I cant handle the pain that i have been though..... My boxer Maxine died 11-07-2006. She was my best friend, my dog and my everything. She was always there for me to make me happy when i was down. The other day my b/f was arguing with me and told me that my dog was done and dead, and that really up set me. Just because my dog has died does mean i dont care about her still. Me and my b/f have been together for 2 1/2 years now and he knows how much my dog means to me. If i start to cry from thinking about her my b/f gets piss and is like well what about thor ( thats his dog NOT my dog ) Thor is not the same as my dog. my dog is the reason i am still here today. She was my best friend, my companion, and she was like a kid to me. That dog was my world. What happen was she was really sick and we had an appointment to put her to sleep ( that was the worst decsion i had to make) at 2:45 at 1:30 she was whining real bad like she wanted outside. we took her out there and she diedd in my arms...
2006-11-17
05:03:22
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i would rather not just jump to get a new dog. i feel that if i get a new dog that maxine will think that she is replaced. i couldnt ever replaced her. its kinda like a guilty feeling.
2006-11-17
06:24:08 ·
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you can see pics of her and thor ( his dog) on my web page myspace.com/manist
2006-11-17
06:26:01 ·
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You may mourn your dog for years and never get over missing her, although it does get bearable.
Your b/f is an insensitive s.o.b. Do you really want to be involved with some that shows himself to be so insensitive to your feelings?
2006-11-17 05:36:36
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answered by Stick to Pet Rocks 7
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What I am about to say may sound funny and a lot of people will think I'm wrong. First your boyfriend isn't trying to be mean, Men want to be our protectors and make us happy . They are taught from a very early age to replace emotion with Strength. It makes him feel helpless and less manly if he cant fix it. As for your dog. She loved you very much and I can tell you loved her too. I believe any thing that is capable of love has a spirit. You should go to the pound and in her honor adopt a dog that needs you as much as you need someone to hold and cry to. It would make you feel better because you are helping another dog, it will make the new dog feel better and I am sure if you had so much love for your dog there is some still left over. Make your old dog proud. Later on in a quiet way tell your boyfriend how he made you feel. If he says he is sorry accept it, if he still acts like a jerk dump him...........At least you will still have a new best friend
2006-11-17 06:02:20
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answered by st.lady (1 of GitEm's gang) 6
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I am so sorry to hear that. I had a dog that I had since I was a kid and she died and I was torn apart. You have to look on the brightside of things as hard as it may seem now, I mean look at the time you did have with your dog, and how happy your dog made you. It's pretty sad that your boyfriend is treating you like that, how would he feel if something happened to his dog?! I think you should buy another puppy, I mean No, it wont be like your other dog, but now you can start over with a new dog to make you happy. They won't take the place of the one that died, but maybe it will help ease the pain a little. Be strong and hang in there! 8-)
2006-11-17 05:14:11
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answered by dazed*n*confused 5
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I went to my space (your space) and saw the beautiful picture of Maxine. What a beautiful dog!
One of the hardest places to be is losing a loved pet. Your pet was and is in your heart family. your boyfriend does not want or seems to not know how to handle your grief which is a terrible shame. I lost my black lab Milo 3 years ago and still cry over his loss. It will be with you forever, just time will slowly make it easier. You just do not need the attitude that your boyfriend has now. He should know that one animal CANNOT take the place in ones heart for another. Ask him for his support and if he cannot give it to you perhaps a distance apart until your grieving has begun can you see him again. He truly needs to know how you feel. If he does not, your strentgh must come from in where all your memories of Maxine are.
2006-11-17 05:12:05
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answered by Anonymous
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I am SO sorry. I can only imagine how you feel. I love my dog and to tell you the truth, every time I THINK about her dying I cry. She has been such a great companion to me. Since she was a puppy, when my husband and I fought, she caught my tears. When someone died, she was there, comforting me. When I had surgery, she sat by my side and wouldn't leave me. She sat while I recuperated, letting me brush her over and over because I was bored but still not well enough to get around. When my daughter left for college, she was there, again, catching my tears. She's filled the lonely times for me. And, I know other people have and love THEIR dogs just as much, but it doesn't matter. How can your bf actually expect you to substitute one dog for another? And it's still so soon I would think you still have a lot of grieving to do. Take your time and grieve for your missed friend. If he doesn't understand, maybe it's a sign you should get another bf. good luck.
2006-11-17 05:14:39
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answered by N0_white_flag 5
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I am sorry. The only thing I can say is that as the days go by it will get easier. I had to put my cat that I had since I was 9 to sleep at the beginning of September. I had her for 17 years. She was the only constant in my life. The one thing that was always there when I needed love. (God, I am starting to tear up right now). Trust me. It gets easier. So, cry. But remember Maxine is in a better place with no pain or suffering. This helped me. I hope it helps you.
The Rainbow Bridge
Just this side of heaven is a place called Rainbow Bridge.
When an animal dies that has been especially close to someone here, that pet goes to Rainbow Bridge. There are meadows and hills for all of our special friends so they can run and play together. There is plenty of food, water and sunshine, and our friends are warm and comfortable.
All the animals who had been ill and old are restored to health and vigor. Those who were hurt or maimed are made whole and strong again, just as we remember them in our dreams of days and times gone by. The animals are happy and content, except for one small thing; they each miss someone very special to them, who had to be left behind.
They all run and play together, but the day comes when one suddenly stops and looks into the distance. His bright eyes are intent. His eager body quivers. Suddenly he begins to run from the group, flying over the green grass, his legs carrying him faster and faster.
You have been spotted, and when you and your special friend finally meet, you cling together in joyous reunion, never to be parted again. The happy kisses rain upon your face; your hands again caress the beloved head, and you look once more into the trusting eyes of your pet, so long gone from your life but never absent from your heart.
Then you cross Rainbow Bridge together....
2006-11-17 05:16:06
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answered by christa5533 3
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Oh, I'm so sorry for your loss. You need time to mourn the loss of your dog, and it sounds like your bf isn't very compassionate about that. Some people don't "get" how attached some of us can get to our pets...they really are our best friends. Don't let anybody make you feel guilty for grieving for Maxine. Take all the time you need and remember, you'll always have your really great memories of her.
Big hug!
2006-11-17 05:10:52
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answered by Lee 7
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I'm so sorry for your loss. It's a horrible thing when a member of your family passes away. Just remember, she's in doggy heaven now where there is no pain, plenty of room to run and play and the chew toys and puppy snacks are unlimited! Sounds to me like you should rethink the boyfriend though. If this is how he acts when a member of your family (and dogs are members of our families) dies, how is he going to act when a person passes, like a mother, father or child. Sounds pretty uncaring to me.
2006-11-17 05:12:39
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answered by Mamadog 3
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My baby girl puppy died 11/14. Someone on here gave me some great advice: Talk to her! When you're alone, talk to her out loud, or write her a letter, or something of the sort. Its really helped me.
As for your boyfriend, he sounds like an ***. I'm sure he has his reasons for getting so mad, but he needs to understand that you need time to grieve. If I were you, I'd be rethinking my relationship with him. What if years down the road your mother died (God forbid), what's he gonna say 'Well you've still got my mom, she's just as good'?
2006-11-17 06:21:51
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answered by Courtney 2
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I ;m so sorry you lost your dog; and sorry your boyfriend doest understand' Yes it hurts to lose them ;I lost pets before ;I THINK HE JUST GETS UPSET that your sad about it and he doesn't know what to do to help you' that's ashame he can't ;some people can just move on fast some can;t were all different . thats like having two children you loose one and thankfull you still have the other one but you will still greive for the one you lost, show him are answers ;it may help? maybe
2006-11-17 05:21:17
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answered by deedee 4
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