im 22 and my fella is 50.he looks great for his age.but when it comes to sex.its like hes not interested.?

Question

he says its cause hes tiered or stressed.and that he hasnt got much of a sex drive like he used too.and he says with him not been to the gym latley,that effects his sex drive.hes got nothing wrong with his bits,it just hes lacking interest,and im trying my best to solve things,what can i do.as im not sure how sex effects men in their 50's

Answer 1

I'm not 50, I'm 41. but If you need someone to burn it down,everyday. let me know. I can do wonders for you

Answer 2

Well, you are living the May-December lifestyle, and this is something that should be expected. At your age, the responsibilites that most 22 year olds have are much less stressful than those of a 50 year old. With the financial responsibilities associated with a mortgage, retirement planning, and supporting the social activities to keep a 22 year old interested, there are quite a few things that are on his mind.

If you are committed to this relationship, perhaps you need to work a little at helping him overcome the stresses of his career in the evening, on the weekends or his days off. That will allow him to relax and enjoy the time with you!

Answer 3

Well, I would focus more on his fall of appearances. He isn't going to the gym? Could there be a reason, or is he just super busy?

I would try and seduce him, make him feel like a million bucks.

Otherwise, if he is having issues getting an erection, I would talk to him about potential ED (erectile disfunction) that happens with aging as testosterone levels decrease (they also decrease with a decrease in exercise in both sexes). Maybe Viagra is an option.

Or, if sex is important to you, maybe you should leave the relationship if he is unwilling to resolve the issue. He will only decrease interest as he gets older, considering his sexual peak was around your current age. Some of the details that make people compatable is sex drive. If it isn't matching and he isn't willing to work on it (if he loved you he would), then get out. It is better than a life of celebasy.

Answer 4

C'mon, of course age affects sex drive... But he shouldn't give up. And of course he feels somewhat guilty, ashamed, inadequate, etc.

I'm 62, and had 1-2 years of the same problem. I could even be inside and just lose interest and erection disappear. It's possible this is just temporary, but the facts also suggest he's defensive about it too. What you need to do is go with him or get him to the gym regularly. Then you need to learn the finer techniques of masculine stimulation.

No amount of talking (except general confidence-building) will help. So you have to work on stimulating him to the point where he becomes the aggressor - and then all he remembers is HIS libido. How do you do it? Every man's brain is in his penis, so you need to orally stimulate his brain. Just gently and tactfully proceed to the organ to be stimulated and let your lips and tongue do their work. It may take days or weeks, but be patient and say nothing and ask for nothing.

Your stimulation should get his testosterone flowing, and eventually he will take the lead.

Good Luck

Answer 5

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Answer 6

well theres your problem, you are dating someone nearly 30 years older than you are.

it will only get worse. what will happen when you want children?
what will happen ten years from now when you are at the peak of your sex drive and he's getting ready for retirement and has no interest at all in it? have you thought abt these things

in the meantime there is always viagra, oysters, lingerie, etc

I know this sounds insensitive but lets be realistic. your lives are in two different places right now

personally I find it hard to comprehend considering I am 21 and my grandfather is 56, so when I think of it, its like me dating someone my grandfather's age - nasty

Answer 7

drop grandpa! he might get turned off for two reasons he look at you like a child....22 + 22=44 - 50= 6 do the math.....and feel guilty, or he might have been a druggie or bozzer in his younger years and cant get it up completely or on meds that take his nature from him...well three reasons maybe he has a std and feel guilty that he could give it to you and you have'nt even got out the gate yet.....girl thinkabout all the above seriously and reacess.

Answer 8

OK, here goes. I KNOW what I'm talking about having to deal with it myself and I'm in my early fifities.( I'm female) Have him go to docter and have his testostrone checked. Sometimes when they reach around that age it drops and sometimes they need to take testostrone to get going again. If its NOT that then maybe he might try one of the sex enhancers that a docter can prescribe for him. Believe me, it is NOT you especially if you've done your part and you know what I mean jellybean? Alot of us females want the attention when our cuddle button gets turned on . Dang, when I was 22 , I was taken care of 2 kids, working full time and he was 22 and I didn't want to do it as much but now WATCH OUT ! LOL

Answer 9

Well if it's my husband you're dating he has erectile dysfunction. Tell him to get his prescription filled. He always forgets. Like he forgot to take his condoms when he left this morning. Silly man. That's what happens when you turn fifty.You have a lot more of the same to look forward to. Maybe you ought to find a man your own age. One that can keep up with you. Good luck Princess!

Answer 10

He's 50, everyones sex drive slows down as they get older. If you want more sex you may need to find someone closer to your age, otherwise, take it as it comes, and enjoy and appreciate the other great aspects of your relationship.

Answer 11

Sex in their 50's is just like any other age. What he is going through is a lack of variety. You may be a fox, but he is sub-consciously looking for variety. Sorry, but that's the way it is. If your gf offered and you ok'ed it he would be into it in a second.