My boyfriend and I are very much in love with eachother. I didn't want to admit I was in love at first, but now i have decided to accept it.
When we first began dating he and I were very close, then due to circumstances we grew apart (not our love, our distance) We talked on the phone more than once a day, and were able to see eachother about once a week.
Then circumstances changed even further and We haven't seen eachother except for once since Sept. 18th, and we hardly ever get to talk. This isn't really either of our faults or choices. But it is terrible for the both of us.
This christmas though, he will be moving in with my family and myself. At first I thought it would be fantastic, but now I'm wondering if I'm going to have a problem with the abrupt change in arrangement. Will i get annoyed by him? Will i feel overwhelmed?
If i'm so used to not having him around much, will it affect our relationship in a bad way if he is suddenly ALWAYS around?
Thanks for any input ans answers.
2006-11-17 02:27:12 · 7 answers · asked by Its Josie! 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It depends on a LOT of things. One thing you'll need to pay attention to is if he has any 'small habits' that annoy you. Another is whether or not he really gets along with your family members. Another is how much time the two of you like to spend alone. Also, whether or not he will be working and contributing to the household. A good way to avoid a lot of negativity before it happens would be to sit down maybe the next day or so after he moves in (privately between the two of you) and talk about your expectations of each other.
Hope this helps
2006-11-17 02:38:03 · answer #1 · answered by Mister 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on your feeling for him. Are you still in love with him? If so then it should feel great to finally have him in your arms all the time. If you were not far away from eachother and able to see eachother often, would that annoy you? If you were planning on marrying him one day, you would have to be around him all the time.
All you could do is try it out. See how you feel about him once you really get to know him again. The worst that could happen is that you dont have the same feelings any more and you both move on. But on the other hand, if you feel the same, are still in love, you will finally have him by your side again.
2006-11-17 02:36:40 · answer #2 · answered by jam_psb 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-15 16:14:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if you love each other you will adapt to this change. Just talk to him about what you expect from him and ask him what he expects from you, seeing that both of you will be living together. Also, discuss your feelings with him - tell him how you feel and why. Then decide together if both of you are ready.
Remember, if both of you get married you'll be living together. Married people get annoyed by each other at times but they get over it because they love each other (and because they communicate openly with each other).
2006-11-17 02:37:23 · answer #4 · answered by princess_j2006 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It will take some time to get adjusted to him always being there, but if you both are truely in love then it should work out just fine. Good Luck....
2006-11-17 02:33:59 · answer #5 · answered by amandamartin49 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well I guess you will find out when he moves in....one advantage you have is you can tell him to move out easier that if you was sharing a place on you own. If you are very unsure, just tell him he needs to find another place, as your family decided it would be best.
2006-11-17 02:36:55 · answer #6 · answered by catywhumpass 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i think if you really love each other his being there all the time should not be a problem i see my man everyday and he lives with me and it hasn't changed our relationship it made it stronger .......good luck
2006-11-17 02:40:02 · answer #7 · answered by mari 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋