i was with this guy for 2yrs and he cheated on me and now i dont want t meet anyone becuz i feel that they are

Answer 1

You have been hurt really bad and since you have had an abortion when you were all ready 4 months along(seen from previous answers you have given), you must be having some serious internal demons Next time you get pregnant consider this: The brain begins to develop 25 DAYS after conception(after you get knocked up) Neurons develop at an astonishing rate between the 5th and 20th week. At four months that baby all ready had hair and eyebrows and had begun to grow rapidly, with in another month you could of felt your baby kick his or her little legs. SInce brain development was well under way don't be stupid and think this growing human didn't feel any pain.\
Get your life on track and start making better decisions. Start by having some pride in yourself and quit using names with pimp in it. It's riduclous. Yeah , Yeah I know, you don't care what anybody thinks of you...

Answer 2

Actually the fact is next guy may do the same or may not. You know it is a matter of probability. There are fewer people who behave like this. If you choose randomly and without checking the characteristics then may be the 4th or 5th guy (if you go that far) would cheat you again. That means 2nd guy should be safe.
Now if you don't choose randomly, and check a guy's character watchfully then select him then chance of getting a fair person will certainly be higher.
Now one more last time when you choose this person you did not have the experience of how an apparently good guy becomes a cheater. Fact is may be at that time he was not a cheater. After a passage of time he lost interest in you and cheat you. Whatever it is know you know better than last time.
So start to meet them and watch them carefully. I don’t see any harm meeting them. But before you decide or choose you try to use the lesson you learnt through experience.
Also there are other factors.. Check why that guy cheated you; you become less romantic or less attentive. You were too busy with others (may be inside you were ok, but apparently not).
If anything like that be careful next time with you too.
One last thing normally people look at things from their own point of view. Look at thing from that guy’s point of view. Then gather all the information, be brave and start meeting guys again.
But before do all this things take a suitable interval. If you let the time pass, you will see all the words I have written above becomes useless and unnecessary to you and time make you feel like a new without the wound.
My mother tongue is not English, so a bit difficult for me to express what I want to. Still I try.

Answer 3

You really cared for this guy and he betrayed you. It is hard some times in relationships because you put your trust in people and at times they may not have your best interest at heart. No one likes getting hurt, but don't give up because someone did you wrong. You have to believe that you are special and that someone will eventually see it. You cannot let one person ruin your whole outlook on life because there are good people out there. Take some time for yourself, get it back together and then get back out there and try again. Be open with the next person as to your feelings and let them know up front that you have been cheated on in the past. By doing this you open the lines of communication. It also puts the person on notice as to what behavior you will not accept. Just know that you are not the only one this has happened too. You will meet someone new and at that time you will have to have the right frame of mind.

So good luck and don't give up.

Answer 4

I know it must have hurt a lot to find out that the person you cared so much about didn't feel the same way about you. However, take some time to let pain go away and the gradually ease back into the swing of things. It is not good to comdemn the many for the actions of a few. All guys are not allike. There are some very good ones out there. They are few and far between but they are out there.

My mom always said there is a berry for every bird. She's right. It just takes time to find the right one. You will.

Answer 5

Fear of the future is a sad dilemma, but fear of what the future may hold with respect to relationships; is probably the worst. Are you willing to live in fear for the rest of your life, worrying that you may get hurt in a relationship; then seal the door now and never venture into the world again. It is in the Human nature of men and women to hurt those they love; Mankind is a savage creature bent on destruction. Relationships are trial and error, like learning to ride a bike, or a horse, when you fall off you get back on until you have gotten the better of the situation; if, however you never get back on, you'll never learn to ride.
All you have to really do in the future is prepare yourself for the event; remember what has happened; without harping on the past venture bravely into the future.
Put together a small questionnaire, regarding the things you didn't like about your last relationship, and again without harping on what that last relationship was like; seek out the best person for the position. After all relationship meetings are like job interviews.
Good Luck in your next interview.

Answer 6

Because you feel that they are what? All the same? I've felt that way too if that's what your asking about. I was cheated on by my first love and that hurt more than anything. I don't get why guys cheat really, if they want to do that they should just break up with you instead of making you look like one of those stupid girls that doesn't have a clue right? But anyway, I was VERY VERY timid about getting into any relationships after being hurt like that but eventually you learn to trust again. The guy i'm dating now is amazing and I love him to death. You just need time to get over it like anything else..you'll make it i promise!

Answer 7

Are all your fingers the same size. No right. Same way no two people are alike. You had a bad relationship but that does not mean that everyone you meet is going to be bad. You made an error in judgment of your lover. He must have told you in so many ways that he was cheating on you. but you remained oblivious to what he said You must try to get that negativity out of your head or you will face real problems in life

Answer 8

It's time for you to take a break from the dating scene. I too, felt the same way you did, not all men are cheats. Just don't get serious about anyone right now, have fun and move on. Guys cheat because women let them, we forgive them, take them back and then they do it again. If all the women stuck together on this one, and didn't put up with cheating, guys wouldn't do it, they'd have no one around them.

Answer 9

They are what? Going to cheat. This is the way I look at it, its 2006. If a person is going to cheat they are going to cheat whether its going good or bad. You at least have to give them a chance to prove themselves. Not everybody cheats. I always say if she cheats that's good at least I know how she is. Don't dwell on it and don't take it out on anyone you get with in the future. It happened and it might happen again, but at least now you'll be a little more prepared. Where one door closes ten more open, that's the good thing about dating. Good luck with everything.

Answer 10

We'll this guy has totally shut down all your trust, honesty and loyalty to anyone else. WHat you need to do is take some time for yourself and let yourself heal. I have a coworker who after her husband did her wrong, she divorced and stayed single for the rest of her life. she likes being free and at peace, and not deal with the one day cheating or lying or decieving man. Just take sometime to heal and get family support.