well, i am a senior and our prom is in may of next year. So i was talking to my bf and i asked him, how do he feel about going to prom with me and he said that he really dont know, but then he said that he dont really feel like going to a high school prom,but what he doesnt understand is that it is a special night and an important night for me and i really want him to go. If i was the other way around , i would go to his prom , if i really didnt feel like going. I do so much for him that i dont want to do, but i still do even though he don't want me to because it will make him happy, but he dont want to do this one thing for me. How Can I Get Him To Understand That This Is A Really Important to me?
2006-11-17 03:05:10 · 12 answers · asked by Pumpkin Nickel Bread 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
First let him know that its important to you that he goes and prom means more to you than he thinks it does. Well, if he's not going to go with you why not go with someone else? It might bother him to the point that he will go with you. Guys will never understand women, so its best not to bother, especially at this age.
2006-11-17 03:15:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to say but if he will not compromise for you after you always compromising for him, then there might be a slight problem with your relationship. There is no reason why he should not go to the prom with you, even if he does not really want to go. He knows it is important to you and should try his best to make you happy, like yoy do for him.
Is he like this with other issues also? Are you always the one compromising? If so, I might take another look at this relationship and start looking for somebody to take to the prom as well as take the place of your boyfriend.
Good luck.
2006-11-17 03:14:40 · answer #2 · answered by jam_psb 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You do have a while before your prom comes up. I think that you should wait and see if he changes his mind. You need to make him understand that a relationship is about sacrifice and compromise. You can't do everything and then get nothing in return. Sorry to say, but this is a "give & take" relationship at its finest.... You're doing ALL the giving and he's doing ALL the taking. It can't be like that if the relationship is going to work out. You guys need to talk it out and if he still can't see your point of view, then you need to get to steppin.... Good luck.
2006-11-17 03:16:55 · answer #3 · answered by ♥Spirit♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The prom is 6 months from now. See if he changes his mind as the date gets closer. Have a back up plan in case he doesn't.
2006-11-17 03:12:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Boyfriends come and go, you will have one Senior Prom! GO!I If he still refuses to go, go with a group of your girlfriends, or ask a friend to escort you. Don't miss out on this important event in your life.
2006-11-17 03:12:53 · answer #5 · answered by NAN G 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
try to be a little less giving. i can see that you really care for him, but the person that loves the most is usually the one that gets hurt the most. this situation is a perfect example. see you really want to go to prom but he doesn't. don't force him to go. i know it's something special for you, so it might sound crazy but ask him if he doesn't mind if you take someone else. see what he says!!
good luck!!
2006-11-17 03:29:52 · answer #6 · answered by Julz 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he is a loving and understanding boyfriend he should know how much this means to you and attend just because you want to go. I would sit down again and tell him how you feel. Ask why he doesn't want to go and try to work it out. If he still doesn't want to go maybe mention that if he doesn't take you that you will go with another guy (just as friends), this might motivate him to take you himself.
2006-11-17 03:13:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him that you really want to go, that it is important to you. If he doesnt want to go just, tell him you will go by yourself then, you still have about 6 months to go maybe he will understand by then and go with you.
2006-11-17 03:18:46 · answer #8 · answered by Jen 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
can you see what your future will be like with him? it sounds like a give and take relationship you being the giver and him being the taker!! i say drop the zero and get with a hero and have fun at your prom you deserve it!!!
2006-11-17 03:12:01 · answer #9 · answered by notyochic 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's your boyfriend, he should be willing to go with you! You shouldn't have to ask him to go with you, it should just be expected. If he says he doesn't want to go with you, then tell him that one of your guy friends wants to take you instead. See what he says....if he gets pissed then tell him to get his butt ready to go with u instead.
2006-11-17 03:12:29 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋