While talking to my bf last night he admited he slept with another women as I felt my heart fall out of my ***, I didnt know what to do any other day I would have gave him the finger and walked away but due to the fact that I am pregnant I really dont want to leave but I am so upset I am not sure how to get past this, I want my baby to have it's daddy there everyday and every night it isnt the babies falt that daddy is a jackass. He said he was sorry and that he knows he screwed up he seemed to be serious but how do I know I have always told friends if he did it once he will do it agagin I am lost and dont know what to do......Help please!!!!!
2006-11-17 03:40:20 · 9 answers · asked by chrissylynn 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
They're right . . . he did it once, he WILL do it again . . . why wouldn't he? It's up to you to decide weather or not you truly want him in your child's life as a full father . . . but if you know him well enough and you know he won't live up to the expectations w/o a fight, then it's up to you to make that choice if that's the road you want you and your child to go down? Would it just be easier to move forward? I'm sure you're more than strong enough to take charge on your own.
2006-11-17 03:46:36 · answer #1 · answered by RFM 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh my goodness. I can't believe how true it is when people say MEN ARE DOGS! I know this is gonna be hard, I wish that god wouldn't let things such as this happen. For the sake of ur baby plz try to talk it over with him. give him some credit for telling u the truth instead of u finding out by somebody else. I know this will be hard, but try it 4 ur baby.don't ever lose conatct with him cuz thats y things like this will happen. i'm not saying STALK him but know where he is at all times. Im sorry 4 all of dis. There is nothing we on yahoo could tell u to help u ,but we can help a lil by making u feel a lil bit better. Whateva u do plz don't abort or put up 4 adoption. I wish u luck. God Bless.!
2006-11-17 03:51:11 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my experience there are three kinds of guys
The full time cheaters: since they are sexually active the have been with the more women they can
Semi-cheater, they feel curious, and some day they take the opportunity, then they forget all about it, or maybe 5 or ten 10 years later they will take another chance
The platonic-cheaters, they like other women, the fantasies about other women, they might have cyber lovers, but they never actually get intimate with another girl
Try to think (based in what you know about him) which of the three he is, and decide upon that
A baby needs a father, but not if he is a jakass
good luck
2006-11-17 03:58:32 · answer #3 · answered by gone 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be on your tip toes......he doesn't sound like 'daddy of the year'. Be careful....I wouldn't marry him because I think it would make things worse if you had to divorce. For the moment, try working on your realtionship by spending time with one another and try to work together for the sake of the child. If you can't be together, then work on being best friends. A child who sees two parents at least working together who don't hate one another because of a bitter divorce is better off. It will be hard on you but you must be strong.
2006-11-17 03:46:51 · answer #4 · answered by breezyb23 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can only imagine how you feel...but I agree with the first person's response...this is a situation that only YOU can decide what's best.
When it comes to matters of the heart, it's simple for people to look over things...women often look over the fact that their bf cheated on them because they love them so much, but in return, many men take the woman's love for granted and continue to do it, not actually realizing how much he's killing her.
My advice to you is to sit down by yourself and really think things over. Sure, it's better for your baby to have a father, but it's not going to kill him/her if (s)he doesn't. Now, I'm not telling you to leave your boyfriend, cuz there's a chance that he really does care for you and that he won't do it again...but you KNOW him...deep down, you know whether he's being truthful with you or not...and nobody else can make this decision but yourself.
2006-11-17 03:51:54 · answer #5 · answered by Nikki 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will never be able to trust him, so move on. Work on being a great, single mother. Some day a gentleman worthy to be a father will come along.
2006-11-17 03:47:32 · answer #6 · answered by tobeyp2005 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is only something that you can decide. It is a hard decision to make. Good luck to you and your baby
2006-11-17 03:44:01 · answer #7 · answered by Eyes of Green 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tough one . . . Good Luck!
2006-11-17 03:45:25 · answer #8 · answered by 10 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
www.adoption.org
2006-11-17 03:44:25 · answer #9 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋