. Remember the saying "Absence makes the heart grow fonder". It's true.
2006-11-17 13:22:57 · answer #4 · answered by Mandy W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cry while he is gone. Then dry your tears and have a nice, civil talk with him. Instead of making demands, start asking questions and find out if he is happy with this arrangement. Does he have any alternative? If not, then you're going to have to live with it for now. You know, nothing ever stays the same, he will either get tired of it, move on or something will give. Find a way, you can do it.
2006-11-17 13:10:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk with your hubby at a good time about how you feel. A marriage can't last long being apart so much. It's not good for you or the kids......you love him - talk to him about it. I hope it works out for you. It must be tough.
2006-11-17 13:15:26 · answer #6 · answered by Amy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get a sitter sometimes and go with him , like a date
2006-11-17 13:09:14 · answer #7 · answered by szfr8l 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is normal, so just try and stay busy!!!!
2006-11-17 13:09:39 · answer #8 · answered by mustanglady 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋