destructive i mean its unbelievable. He tears things up, not in a spiteful way but more like a 5 yr old way, broken rakes and brooms outside, little pieces of paper ect...torn up and left wherever. gutters off house and flattened candy wrappers lots of them on my front porch he leaves everything out wether it be bikes or food drink pitchers bread not wrapped back up chips a whole bag left the last place he had them wide open getting stale. i know it does not sound too bad but i havent even scraped the surface.when i ask him about it hes like oh sorry or i forgot or i dont know why my screen is in the neighbors yard.i dont know how 2 handle this. taking stuff away does not help...please any advice would help
2006-11-17 02:14:54 · 16 answers · asked by bricklynn71 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Puberty is time of hormonal changes, he likely does not understand his behavior much better than you. He is at the age where he is trying to establish his own identity apart from you and his family, if you remember what it was like for you, it's a pretty confusing time. Try having a sit down discussion with him at a non-heated moment. Discuss and ensure he is clear on what is and isn't acceptable and agree on the consequences for his future unruley actions. When he crosses the line, make sure he is aware that he is the one who made the decision to not abide by the rules, and he will be punished accordingly. Best of luck to you, these can be trying times.
2006-11-17 02:41:26 · answer #1 · answered by CHRYSTAL I 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Could just be the fact that he's 13 and all of a sudden has these hormones raging around, or it could be a sign of something worse - sounds a lot like the stuff my son was doing, nothing - no amount of talking, yelling, taking away priviledges - made the slightest bit of difference. Turns out he's bi-polar, now on meds and what a drastic change! Might be worth having your son evaluated...
2006-11-17 02:24:56 · answer #2 · answered by woodlands127 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Children, seeks all attention. The negative things he does is for your attention. Where is his father in this matter? If there is no communication with him, then you need to seek serious help from a brother or your uncle. Boys, go through changes just like little girls. They need that masculine influence to control their biological time bomb. Give him a list of responsibility's for himself and see how he performs. Example: Each week, make a little contract with him in writing. If you can afford, allowances, on the contract state that if the obligation is carried out in the correct manner,then he will get the $5.00 allowance for that week. Do not give in and give him any extra or other money for any thing.
2006-11-17 03:09:35 · answer #3 · answered by ace 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be the sort of people he hangs out with coz at that age your actions are influenced by your friends. Or hes on drugs. Although he is turning into a teenager and it coud just be a destructive boy thing. Maybe get him into sports or something. Or he could be ADD. Maybe he just need to be put back on track hes proberly just being slack thinking it ok mum will clean up after me.
2006-11-17 02:40:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
nicely, i began out smoking at that age and nevertheless do at 26 (even nonetheless I even have shrink some time past). i became into caught some circumstances yet no longer incredibly punished as the two my mom and dad smoked. he's seeing it as ok with the aid of fact that's the norm in his living house. in line with threat your son and your companion might desire to arise with some sort of settlement with a advantages after a definite quantity of time no longer smoking. Or, do only it the previous-shaped way, make him smoke an entire p.c.. in a single sitting.
2016-10-04 01:50:52 · answer #5 · answered by Erika 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Welcome to teenage hood. This is a very difficult time for males. My son started the same behaviors and I was divorced from his father. I ended up having to have him live with his father. They need a strong male role model. At this point in their lives, the mother is in the background. They are starting to take on the male identity and reject most things their mothers tell them. If you are not married, I would suggest the big brother program.
2006-11-17 02:25:43 · answer #6 · answered by insanediego 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have a 15 year old who went through some of the things you are describing, not as bad. your son is testing you to see if you are going to stick with the punishment that you have given him, give him chores to do, take things away that mean the most to him. promise him if he does this for one week you will give him something he likes. what work for me is money, or buying him something just for him. also what work was having a dinner date or lunch date with your son, just you and him. good luck
2006-11-17 02:27:28 · answer #7 · answered by chocoadoll 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously something has happened in his life to change his ways. Make an appointment with a counsellor to see if he needs help. Could be something simple. It's worth a try.
2006-11-17 02:20:47 · answer #8 · answered by Jer 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe trying to ground him not let him go outside with his friends or anything. If he deos something awful tell him hes grounded for the weekend. And if he keeps getting grounded then he wont be distruptive ebcause he no he will get punished. Eventually he will learn his lesson and you can stop grounding him. Also talk to your son ask him whats wrong.
2006-11-17 02:21:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like he needs to seek some counseling because something is going on.
2006-11-17 02:23:18 · answer #10 · answered by Michelle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋