Why are parents letting their kids run wild?

Question

In a world that we live in today,Why are parents allowing such behavior from their children? In my day the parents would demand respect but the child also felt compassion to give respect.Teenage pregnancy,drugs,alcohol and all the sexual transmitted diseases today why are the parents letting the children run the household?,,And before any one ask,,yes,,, I have 2 girls 16 and 13 and they DO NOT act out in these ways.

Answer 1

I believe parents are to busy trying to be there kids friends instead of being there parents. Parents are afraid to displine there children they way they should... They need morales and displine installed in them from day one..

I was in target the other day and heard a girl talking she had to be about 16yr telling her friend her parents put a alarm on her window so she would stop sneaking out!!!! HELLO....and she is pissed.. I say good for the parents...

Its just amazing to me all the crap out there kids need a kick n the *** to straigthen up.. I have 4 kids one daughter and they KNOW that they will get a *** kicking if they cross the line.

Answer 2

People have changed their view of discipline for children in the last 10 years. No longer are children seen as "children" that need to learn how to behave - they are seen as little adults who should have the opportunity to make their own choices. Some parents have the philosophy that children have the ability to reason between two choices and determine the consequences, and decide rationally what would be the best choice. Some adults don't even have that ability - why would children who have never been taught that ability suddenly pick it up? A toddler does not understand the long term effects of bad decisions. Spanking is a more "direct and quick" consequence to the erroneous decisions that can be made by a toddler. I do believe in spanking my 2-5 year old child. I don't care if you give me a thumbs down for my belief. The child should not be hit out of anger or anywhere except the hand or the bum. Some parents can not control their children because they are too lazy or softhearted to put real time consequences into action. Unfortunately, these parents are doing their children alot more harm than good. For those of you who believe spanking is abuse, I say NOT spanking is abuse. How can we expect our children to make good law abiding citizens if they don't learn to follow the rules as a young child. And yes, it is very annoying to see children running rampant. Not only because it puts me out, but because I wonder what the child will grow up to be.

Answer 3

I've noticed this too helping out with my significantly younger (10 yrs) sister's school activities. I'm only in my 20's, but was raised to respect my elders and obey my parents. I was not perfect by far, but the lack of respect drives me nuts! I think it has a lot to do with lazyness and priorities. In today's society most families have two working parents or single parents, and after a long day at work, they'd rather just ignore the "crimes" or let someone else solve them (nanny, daycare or school teacher) than take the time and energy to discipline and train their kids themselves. In many cases the nanny/daycare or school teacher can't do nearly as much as the parents can because the student to teacher ratio is so incredibly high when compared to the child to parent ratio. Parents have got to decide which is more important; their career or well behaved, well rounded, sociable, healthy children. You can have both, but your children and family have to be your first priority and that's not how it is much anymore. They have to make time for their kids and teach them right from wrong themselves, just like they make time to finish a big project for work.

Answer 4

I personally believe that the biggest problem with the way children behave is because the power has been taken away from the parents and given to the children and the adults who work with them. I have two children, one school age, we have had to deal with bulling since my son started school. My son is bigger than kids his age so we have always taught him to keep his hands to himself. He was picked on every day at recess and wouldn't do anything to retaliate. We went to the teachers, the parents and nothing was done. One day my son finally had enough and punched one of the bullies. We were called into the school where the teacher, principal, and family services were waiting to speak to us. When the whole story was told the worker from family services said to the teacher and the principal "When are you going to learn to stop protecting the bullies?" Kids that behave this way have learned this behaviour and if it is not corrected we are going to have a lot of adults that will continue the same behaviour. No matter how much we teach our own children right from wrong there will always be children who either haven't been taught this or have learned that there is not a whole lot the parent can do to rep remand them without the authorities stepping in and telling them how to parent.

Answer 5

My mother always told me that if you don't control a child's behavior before they are the age of 5 with discipline, spanking, time outs, etc. you will never have any kind of control. I did all the spanking, time outs taking away from my child and he is very disciplined now. I think it's our society telling us we can't discipline our children like our parents did with us. Society and the government just need to stay out of trying to tell us how to be parents. Since they don't children get in trouble in the world and in school, then everyone wants to point a finger at the parents, saying it's there fault. It's a cycle. I say that if you discipline your children the way they should be and not pay much attention to what everyone else says they will turn out just fine.

Answer 6

Parents today are idiots! Plain and simple. They try too hard to be their child's friend instead of putting there unruly child in their place. I do not allow such wild behavior in my home. As soon as I found out I was pregnant with my first child I went out and bought my own personal collection of whips and chains. Whenever my child gets out of line I dont hesitate to use them either. This is what more parents of the world need to do today. More whips and chains and less children actin a fool!!

Answer 7

people know days don not think it is right to spank, therefore when you're in public and you get onto your child people give you these god awful looks like your doing something wrong and sometimes you get the police called on you( in Arkansas). and your child recognizes that you won't punish them in public and it overruns into your household and then it all becomes out of control. I hae a 15 yr old brother that runs over my parents so bad and it's b/c they never spanked him or punished him when he did wrong, and he took advantage of it. i my self have 2 girls 2 1/2 and 9 mon. and my 9 mon. already knows what NO is and my 2 yr old is very obedient. some people are just scared to punish their children, when it really helps them later on in life.

Answer 8

In my mind a lot of it is down to bad parenting, the ability of these bad parents to breed on the welfare state and be rewarded for raising more idiots, and the lack of fear of any real punishment thanks to the nanny state constructed largely by the incompetent Labour Government. Wanna smack me? I'LL CALL THE POLICE! Police arrest me? I'LL SUE YA! Give me an ASBO? GEE, THANK YOU VERY MUCH! Make me go cold turkey in prison? I'LL SUE THE TAX-PAYER! It's a joke and while many people live in fear of youngsters in their community, the Police are tied up in mountains of red-tape, whilst the Leftie hand-wringers worry about the rights of the idiot chav who just knocked seven bells out of some old granny!

Answer 9

I am trying to raise my children to respect others and respect themselves, my parent s thought I was a horrible teenage until my brother and sisteer were teengaers and I looked like an angel. I was rasied very stricht so I rebelled then my parents relax with my B&S so they went another direction. I tink it is all in balance, and speacking openly to your children about drugs , sex, and pregnancy.

Answer 10

It all depends on the parents. I've seen it too and often ask myself that question. Either they don't care or are too busy mass reproducing like rabbits. " Eh.. just another mouth to feed..." They absolutely don't give a damn!