why do parents always feel the need to put their kids down...it makes mine feel like theyre on top of the world..they still do it and i am almost 18..i wanna just hit em with a frying pan...wat to do?????????????
2006-11-17 03:39:24 · 8 answers · asked by nawti969 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
My mom still does that to me and I am 29. Look at it like this girly....your parents don't want you to f*ck up like they did (I'm not saying they did but you know). I wouldn't say they are putting you down. Maybe that's what they think needs to be done in order for you to listen. You see all these shows now a days...kids are ruthless to there parents. I wouldn't hit them...you know what kills my mom that I do when she is yelling at me. I just agree, "Yes mom, your sooooooooo right mom"....LOL
2006-11-17 03:44:47 · answer #1 · answered by Rican Princess 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Parents do this because they don't know any better. Parents feel that they need to constantly steer their children in the right direction and unfortunately it is often with criticism & correction. This is what my parents did & stil do to me, I am now 35. They do not praise me or tell me that they are proud of me. They never agree with me, but always give me their opinion which is usually opposite of mine. I am a parent too, & because this is how I was brought up I unfortunately find myself doing the same to my kids. By the grace of God, I am starting to see how destructive these criticisms and unkind words can be. I am trying to be very conscious of what I say, when I say it & even if should bother to say it. Don't hit your parents with the frying pan! Try to tell them how you feel hurt when they put you down - it could be as simple as saying "you know mom (or dad) that hurts". If that doesn't work, just pray & ask God to touch their hearts & to heal your hurts. Know that your heavenly Father loves you no matter what & accepts you even if your earthly parents don't.
2006-11-17 11:46:41 · answer #2 · answered by ELIZABETH B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your parents sound like they may have some personal issues! Try to remember to not take it personally, and think of all the great things about yourself! I know sometimes as a parent I say things I don't mean sometimes, especially when my daughter is being especially frustrating and contradicting me continuously. This is a tough age for mothers/daughters to go through. Young girls can be especially frustrating for mothers. Some day you'll realize this!
2006-11-17 11:44:05 · answer #3 · answered by carrieinmich 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They'll do it until they die. Don't fight it, just love them they will not always be here. They have hopes for you in their mind but you probably are not doing what they hope for. They need to let go, but they can't because they are parents and the love they have for you keeps them tied. Just ignore it, things will change.
2006-11-17 13:28:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
get some good come backs and do it right back or say some thing like ya maybe I can have a talk to your girlfriend/boyfriend about when you were little and learning to go to the potty and show those pics off to them also
2006-11-17 12:05:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Always bear in my mind that when people, especially parents, belittle others, especially their own offspring, they are doing so due to not knowing or not being sure of how to deal with certain situations, so respectfully reply, "Please don't put me down, if you don't have something positive to express, then I'd appreciate it if you kept your negative remarks to yourself"
2006-11-17 11:49:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That way they won't feel so bad about the job that they did or didn't do with their own kids.
2006-11-17 11:42:49 · answer #7 · answered by habemf 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have ya tried asking THEM???
It may simply be a difference of opinion........
2006-11-17 12:02:52 · answer #8 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋