2006-11-17 04:10:16 · 10 answers · asked by Mexie 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
you could pick her up take her out to lunch and tell her you need to pick up some groceries, you pickup some pantry staples and let her shop or suggest why dont we spend the evening making dinner together and leave her with ALL the groceries.
Borrow her car when she comes over (make a lame excuse like I dont want to take mine out from garage) run out to gas station and fill up her tank. little things like that .....from time to time.
2006-11-17 05:57:56 · answer #1 · answered by entelectual h 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she really is a good friend, you should not have to worry. Help however you can. Cash is always good, and a gift certificate to the grocery store would be fine.
Fill her car with gas, bring her over for a meal, drive her to job interviews, take her grocery shopping. do so as your budget and the amount of time you have allows.
The anonymous gift thing is very nice, but I would not. It might leave someone thinking why their best friend did not help out in a time of need. You can do the same thing by insisting she not thank you, and just tell her, "you are my friend". And a hug would not hurt.
2006-11-17 19:03:50 · answer #2 · answered by riversconfluence 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe more information is needed to accurately answer this question.
I know my friend had this issue with her mother and she found out a credit card and called them, stating she wanted to pay off this card for her mother, she did this also with her Electric, Gas, and Water.
The thing with a prideful friend is you have to get creative and a little sneaky.
The other way around this is offer to take her to lunch or coffee, and sit down and discuss it with her. You can tell her that she's an amazing friend and you'd really like to re-pay her by helping her out a little (if she has kids, then you can purchase items for the children). Tell her that it means very much to you and that she'd be doing you a favor by her allowing this, even if it's just a little.
2006-11-17 14:47:46 · answer #3 · answered by Heather S 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Too bad pride doesn't make money huh? I know some people who have sooooo much pride and have nothing... it is amazing!!
Anyway... how about doing something "anonymously" I help people out who have no clue I did. No reason for anyone to know what I do for others just as long as I feel they are worthy of it and I see that they carry on in the way I expected.
2006-11-17 12:34:35 · answer #4 · answered by Kitty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with most of the posters before me. Find out what kind of things he/she likes to eat. And bring them over. Being a supportive friend and having patience is very important when you're going through tough times. Usually when people are having problems they tend to isolate themselves from the world to not feel like they are being a burden, so checking up on him/her would make them feel important and possibly be more pumped up about making changes in their life to get out of the rut they're in. Like a poster said, if there's an addiction problem, you might want to take different measures, but remember, pride before downfall. Sometimes we have to put our pride aside to move forward.
2006-11-17 12:29:41 · answer #5 · answered by bettybobetty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The envelope full of money idea is pretty good, but teach a man to fish and they eat for a lifetime. Help drive this friend to job interviews and help her look over her resume. Getting a good job helps self esteem.
Also, an envelope full of food stamps a box of canned food is better than money because is is not possible to abuse this sort of charity. Perhaps you know this person and my advice is unnecessary, but I have been in similar situations where drugs and alcohol were involved and you simply can't give them money.
2006-11-17 12:23:42 · answer #6 · answered by Wise1 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My friend recently lost her job and broke up with the guy she was working for. Now, she is dire straits and has no savings.
I emailed her and asked if she needed money. Also, when we meet for lunch or dinner, I pick up the tab saying that when she gets back on her feet, she'll treat.
If your friend is out of work, help with the resume and with leads for employment. I would tell her/him that you can be counted on to help in times of need. A big hug will seal the deal.
2006-11-17 12:18:26 · answer #7 · answered by Juanitaville 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Don't make a big deal of it and make like Nike and Just Do It. If she has a lot of pride, she might not ask you and might not take the offer if you ask - so just do it and act like its no big thing.
2006-11-17 12:17:13 · answer #8 · answered by JesseD 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In times of great need in our life, mysterious letters containing gift certificates for food, and sometimes cash, appeared in our mail. While we thought we might know who sent them, we were not sure, but just thankful to receive these gifts. You could mail them from another city so that the postmark does not show your city, and use her addess in both the return address area and in the mail-to area.
2006-11-17 12:14:11 · answer #9 · answered by puppybarnes 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Invite her over for dinner and send her home with leftovers.
2006-11-17 12:15:05 · answer #10 · answered by drshorty 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋