My uncle has been abusing me for months now and it's stepped up to a lot of uncomfortable "touchy-feely". I posted a question on here about committing suicide but yall convinced me not to do it. Now my question is I am scared to go to the cops b/c they wont listen to me BUT I am scared to run away because he might b able to track me down what should I do?
2006-11-17 03:06:12 · 16 answers · asked by He See My Tears, He Saw Me Cry 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I put uncle by mistake -- meant grandfather
2006-11-17 03:35:17 · update #1
Your last question said it was your grandfather abusing you. So now I'm confused. Anyways, if this person is still living with you then go to a school counsellor, trusted teacher or even your medical doctor and discuss the problem with them. They have a legal obligation to report such incidences to the police. That way you don't have to report it yourself, but of course the police will want to talk to you later about it. Even if you have been in trouble in the past, the police are obligated to investigate your allegations. Don't be afraid to tell and when you have to give your story make sure you tell them everything and be clear about it all. If necessary ask to be put into a foster home or move in with another relative or even a close friend for awhile.
2006-11-18 12:17:55 · answer #1 · answered by Dellajoy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is there no other adults in your life ?( mom,dad,teachers or even a parent of a friend ) If you have any that you think would listen to you I recomend you that talk with them and let them give you some suport when you go to the police. As many of the others have said here, there are many agencies that are set up to help people in your situation, so it is unlikely the police will not listen. They are there to " protect and serve" - they will most likely contact child protctive servises for you and get you set up with them- One thing I know for sure is that none of these people ( police, child protective services, school officials and most parents ) like or tolerate that kind of behavior like it is a joke.....You can even go to a fire station and ask for help, (they will contact the same people - but my point is that any public servent will respond if for no other reason than that is there job....but honestly, they will do the best they can by you because it is SO serious. As for running...... well, look at it this way, you will look like the one with the problem - you will have less credibility and they will just send you home - (not good.) and if you run you are more likely to get hurt by a stranger - or worse..
I hope you will not wait take a friend (if one is availible ) or someone and just go to any place you think is safe ( police ) or call them now, the longer you wait the more you will concider what they might do and you will be thinking that because you were betrade by one adult in your life that they will all betray you -that is not so - If you want, print out what everyone has said and give it to them - maybe you wont feel so alone.
I hope that you will find the concern and the suport that all of us have tried to convey some help and that you will be safe soon, Please keep us updated - I know we are all pleased you desided not to commit suicide .....Take care young one.
2006-11-17 04:30:05 · answer #2 · answered by Liz H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you afraid to go to the cops? Why do you think they won't listen to you, is he a cop too? There are abuse hotlines that you can refer to, social service agencies, even planned parenthood will help you. You are making the first step by reaching out here! Do not run away, then you will become part of the system yourself when this uncle should be. Best of luck, you are in my prayers, I hope this helps a little. Is there a family member you can turn to?
2006-11-17 03:13:19 · answer #3 · answered by SR 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't walk run to the cops. Don't worry about them not listening to you. THEY WILL! If you don't feel comfy talking to a guy ask for a female officer that you can talk to. GO NOW!!!!!! This will only get worse between you and your uncle. The cops will help you. Good Luck!! I'll
2006-11-17 03:23:02 · answer #4 · answered by Supermom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't say how old you are, but if you are in school isn't there a teacher or counselor you can trust enough with this information.? Perhaps a crisis intervention Hot Line, Look in yellow pages. Please do not let this sicko get away with messing your mind and life up. Suicide is never an answer, it is too final and there so many alternatives. Please keep us who care about you now informed as to how things are going. Remember you are no way at fault and you need not be afraid to tell anyone you trust,,,NOW!!
2006-11-17 03:19:28 · answer #5 · answered by snowmom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont run away what is happening to you is not your fault.
make this stop now go to the police they will believe you and they make it stop.
why do you think they wont believe you its their job to not only believe you but to protect you as well.
you need to tell your parents as well. if your scared to do this then dont panic the police will tell them for you.
things aren't as bad as they seem once people know whats happening then you will have the help and support and love that you need. people cant help you if they dont know sweetie, and you've taken the biggest step of all by posting this question.
please dont do anything silly that can cause you more pain you can get through this i get the feeling your actually a very strong person who can beat this man hands down.
stop him now help yourself and others and report him to the police before things get any worse.
people will believe you and they will be on your side and they will help you, trust me i no it happened to me too and it was my grandfather that did it to me.
good luck hunny
2006-11-17 05:23:41 · answer #6 · answered by rosierotweiller 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
.....dont really know what to tell you but you should try and do something about it.. i looked at your other questions and i thought you lived with your grandmother...maybe you could try and say something to her about it and not come completely out with it but drop hints about it...honestly dear i really dont want to tell you something and just make it worse ... this is really a tough thing to get through .... maybe you could make an annomyous tip about it to the child protective services in your local area from a payphone or something.... you can send me an e-mail if you want to talk about anything else.
...just dont do anything that could backfire on you, and please use the brains you were given... for you to be asking these types of questions you seem to have some up there...
And im + you are not alone with this maybe some research on the internet for some youth sexual abuse support groups would help you to find what they did.
xoxoxo
emily
2006-11-17 03:19:25 · answer #7 · answered by ♥ Emily ♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
some are starting to be away, some have been killed or heavily injured in injuries, many greater have been caught. A Ferrari can no longer outrun a Motorola, or a helicopter. human beings working from police have run into and killed harmless others. while you're caught alive, you pass to penal complex.
2016-10-15 16:16:34 · answer #8 · answered by bumber 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why wouldn't the police believe you? How old are you? Where are your parents? Questions I'd like to know the answers to....but...since we don't have time for that.......
Of course you should go to the police!! What he is doing is wrong. You know it and he knows it! You have the courage, you can do it. Make your world a better place. Be strong!
2006-11-17 03:16:03 · answer #9 · answered by justheretohelp 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
set up a video camera somewhere and tape him abuseing u or whatever..and then take the tape to the cops and show it to them for proof!! u need to go to the cops AND get away as fast as u can??!!
2006-11-17 03:16:00 · answer #10 · answered by RockStar 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋