From your expirences is it normal to over think things when you are attracted to a girl. That you have only just met.
If so how did you stop over thinking things and start talking to the girl.
I know this is really a guy question but girls you can say if it is the same for you when you are attracted to a guy and how you over come it.
2006-11-17 03:57:23 · 10 answers · asked by ? 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you really like someone, of course you over think things. You are only trying to be stategic but be your own person. All your head is trying to do is be tactful but be natural so the person you talk to will not think your putting on a show. Approach her/him and be polite and nice not sleazy. Manners are always free. Listen and respond to them as well.
Good luck.
2006-11-17 04:04:26 · answer #1 · answered by honeb1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop thinking and just talk. There are a hundred and one topics you can open with that will start a conversation. Just forget you want to date or marry or have kids with the person. Take it one step at a time and the first step is to be able to open your mouth and say "hello I am (fill in name here)". Until you can achieve a normal everyday conversatrion like a normal everyday person, you will never even get a chance to see if the two of you even like each other except at a distance.
Remember, you want to converse and get to know each other not just jump into wild sex right in the hallway/classroom/science lab. So, all this pressure and thinking you are doing is a total waste of time and effort. If you actually get to knw them a little you might find that your dream person is a total geek, airhead, nympho. brain or some other descriptor that you would hate for your bf or gf to be.
So, relax, say hi and if you can't think of a school or local event or class project or anything else mundane to start a conversation with, there is always the weather - that's the subject of more conversations that anything but it does break the ice so to speak.
2006-11-17 04:07:35 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes because you want things to go well for the two of ya so youll think more just say hey fancy coming for a drink after work and shell go x
2006-11-17 04:23:05 · answer #3 · answered by Country Girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh man....getting the girls is easy part....just be truethfull dont overplay it...keep a bit of mistery (spelling crap im haveing bad day) always ask her to talk about her as they like to know that you are interested in them...be careing and considerate like in cards never show your best hand till last... oh and give a bit so she bites then let her think youv left her and then reel her in...good luck mate.
2006-11-17 04:25:07 · answer #4 · answered by james t 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
TELL her that you like her and want to get to know her. THat should make you feel better. Otherwise it will just consume your thoughts until you cant take it no more and go and ask her anyway. So cut to the chase and do it now! Go on,,...... now.........
2006-11-17 04:01:15 · answer #5 · answered by london lady 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it happens to everyone but even when your with someone you think about them all the time 2. just go and say hi.
2006-11-17 04:40:53 · answer #6 · answered by angelstar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I love it when a man overthinks things and he gets paranoid... it shows a woman he really cares!
2006-11-17 04:02:28 · answer #7 · answered by crash 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't over think things I JUST DO IT, you only live once you live each day to the fullest.....
2006-11-17 04:00:33 · answer #8 · answered by Lady 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just get over it
2006-11-17 04:01:36 · answer #9 · answered by Ashley 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its difficult. Try to relax.
xxB
2006-11-17 03:59:35 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋