I've been with my boyfriend for over 6 years. We have a very close relationship and I know I want to spend the rest of my life with him. Recently, my friend announced she's getting married and I'm her bridesmaid. Everyone ahs been asking me when are me and my boyfriend getting married and saying stuff like "It'll be you next" I just have never really thought of it like that. I mean we live together and have a mortgage so I guess marriage would be the next step, but is it important these days or could it just lead to problems?
2006-11-17 03:04:06 · 31 answers · asked by ? 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I think marriage is important,
Any Tom, Dick or Harry can live together but to marry and show everyone your love is different.
It may be old fashioned but for a man to want the women he loves to take his name means a lot.
So many people say "its only a piece of paper" if that is the case why are some afraid of it.
My husband and I lived together for 6years before getting married
and I hated being introduced as lady friend or partner.
This is my second marriage, I was widowed, and I had been a wife for nearly 25 years so I found it strange.
Love each other whatever you do.
2006-11-17 03:59:37 · answer #1 · answered by dancingcar 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have been with my boyfriend 10 years and i get asked the same all the time - it is not important (unless it bothers you yourself). I have no issues with the lack of the piece of paper to say we are married - where it is important is in the law!!
Make sure you have a WILL each stating each other as the inheritor of your possession's and that the mortgage is in both your names - if there where an accident family can sweep in and cause havoc if you are not covered with these legal documents! The other problem can be in hospital if your B/F is unconscious - the hospital will technically want the family to make decisions for he life NOT you (as next of kin).
A wedding can cost a small fortune and can create as many problems as not being married in the first place - do what you feel is right and ignore your friends and family on this one.
Just cover the basics - which is good practise whether married or not.
Live, Love and enjoy life - if you are happy why change things.
2006-11-17 03:20:46 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is whatever you choose it to be ... if you want problems, you will get them. If you are both happy with the way things are, why change now? A word of warning ... once you have been living with someone for 7 years, whether or not you are legally married, this is called "common law marriage". Both of you would have a case to "divorce" and to take legal action should you break up. This includes the mortgage, debt, cars, personal belongings, etc. So, just make sure that you look into the legal ramifications of a common law marriage and make sure that you understand them the same as you would understand the laws of a "regular" marriage ... and divorce.
-EZ
2006-11-17 04:51:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A common law relationship is not recognized as marriage in all jurisdictions. For example, in the US only about 15 states recognize some aspect of common law, and of those several recognize only some small aspect, or if the relationship has been on-going for as much as 10 years. The other states recognize no aspect of common law. The recognition also varies quite a bit internationally.
Marriage is important in the eyes of society in general, and often in many legal ways as well. In many places marriage offers far more protection and rights than a common law relationship.
Marriage is the public acknowledgment of love and commitment and is important for that reason. If people are commenting about it to you, then people must consider it important.
However, do not get married because other people think you should. Get married if you want to and if your partner wants to and if you are ready to make that committment to each other. A common law relationship is fine if that is what you want.
You may find these links helpful.
2006-11-17 03:21:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends how you look at it. If you view marriage as a religious ceremony that will bring you and your hubby closer together. There is a lot of spirituality in a wedding and the commitment. But if you are not religious and don't feel like the ceremony would have a long term effect on your relationship, then I would suggest not going through the hassle. It sounds like you and your boyfriends are happy and have a secure relationship without an official wedding.
There is a portion of the population who are in committed relationships who are not allowed to get married (same-sex couples). When there is not a choice, it is realized that commitment and relationships are simply not defined by a certificate/license assigned by the government. Marriage is in the eye of the beholder.
2006-11-17 03:15:40 · answer #5 · answered by Rachael C 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It is important in a way but it could lead to problems. Just remember that you don't need to get married and have a Peace of paper to prove to your partner and others that you love them. as long as the both of you Know how use feel about each other then don't think about marriage just now use still have the rest of your life's to do that and don't worry about what other people think or say just go with whatever use both think best
2006-11-17 03:26:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its only important if you want it to be. I got married because I wanted to - not because I thought it was the right thing to do or because I wanted a party or from family pressure.
I've had friends who married fro the wrong reasons and are now divorced. And I have friends who never married and are still together years later. It does come in handy when children are involved re: surnames and also if you should split up.
2006-11-19 03:01:34 · answer #7 · answered by purity 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To me, if you want to spend the rest of your life together then why not get married? If it is something which neither one of you really care about then maybe don't bother to marry, it doesn't really make a difference, some people like to get married, some don't doesn't make one relationship any stronger than the next.
2006-11-17 03:10:56 · answer #8 · answered by nik 28 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Chances are he is waiting for the best time to propose...six years is a long time to be together and not think about getting married. Talk with him about it and see if that is even on his radar. Is isn't too terribly important that you get married, but make sure you're ready for it when the time does come for you both. My and her boyfriend decided to wait until they saved enough money for the wedding that they want...it also isn't uncommon to be engaged for an extended period of time (more than the usual 1 year).
2006-11-17 04:01:07 · answer #9 · answered by VAWeddingSpecialist 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey there-well if u want my opinian u should've considered this a long time ago! *laughs* yes though i do think marraige is important....it's what really seals the deal and makes two people feel like a true couple.If u really truly love e/other and know u want to spend the rest of your lives together then what are you waiting for? besides...weddings are so beautiful and special and it's a time to really focus on e/other and loved ones.....you can only get married once-why not tie the knot with the perfect hot!?(pun not intended) but i have to admitt that is kinda a good joke,lol.....anyway i say yea go for it and have a beautiful life
take care
~Ally
2006-11-17 03:18:40 · answer #10 · answered by greenismylife.songismyworld 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋