My daughter is 4 and she is half black and spanish! At what age could I begin to use a hair straightener?

Question

Only wanting to do this because she is exstremely tenderheaded and I feel bad having to comb out her hair everday! She has very tight curls!

And no I am not ashamed of my daughter and who she is and I am not trying to change who she is! It's a comfort thing because she has a fear that comes over her when its time to comb out her hair! I love her hair!

Answer 1

It is tough, but the only thing straightening will show her is to be ashamed of herself. It sounds extreme, but by changing things about her, you're telling her that it's not OK to be who she is. It may be tough on her to have to comb it out everyday, but teach her to appreciate her beautiful curls first, so she can be secure in herself. Between ages 3 and 7 are the most critical times for self-esteem.

Answer 2

I know you feel extremely bad about having to comb out your daughters hair everyday, but putting a relaxer in it will damage it. I'm a black female that had very long thick curly hair as a child. My mother didn't relax my hair, instead I had to bear with the pain over time. My hair turned out to be longer and very healthy over the years because she made the choice to stick with me getting it Hot combed every two or three weeks. You should find a good hair dresser that does Hot combing on kids hair. There are plenty of beauticians that do, and some mothers even do it at home themselves. This would be a better choice than you relaxing it right now. Relaxing hair has it's pros and cons. The pros is that it's more manageable, and it's a lot straighter if you have naturally curly or thick hair. The cons is that it takes a lot more maintenance to keep it healthy because of the harsh chemicals relaxers put on hair. It's really up to you in the end to decide what you feel you need to go with. Take care!

Answer 3

The best product to use for such a young child is an oil-based substance that is especially designed for very thick and curly hair and this will straighten it but I cannot remember what the product is called, but serum is a really great product and is child-friendly.

Even young children can feel conscious of their appearnace about the age of around six onwards and if her hair is particularly very thick, then I don't see why she should have to endure the weight of it when there are products about that will change this.

Serum is the best product of all even though it is expensive to buy. I don't see how straightening her hair is going to make her feel ashamed of her culture and beautiful skin colour? - if anything, she would feel a lot better that her hair isn't going to have to much bulk and weight to it and where some children bully other children if they stand out in any way and so, you are wanting your child to feel proud of who she is by making the most of her hair that as gorgeous as curls are, do need to be controlled a little .

Six years old is the best time to start straigthening her hair because at this age, she will be in primary school and many parents straighten their children's hair when there is too much weight to it as children often feel self-conscious having too much thick hair anyway.

I think you are doing the right thing by wanting to straighten it and serum is a really great product to start with and doesn't have chemicals in it that will harm a child.

Answer 4

I would recommend avoiding the hair straightener until/unless your daughter chooses it for herself. Repeatedly straightening hair (especially very curly hair that requires a lot of heat) can damage it over time, and also might be traumatic to a young child if she squirms and is accidentally burned. Rather than trying to comb her hair out when it is dry, try applying a lot of conditioner and using a wide toothed comb before rinsing the conditioner out. You'll have to be gentle so as not to break the wet hair, but getting the tangles out should be _much_ easier with the hair wet and slippery. Brushing it when dry will probably just cause a lot of frizz, so you may just want to use a gentle gel or pomade on the damp hair to keep it from turning into a big nest as she plays. You can also try keeping her hair shorter to make maintenance easier; it also gives a cute and sassy look.

Answer 5

Wrap her hair at night this will straighten it naturally. Basically you take the hair and wrap it around the head using bobby pins to hold sections in place. After which you wrap the head in a scarf or bandana so it doesn't come out at night while she sleeps.
You could also use curlers but being that she is very young it will probably be to uncomfortable for her, unless you have a hair blower with a cap.
Good Luck

Answer 6

Don't comb her hair as much!!! And don't even think about combing it when it's dry!!! That way it will be frizzy and you'll dismantle her curls.

Comb it when you bath her, while she has conditioner on. It will be much easier for you and less painful to her. Choose a comb with a few wide and well spread teeth.

Answer 7

Let her be natural, she's just a child. If you have difficulty combing her hair,try deep conditioners,and wide toothed combs. her tender scalp would fry if you used a straightener...theres always the solution of keeping her hair a bit shorter as well...

Answer 8

I don't feel that if you put a perm in your daughter's hair that you are changing her. For those of us that really have daughters that are tender haired I do understand your problem. Only people that don't have children, who don't have daughters, who don't have to get up every morning and have to deal with combing her hair will say such silly things like that.

I say take her to a perfessional and ask them. Non of us can see if your daughter has healthy hair and if it will be able to stand the perm.

I truly understand.

Answer 9

Lol i'm a similar blend (West Indian and Hispanic), only diverse islands. My mom is from the Dominican Republic, my father is from Saint Kitts (its the smallest autonomous u . s . contained in the western hemisphere so that you probable havent heard of it). Rank Jeff, what you talkin bout? Jamaicans blend with different nationalities each and each and every of the time. In ny, London and Miami there are MADD those who're mixed Jamaican and suttin' else. Jamaican and Hispanic isn't uncommon in any respect, there is alotta those who're mixed Jamaican and Hispanic.

Answer 10

My sister has a daughter with tight curls too, she uses the straightner also. I don't think age is an issue, if she can take it on her tender little head, make her happy as you can now. Good luck.