I am going out with this guy and this other girl asked him out and he said yes and we are still together and he still is going out with that other girl and I want to be with him still. What do I do?
*This all happened yesterday*
2006-11-17 04:24:46 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Time to open up the relationship and date whomever you want to. What's fair for the goose is fair for the gander so to speak. And it is obvious that even though you and he are datig, he does nto consider it to be a relationship that is binding him so neither is it tying you down.
If you whine or make a fuss or get all pouty or whatever to try to get him to not see others than you are just goign to drive him away. And if you sit around waiting for him to be yours, you are goig to waste valuable time you coudl be out enjoyign yoruself with other people. Who knows maybe if you date a few other guys you will find one who is way better than the present one anyway.
So, forget hanging onto that which is not ready to be hung onto.
2006-11-17 04:30:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask yourself some basic questions. Why are you willing to put up with someone treating you badly? What in your past brought you to this point? What choices have you made that turned out badly for you and how could you have chosen to get better results.
Taking stock once in awhile is important to be able to learn from past mistakes.
Not knowing you personally, it is hard to be specific but I think you may have low self esteem, maybe think you cannot find someone to treat you right. You need to understand that some people are users, looking to take advantage of others for their own comfort. Maybe take some time off AFTER you dump this jackass to look at your choices so far. You deserve better treatment but it is up to you to make sure this doesn't happen to you again.
2006-11-17 12:31:34 · answer #2 · answered by Rich B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a guy myself and I know that what he is doing is wrong, but at the same time, I feel myself rooting for him a little bit. I know this is bad of me but I'm a guy too so forgive me. As far as what you should do, I think you can do much better. He obviously doesnt respect you or care for you if he has two gf's at the same time. Break up with him, it'll be hard but eventually you'll get over him and one day you'll be thankful that you did. Goodluck and keep you head up!
2006-11-17 12:39:52 · answer #3 · answered by abby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be naive about this situation. I am going to assume that this is one of the first real relationships that you have been in. With that being said, I would break up with him right away. Don't even make him choose between you and the other girl, he is dating. There are plenty of other guys that would love to be with you and just you.
2006-11-17 12:32:58 · answer #4 · answered by kwdayo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should leave this guy alone or if you still want to be with him go ahead but do not take him serious see other guys as well yet does it not bother you he is seeing that other girl and you at the same time
2006-11-17 12:30:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First analyse why u wanna be with him still. I guess even u know its senseless to stick around with such a guy.U say u still want to be with him, from that I can conclude that maybe is a cute guy and thats why u want to be around him, maybe he makes u laugh n bein with him makes u proud. In this case u need to understand that u dont need to be so obsessed with one guy, unless he's commited to u, but the fact is he's not.
2006-11-17 12:34:56 · answer #6 · answered by vio_prince 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let him know how you feel! how you feel about him, and probably how you are hurt he is going out with someone else too! Did he tell you that he was going out with someone else too? Cause if not tell him how that hurt him. Either way, let him know! Let him know that you want to stay together but this might have to change if he keeps this cheating up
2006-11-17 12:27:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all you need to speak to your boyfriend and confront him. If he lies about it and tries to make out its not his fault then give him one slap and dump him. However, if you do still wanna be with him and he admits to it and says hes sorry then by all means work on your relationship. As long as he promises it was a one off and it won't happen again as you are the apple of his eye! :)
2006-11-17 12:29:35 · answer #8 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He wants his cake and eat it too! Did you mention this to him? Seems as it doesnt even bother him. hoe long have you been with him? You are in love with him arent you? If he going to be with her and you too, he is only playing you two! as the saying go aroung and shop around! Go out with other guys too, dont just sleep with them either.I bet he is with her more than you right? You are much better than he is, and show him that, it will hurt but you dont need that. And if he may be sleeping with her too, and you may no about it, and if he is and isnt protecting himself, and then with you, he may get something. good luck!!
2006-11-17 12:31:01 · answer #9 · answered by karen j 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your boyfriend is not worth the trouble. He is obviously not ready for a serious relationship. You need to dump him quickly. Grieve for the loss of your relationship. Pick yourself up and begin dating again. Be selective in who you let in your life. Don't pick the same type of guy again.
2006-11-17 12:27:07 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋