So my boyfriend and I have been dating for around 3 and a half months. Everything is great except that I'm a little worried about our physical relationship. We used to have sex at least 5 times a week. Then he told me that he gets complacent about sex sometimes (especially since we're both law students and studying all the time). Then, last night, we were talking about our pasts, and he mentioned that he and his ex used to have sex everyday. In fact, they did some pretty crazy things (i.e. like in a sauna). However, he hasn't tried to do anything wild like that with me. It bothers me that he didn't seem to be complacent with her. I thought maybe he's just not attracted to me, but he keeps assuring me that I'm the most attractive girl he's ever dated (not to sound mean, but I've seen his ex, and I would have to agree with him). What does it mean that he's gotten so complacent around me? Should I be worried?
2006-11-17 02:56:34 · 5 answers · asked by skichamonix515 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Now, we're only having sex 3 or 4 times a week.
2006-11-17 02:57:13 · update #1
He just doesn't want it to get boring. I get scared of the same thing b/c I do want sex all the time with my man. I LOVE HIM! But you just have to talk with him and give it time. Maybe they dated a long time and that's why he was comfortable doing crazy sex scenes with her. Your time will come. OKAY?
2006-11-17 03:04:44 · answer #1 · answered by inlovewow 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
From what it sounds like he might think that you're not as adventurous and doesn't want to scare you away.
If you are up for anything, be the first to start something. Show him that you have a wild side and guaranteed he'll be wanting more.
If all else fails, sit down and talk with him and tell him how you feel! Good luck and have fun!
2006-11-17 03:15:06 · answer #2 · answered by Minouners 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's more much much more to any relationship then sex. Sex should be kept in marriage. Now do you get it? You're only hurting yourself there. Take the time to get to know him better and have a better relationship with him and him with you. Do both of yourselves a favor and stay out of eachothers pants for a while.
2006-11-17 03:12:13 · answer #3 · answered by dave_83501 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
3 or 4 times a week isnt bad.
he's getting older.
My boyfriend is the same way with his ex, they were like bunnies and a bit crazy too and now it's like nothing. I have to say that my boyfriend is basically asexual now though thanks to taking too many drugs a few years back. Remember that he's older now he may not have as many horomones runnign through his body and with school he may have more on his mind then he did back then.
good luck.
2006-11-17 03:04:29 · answer #4 · answered by attila 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he's just not that into you. You've been together less than 4 months and it's possible he's realizing that he doesn't have much in common with you.
2006-11-17 03:06:46 · answer #5 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋