Ok So I am 25, I have a 3 year old and I will be devorced in about 3 months time.. I am interested in this guy and I think he likes me too ...but I can't stop thinking about what he must think of all that. We havent talked about it all really yet, so not sure what to think. Would you date a chick with a kid and who has already been married. Oh and I am totally independent with two jobs..my own house and own car I am not looking for a new baby daddy..or $$$ just someone to chill with. What are your thoughts? Thanks!!!
2006-11-17 03:23:16 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Depending on the situation, if you don't bring up the dirty laundry, neither will he. Spend your time looking towards the future of your new relationship and that will help anyone who is interested in dating YOU. Most people can put divorce, etc. behind the scenes if you keep it out of the current relationship. Remember, your new guy doesn't want to hear about your old relationship any more than you would want to hear about his!!
2006-11-17 03:30:36 · answer #1 · answered by jeepguy_2x 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you two need to talk openly about it. Either he will be more concerned about you having kids, or he will be more interested in YOU, hopefully the latter if you are interested in him. And if he isn't, there are plenty of men who will. I have dated and lived with women who had children and their children were never an issue. Each time the woman and I became great friends, but I was not ready for commitment. Openess from both is so vital for a good relationship. Good luckand don't give up hope!
2006-11-17 11:47:44 · answer #2 · answered by ggordo594 C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are a fine prospect for a dating. A man should be able to see that you are self sufficient if you have two jobs and supporting your child and a household.
Just don't move too fast IN a new relationship or get serious in a hurry coming off of a divorce.
Enjoy dating...I think guys are less afraid of these situations than ladies know.
2006-11-17 11:34:29 · answer #3 · answered by Randal D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people are ready to date women with children, others not so much. Depends on their maturity level. I wouldn't have a problem with it. Just talk to him and be honest about what you are looking for.
You also seem to have a good head on your shoulders, but I wonder how you found someone to watch out for your kid while you're working. I always have trouble finding a sitter for mine.
2006-11-17 11:32:38 · answer #4 · answered by tipper 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds good, I'm interested! Oh, wait. I have two of my own. The door swings both ways, don't worry. There are single guys with kids out there with the same problem.
2006-11-17 11:29:48 · answer #5 · answered by TheOneVersion3.0 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't have any problems dating someone with a child from a previous marriage. You need to give yourself more time; however, to rebound from the pain of a failed relationship and divorce before you get involved with someone else. Otherwise the rebound relationship you get involved in may only lead to more misery for both you and your child.
2006-11-17 11:36:26 · answer #6 · answered by sloop_sailor 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure. Did so and eventually married. Been that way for over 30 years.
2006-11-17 12:03:11 · answer #7 · answered by Tim B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i think that he shouldn't have a problem with it and if he enjoys hanging out with you AND the child then it might work and for the already being married thing that shouldnt matter he has seen other people before hasnt he
2006-11-17 11:30:54 · answer #8 · answered by super_man_4888 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nope not me sorry
2006-11-17 11:33:24 · answer #9 · answered by hezaz007 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋