My dad wont let me go out and im nearly fifteen!
most of my freinds go out to a club called mattice and my dad just wont let me go !!
does anyone know how i can convince my dad to let me go without him gettin mad at me and grounding me!
please help!
2006-11-17 04:28:11 · 40 answers · asked by [♥x_Zoeey_x♥] 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You can't. That's his job. When you learn to act like a mature woman, you will probably be treated like one. At 14 years old, you are not one.
2006-11-17 04:30:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
As you are only 14 what on earth are you doing going to a club. I'm not surprised that your dad doesn't want you to go. Your dad is not being overprotective he is just being a kind and loving parent.
If you like your dad to stop being overprotective then you have to prove to him that you are responsible and you can be trust worthy, because if you start proving this to him now when you reach the age of 16/17 then he will already know that he can trust you and then when you want to go then there won't be the fights and arguments.
Don't grow up too fast
2006-11-17 06:39:24 · answer #2 · answered by Baps . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's only acting like that because he cares, you should feel thankful for him caring about you so much. Isn't it illegal to go clubbing at your age anyway? If this club allows 14 year olds in, then suggest he take you and your friends there, and picks you up later, this might make him feel more relaxed with the idea, or if not you can invite your friends round yours or just go to the cinema and for a pizza, if your with real friends it will be just as much fun as going clubbing, u can have a laugh together.
2006-11-17 05:07:55 · answer #3 · answered by pinky 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl, I know how you feel. You are experiencing "Teenage Lockdown" and I know it ain't nothin fun. Your dad thinks you're too young to go out and you're stuck at home while all your friends are out. What you need to do is let him know you are trustworthy. That is the main reason why he won't let you do as much. Older people know what kids are doing these days and he doesn't want his daughter to have anything happening to her. I don't about the club scene but just let him know you aren't going to do anything wild. Start doing chores around the house and let him know you are responsible and doing what you are supposed to be doing. Maybe if you show him you are mature he'll ease up on you...just wait and see, it'll get better.
xoxo
b and b
2006-11-17 04:34:26 · answer #4 · answered by ♥Chocol@t3 K!$$3$♥ 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Im 14 and i have the same problem but with my mum. I still love her for it cos i know shes only trying to look out for me but what you have to do is just show him that you are resposible and he has to start letting you take care of yourself. After all we are young women now :)! If he tells you to be in at a certain time dont argue and try and get back a bit early. Others small things like that will help him to see that you do take into account what he says and that you are mature and responsible! Hope that helped!!!
2006-11-17 04:33:01 · answer #5 · answered by ? 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Speaking as a Dad! I think some of the answers are very good. You need to talk to him and ask him what you need to do for him to earn your trust; perhaps if one of your friends have parents who are Friends with yours they might be persuaded to speak on your behalf or with you and your friend in attendance.
If you do get the "the pass" make sure that you don't abuse it. Maybe your dad will let you out but want you back earlier than you would like but you could build on it.
Don't forget - your dad loves you and is concerned for your safety.
2006-11-17 05:10:50 · answer #6 · answered by costa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on what sort of club it is. If its a club with older people in there then i can understand him but If its a under 15 club tell him what time it finishes and will you be going with sensible friends. Suggest he takes you and your friends there and then picks you up at a agreed time. Even if you go for a couple of hours. get a friend he likes to talk to him about the club the next she or him comes round.
2006-11-17 04:37:38 · answer #7 · answered by Ding Dong 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hey there,
im the same way with my dad, i will be turning 15 in literally a month but he still doesn't trust me. hes way to overprotective, he wont even let me go over my boyfriends house to hang out. All you have to do is try and be resposible, do some cleaning around the house without your rents asking and go for walks to show your parents that your independant and dont really need them. Have long talks with your parents even if its about absolutely nothing, just try and make friends with your parents even if its complete bull. You'll get more of what you want.
-liz
2006-11-17 04:36:16 · answer #8 · answered by LizF 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm sorry sweetie, Daddies are always overprotective of their little girls. The only thing you can do is show him that you are mature and trustworthy by being responsible. I know you are feeling like a prisoner right now, but you will be an adult in 3 years, so just try to understand that Daddy just wants to keep you safe. But if you are responsible and mature, he will slowly start releasing the reins. Hang in there!
2006-11-17 04:34:10 · answer #9 · answered by justcurious 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hey try looking at things from your dads point of view...he has a loverly girl who he wants to protect...i dont blame him....i live in dublin and as for ten yrs ago it was safe and now even i dont go out alone and i have 2 black belts and compete in europe...so dont be hard on him as if something bad happens to you he will never forgive himself...i hope your always be safe...we all went thru what you are now and we look back and thank our parents for keeping us safe...and hey you can do anything in 3 yrs..and as for the club if you are caught the place gets shut down with a fine and the staff all lose there jobs and you ruin the fun for all the right aged people pluss the doorstaff get fined and can never work again on a door and all because you want to be grown up...your a kid so be one as when its gone thats it. and what happens to a bloke who meets you and buys you drink and kisses you or you give him the eye he gets branded a pedo and jailed. get a head on girl lol
2006-11-17 04:42:20 · answer #10 · answered by james t 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to prove that you are mature enough to go out... if that doesn't work then try ro reason with him (without getting mad), tell him that you are not baby and you feel that's how you are being treated. How can you gain his trust if he never lets you do anything? Ask your mom to talk to him. But, when he finally lets you, don't get into trouble or he'll never let you out again! But, once you get your drivers license it will be a lot easier on you! goodluck.
2006-11-17 04:32:54 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋