2006-11-17 03:35:29 · 22 answers · asked by Cam's mama 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
You could give the baby up for adoption if you don't want it...
2006-11-17 03:37:21 · answer #1 · answered by Miriam Z 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
First of all, I don't think it's fair at all to judge you since the rest of us don't know what the rest of your situation is. Please ignore whatever unfair statements have been made to you by some of the previous answers - I don't think judging helps you much in making such a major decision.
My personal opinion is that it's no longer mainly about the man but about the baby and its impact on your life. You can love your baby even if you don't love the father.
I agree that you could give up the baby for adoption if you're not prepared for motherhood. If you feel ready to be a single mom, it's definitely a better choice.
This is just my first reaction, though. I must say I have no idea how it really feels since I've never been in the same situation. Hope you make the right choice, and you have my best wishes.
2006-11-17 11:43:04 · answer #2 · answered by Andromeda_Carina 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I babysit for a woman who is a sleeze and sleeps with any man she meets. SHe had a baby with one and he was uninterested in the baby for the first year. Now he has bonded with her and shares custody and the Mom and him HATE each other. It is a horrible situation all around. If you do not want the baby, and you do not want to have him a part of your life FOREVER then you should not keep it. A child should know happiness and security, which is something you do not seem prepared to offer. Have an abortion, or give it up for adoption, and learn from this. Change the way you are livign your life and think about these consequenses.
2006-11-17 11:43:02 · answer #3 · answered by Smilingcheek 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I agree with Rays, Smiling, and Andromeda. I also feel that regardless to whether or not you loved the baby's father, if you do not feel that you could give your whole self to this baby and love it fully and completely then no, you should not keep it. Whether you choose to give it up for adoption or have an abortion is up to you, but it's not fair to keep a child if the child won't get the chance to be loved like they all deserve to be loved.
Do what's right for you AND your baby.
2006-11-17 11:50:23 · answer #4 · answered by april_fay21 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Of course! The baby is a totally different person from the father. Just because you don't like the father, it's no reason not to keep the baby.
2006-11-17 11:38:21 · answer #5 · answered by angelbaby 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
so you were selfish and weak enough to make the baby, knowing the possibility of having a child, did it anyways, and now you are going to step your immature and selfish behaior up a notch by thinking of giving it up... hmm.. sounds like the baby/child has to take the punishment for something it is completely innocent of... where is your compassion?! just because you didn't/don't love the man, why couldn't you love the baby? the child did nothing wrong! make up for your mistake, and raise this child in a loved home, and try to the best of your ability to forget about the father, and the thought of wanting to be rid of this little miracle, ten years from now how will you feel?! you could have a loving child ... or you could have a past and given up child memory to torment you!
2006-11-17 11:42:30 · answer #6 · answered by lily 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Even if you never loved the man, you will probably love this baby more then anything.
2006-11-17 13:06:47 · answer #7 · answered by Lisa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know whether you mean not telling the guy you have his child or having an abortion. In my opinion you have to do what's right for you and in the best interests of your child if you decide to keep it. Not having a father is probably not a great idea, but if he is abusive or someone who could hurt your child (only you know this) then maybe it is in your child's best interests to keep him from it. If you are deciding to abort the child I think it's your personal choice, and you are the only one that knows YOUR situation well enough to make this choice. Good luck either way.
2006-11-17 11:45:23 · answer #8 · answered by Rayslittlegurl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it depends on how you feel about the child. to me, all children are miracles, and they all deserve to be loved. if you feel you do not have the special love set out for a baby, i would suggest giving it up for adoption. but if you feel you are ready to have a baby, to raise it and give it the love and care it needs, i suggest keeping it. the man really has nothing to do with the love you have for a child. as i said, it depends on how much love you have set out. good luck. =)
2006-11-17 12:00:27 · answer #9 · answered by kabrinaaa. 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The baby is part of you, and you might regret giving it up later on. So, it depends. Can you afford to support the baby on yor own? Are you able to love, be patient and care for your baby? If not, let another family adopt it.
2006-11-17 12:21:02 · answer #10 · answered by Shotsie 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes-because that baby is part of you too and you have no reason to give it up.Just because you did not love the man does not mean you cannot love your child-you will fall in love with it once you see it!
2006-11-17 11:54:06 · answer #11 · answered by mama of 2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋