Well I waited for my special somone and married at 29. It was arranged marriage. Things didnt turn up right. He turned emotionally, verbally and physically abusive after 3months. But still I developed love for him in the 6 months we stayed together. I am a person who always believed that there is supposed to be only one person in your life to whom u give everything of yours, and still do feel so and will never marry again or get into another relationship.I tried to talk things out. But he misunderstands everyword I say. I walked out of the marriage,but he still haunts me in my thoughts. He was very loving and caring at times and then he would turn so bad. Its been 2.5 months I left him,but have not been able to forget. I try to divert my mind and succeed most of the times..as I am pregnant and dont want my depression to hurt my unborn baby...so I try to laugh with my parents who are very supportive...just when i think that I've forgotten the bad times...I suddenfeel a very .....
2006-11-17 04:08:14 · 11 answers · asked by 28March2007 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
like crying, headache and pain in my chest which is very uncomfortable, is this sign of depression? dont want to go to phsych.
2006-11-17 04:10:02 · update #1
I made myself madly busy with my thesis work as I have to finish it before my baby arrives..but still I can't get over it.
2006-11-17 04:24:11 · update #2
When you say this was an "arranged marriage", I assume you are from a different culture. I find it interesting that so many reported domestic violence cases in the USA seem to involve families that have come from other cultures/countries.
I'm not making any judgements about this; it's just an observation. And I'm not implying that there isn't plenty of domestic violence in homes of American born families, there certainly is.
But I seriously question your belief that "there is supposed to be only one person in your life to whom u give everything...". Look around you and you will see countless examples of people finding their second choice for romance/relationships much more fulfilling, loving and supportive than their first!
It's because we all grow as human beings. We aren't the people we were five or ten years ago....thank goodness! And as we grow, we find out more about ourselves, people in general, and our choices, and hopefully we become wiser. So the person we might choose to be with at 20 years old isn't necessarily the person we'd choose at 30 or 35. And this isn't only because we change, but because we become better judges of other peoples' character.
And to think that because you found yourself with a violent, emotionally immature man the first time in a marriage, you can never have anything better is appalling! You deserve better than that, and so does your child.
But the feelings you are describing don't sound like depression to me. They sound like the symptoms of grieving....greiving for a love lost, grieving for the family you thought you were creating, and grieving for your innocence that was so cruelly torn from you. It will take time to heal these wounds, as it takes time to heal from all deep loss. But you can heal, and you can move on, and you can find more in life to enjoy, celebrate and in which to find hope and contentment.
I wish you all good things.
2006-11-17 04:47:31 · answer #1 · answered by PacificArts72 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are displaying signs of anxiety and some depression. Going to see a therapist is not as scary as you think. I felt the same way you do for a while and was embarrassed and ashamed to seek the help of the professional. It was the biggest mistake, eventually my depression progressed as far as thoughts of suicide. Then I finally gave in to my friends who insisted on me getting help. Since I have become a much more confident and happier person, broke away from an abusive relationship and haven't had a single anxiety attack in last 7 months.
Everything is going to be OK. Don't let this break you.
2006-11-17 04:18:57 · answer #2 · answered by SnowJinx 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a cat.
Studies show that cats heal depression. SCIENTIFIC FACT.
Pets help a lot with depression. They love you pretty much unconditionally, and seem to notice when you're sad and try their best to comfort you. Cats are great with children (too small to hurt them anyway, and no cat scratch will ever require stitches like a dog bite), and if you get the kitten around the time the baby is born, so they grow up together, they will develop a powerful bond.
Cats are awesome.
Don't turn to meds like prozac etc; use symptom treating meds for the headaches etc (actually, it'd be best to stay completely clean of medication while pregnant), but don't let your body become reliant on drugs unless you're so depressed that you may hurt yourself of the baby. Work through it like you know you can.
Oorah!
2006-11-17 04:12:49 · answer #3 · answered by fishthevile 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Over the last five years I had begun to have increasingly withdraw into a downward spiral of depression..
But now with the method I can fully focus my energy and thoughts into a decisive line on how to make my life better constantly. And it works like magic! I'm beginning to attract people to me once again and things have just been looking up since then.
Helping you eliminate depression?
2016-05-16 08:32:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry to hear about your case. What should not have happened has already happened. There is mistrust between you and your exhusband though you tried to to clear it. Since you have liked each other andcared for eachother try to convince him by telling him about your pregnancy. He may change and start liking you again and the strained relationship and broken marriage could once again come active. If he doent agree at all , dont loose heart and make friendhip with another guy and be happy with your parents.
2006-11-17 04:18:55 · answer #5 · answered by khayum p 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
enjoy being single for a while, fall in love with yourself, because no matter who comes and goes in your life, you will always be there!
people think they are obligated to get married and have children, which is not the case.. marriage and children are optional.
you weren't with this guy very long, and I'm assuming that since it was arranged, you did not know him previous to your marriage either.
instead of blaming yourself, just open your mind to the possibility that he is not the one for you, you will have to find "the one" on your own, he can't be appointed to you.
i hope that helps!
2006-11-17 04:24:34 · answer #6 · answered by Fluffington Cuddlebutts 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he really cared he would come to you even though you left. My X feiancee left me for another. She is on her fifth husband. I have been married 36 years. You didn't have Mr. Right or Mr. special, He's still out there. Don't dwell on the past and plan on your future.
2006-11-17 04:53:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well to tell you the truth this is just a faze in your life things will be okay Everything happens for a reason God did not put that person in your life for nothing there is a blessing there you just have to look for it. Keep your head up things will turn out for the best!
2006-11-17 04:15:56 · answer #8 · answered by socerchic2007 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
This is a very good blog, a beginner’s guide to abnormal psychology.
Short, clear and simple; and you can even post your question and contact the author regarding particular subject you are interested in
http://sensitive-psychoworld.blogspot.com/
2006-11-17 05:52:02 · answer #9 · answered by LIz 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You need to see a doctor to check for a chemical imbalance. Seek counseling, keep busy.
2006-11-17 04:25:21 · answer #10 · answered by nanny4hap 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋