2006-11-17 04:34:01 · 4 answers · asked by Brian R 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
give him a special job. sit down and explain to him how much work it takes to raise a baby. it's not that you love the baby more, or him any less, it's just that it takes more time and attention since it is helpless and small. He needs to be proud to be a big brother. There are tapes you can buy of various cartoon shows that deal with the "big brother/sister" issues. I know my brother was upset when my sister was going to be born, but he got over it when he realized how "big" he was and how big of a helper he could be.
2006-11-17 04:37:35 · answer #1 · answered by Amanda SSS 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That must be hard for him! He was the center of your world for 8 years and now he will soon have to share you. He is feeling powerless right now, and knows that he will no longer be your baby. Start showing him some positive attention by saying things like "You did that by yourself! You did your homework so neatly! Look how high you can climb! You used so many colors on your picture!" Let him know that you notice him. This is a great way to show attention will help him to gain some confidence, and help him to feel powerful in a positive way.
Show him some empathy. I can tell you’re feeling (worried, upset, left out). What can we do about that? Make sure he understands that no matter what you will always love him. Check through Amazon or your local library for some age appropriate books for him about new siblings. It will better prepare him for what to expect.
Tell him that he is so lucky because he is going to be a big brother (maybe even get him a big brother shirt). He can do so much more than a baby because he is older. Make sure you take time everyday to show you're love. When baby is sleeping, read him a story, do an art project, play a game, and things that show he is the "big boy" (he can help mom make snacks or dinner, and help with the baby...getting a diaper, let him pick out baby's outfit...) If he keeps getting messages like these, he should start to feel more confident in his new world. Congratulations and best of luck to you!
2006-11-17 05:28:45 · answer #2 · answered by marnonyahoo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to your local library or a book store and get a couple books on a new baby coming. They should have a few books that are geared towards children your sons age. You may be able to find a book that helps you to understand what your son is feeling and how best to deal with it.
One suggestion that I have would be to spend as much time with him as you can now. Also find ways to let him know that he will be very helpful with the baby, whether it be helping push the stroller or holding the baby. Make sure he feels proud to be a big brother.
2006-11-17 04:40:46 · answer #3 · answered by Becky R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
include him-let him help w/ lil things and reassure him u luv him so much that he says i know mom and dad.keep scooping him up and hug and kiss him a million times. tell him now you will have some one to help teach every thing you know.happy holidays.
2006-11-17 11:34:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋