when i was in the 7th grade, my dad wanted custody of me and wanted me to live with him...we had to go to court and in the papers he sent to my house..the tings he said were MAD!! he said i was overweight,wore tight clothes,and a bunch of other things that werent TRUE!! he hasnt called me in a LONG time..and on oct. the 14th i hurt my knee(right) and had to ahve surgery the 17th of oct...and when i nana(dads mom) said she was going to call him and tell him,HE DIDNT EVEN CALL ME TO SEE IF I WAS OKAY!! do i need to call me dad and get things straight or not do anything at all? what should i do or what would u do??? i would like to hear from guys AND girls
thanks
2006-11-17 03:11:46 · 11 answers · asked by RockStar 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
take the time to call your dad, he may feel you don't want to talk to him after all the horrible things he said about you, you will feel better about things once you get it on the table. you will never know until you try and when it's all said and done at least you will know where he stands.
2006-11-17 04:03:18 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Custody battles are terrible. Things are exaggerated to make them sound worse than they are so the judge will judge in his favor. Call him and find out why he hasn't spoke to you. It might not be him there are a lot of things going on that our parents won't tell us about so we don't know. I would tell him to take you to lunch and find out what is going on and why the change of heart that he wants you now? Don't get to pushy or anything just talk to him calm and relaxed, you'll find you'll learn more information that way. The papers that were served you shouldn't have been aloud to read. He and She both are going to say some pretty mean stuff that is how custody battles go. Hang in there kiddo and everything will turn out. You'll see!
2006-11-17 11:21:40 · answer #2 · answered by Sandy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First and foremost....he is the father. He is the one that should be contacting you. And to have said such hurtful things to you is inexcusable.
For you to contact him may be inviting more pain for yourself.
If you had a good relationship it may be fine for you to contact him. If fact he would love it. But your relationship with him sounds to be not at all good.
If he didn't get custody of you...and it sounds like he didn't he would be mad but there is no way he should be taking it out on you.
There is always another way of looking at it. He may have felt that you were fine with him not getting custody so he doesn't feel right about contacting you. It is possible he would love to hear from you. But you know what has gone on here better than we do so you have to decide.
2006-11-17 11:26:09 · answer #3 · answered by John B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take the 1st step in order to patch up your relationship with your dad, he may not be perfect, but he's the only dad that you'll ever have, and usually people regret not doing all that is possible in order reestablish good relations with family members. I sympathize with you for reason I have experienced many similar difficult family oriented circumstances, and I don't think that there's a living sole on the planet that is more stubborn, arrogant, and egotistical than my dad. I bid you much luck with your situation, and don't give up:)
2006-11-17 11:41:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Family relationships are the most difficult.You sound very adult,more so than your father.If you want him in your life ,call him and tell him you would like to get together for a visit.Tell him you miss him.Be prepared for some anger,possible rejecion.I dont know him but from what you say I think you need to be careful with your heart.
2006-11-17 11:18:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i ones asked a question ( are parents fair ) so what do you say about your dad yes or no
i think that you are totally clever to think of those courts i call them THE JUNK PLACE i hate ever court in town and let your feelings control them selves and try to think if you lived with him are you going to forget what he said in the court and decide .
2006-11-17 11:39:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should call him. Maybe he has trouble expressing his feelings. If you reach out to him and he continues to act this way, then at least you can feel secure in the fact that it is in no way your fault and you did all you could to make peace.
2006-11-17 11:18:11 · answer #7 · answered by Matt C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sweety as long as you doin good with out him dont let him get you down, he'll come around. my moms is the same way. dont kiss their *** let them kiss yours trust me it works
2006-11-17 12:04:14 · answer #8 · answered by SweetRedz05 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey this is Beth well it sounds like to me he don't really even love you I wouldn't have anything to do with him if he ain't gonna have anything to do with you it sounds like he don't care about you.
2006-11-17 11:20:58 · answer #9 · answered by mrs.parham15 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If hes that horrible, you don't need him in your life.
2006-11-17 11:16:15 · answer #10 · answered by ggh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋