Why does my dad hate my feancie so much? I've asked and he says he doesn't but I can tell he does, he treats him real bad. I've told him that Chris, my feancie, won't do anything that'll hurt me intentually and that I'll always be his, my dads', little girl and nothing would ever tear me away from him, and that I'd always be there for him like he has for me. I also said that I'd always chose him over anyone. I said how much it hurts me to see that my dad hates the man I love so much. I worry that my dad scense something about Chris that I don't because Dads Know Everything about Men, especially when it comes to their little girls.
2006-11-17 02:53:46 · 5 answers · asked by lill_angel_07_88 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Not knowing the whole story, I am not sure I can answer accurately, but I can give you some ideas. First, it is just a hard thing for your loving ,protective Dad to release you to another man. I can honestly say the only future moment I am scared of is the moment I will have to say "her mother and I do" when the preacher asks "who gives this woman in marriage." Secondly, you said your "fiance would never hurt me intentionally." That's not good enough reason to like him. My dog would never hurt you intentionally, that doesn't mean much. Does your fiance love you unconditionally? Does he go out of his way to treat you with love and respect? Is he a gentleman? Does he treat your family with respect? Has he shown he is responsible and hard working? These are the things your father wants to see. Lastly, one of the hardest things in life is unmet expectations. Perhaps your fiance' isn't the type of person your father imagined you with. That can take some adjustment. You need to be sure this young man is worthy of your hand in marriage and will love you unconditionally. If he will do that, your dad will learn to love him too.
2006-11-17 03:10:10 · answer #1 · answered by hutmikttmuk 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Seaking as a father of 3 girls i would venture to say that its probably got alot to do with a fathers protective nature. There may very well be somthing he sees in him that gives him reason to be concered for your safety or well being. To be honest your best course of action is going to be to call your dad out on the whole issue. BUT keep this in mind if your going to do that you have to be fully ready to really hear what he has to say. Chances are your not going to like it and its prob going to hurt some but i would be willing to bet if you really listen the pain you feel now will be by far ;ess than the pain you could feel later if your dads feelings about him prove true and 9 out of 10 times they will well then i would tink a litle pain now would be much better in the long run
sorry if i got a little long winded hope it helps
2006-11-17 11:41:53 · answer #2 · answered by lonly_male4u 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, that's true. Why not dump Chris and go back to school? When you grow up, you'll make better choices in men and find someone your dad can be proud of. Chris would probably be better off with someone who doesn't consider herself a daddy's little girl.
2006-11-17 11:03:18 · answer #3 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's possible that your dad thinks that your fiance is not good enough for you. But then again, he probably thinks that NO ONE is good enough for you. Sometimes it's just hard for fathers to let go.
2006-11-17 11:01:03 · answer #4 · answered by tipper 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
dads know the only thing that counts about men...that they want to f... their daughters. makes it difficult.
2006-11-17 11:00:45 · answer #5 · answered by David B 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋