Hey all my fellow brothers and sisters in Christ! Well, I'm asking for your help, please!
Well, lately I've really not been happy! I wake and I tell myself I will definitely be happy and not get irritated with my mom...but it doesn't happen! I really don't feel as though I've got any feelings; I don't feel happy, or sad!
I also feel as though I'm not being the good Christian I used to be! Whenever I do something that's wrong, I do realise that it's against what God wants me to do...but I just can't seem to bring myself to do the right thing!
I want to be happy and stop hurting my mom! And I of course don't want to drift from my relationship with God, plus I can't dream of leaving my Saviour behind!
What can I do?
Can you also give me some verses from the Bible that will make me feel better?
Thanks all, may God bless ya'll
2006-11-17 02:10:23 · 22 answers · asked by -♦One-♦-Love♦- 7 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Doctor of the Atheist Revolution, can't you read? I said 'Christians'!
2006-11-17 02:17:18 · update #1
Olivia-I'm sorry to hear about your loss! Just know that God still loves you!
2006-11-17 02:21:27 · update #2
Nondescript-that is some really good advice, thanks!
2006-11-17 02:26:07 · update #3
Dear Pleasantflower,
I know how you feel. When I was a teen my Mom and I fought a LOT. Now as a Mom I see it from the other side. It is very frustrating.
One thing I have learned is that we tend not to listen well when we are mad. SO I have found it helpful to write down the main points that I want to get across to the other person. Then when you are both calm, you can ask your Mom to do the same & see if you can discuss what's bugging you both.
The best thing that has happened for my kids and I is to read the bible together & pray together. Is there a bible study in your area for Moms & dauthers? We started one at my house this summer, it was really nice.
The book of James is full of practical applications for Christians. Every time I read it I am convicted.
James 1:19 "This you know my beloved brethren...everyone must be quick to hear, slow to speak and slow to anger; for the anger of man does not achieve the righteousness of God."
Also there is a verse that says be angry, yet do not sin in your anger. So you may & you Mom are probably both justified in getting irritated with each other. Sharing a living space with ANYONE is irritating at times. Just try to take a moment and remember who you are in Christ, shoot a quick prayer up, before you yell or talk back.
I am glad that you love Jesus, stay close to Him, study His Word and apply it in your life and pray!
2006-11-17 02:48:18 · answer #1 · answered by redeemed 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
- Show respect to your mother. If you don't like her parenting, you get to do things differently with your kids. You don't get to do things differently now.
- You cannot "leave the Saviour behind". You are not in charge of God. Faith is a gift, you either believe or you don't because of what God has done, not what you do.
- If you want to be happy, nothing anyone can do will make you happy. Only you can make you happy. I would suggest doing things that make life better instead of worse, which means thinking about everything that's making your life worse and evaluating it & changing things around. It's not rocket science to do the right thing spiritually, physically, mentally, and emotionally.
2006-11-17 02:45:52 · answer #2 · answered by ccrider 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie - it is hard sometimes to realize that emotions are fickle. Don't go by your emotions. I know that as a parent there are times I have frustrated my own children. Just know that we mothers do things and say things for our children out of love. We just don't want to see you make mistakes or get hurt.
Be loving and respectful to your mom - even when you don't feel like it. Listen to her. Acknowledge her. You will be amazed at how she will respond.
As for doing the right thing - we all fail - even the Apostle Paul said that he did things he wasn't supposed to and did not do the things he should. When we fail, we need to go to God and ask for forgiveness - restore our fellowship with Him. If you hurt another, ask them for forgiveness. It will help ease your heart.
I will leave you with my favorite verse in the Bible - God promises if we leave our care with Him, He will give us peace (notice He doesn't say He'll fix everything).
Phil 4:6-7
Be anxious for nothing, but through prayer and supplication, with thanksgiving, make your requests known to God.
And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will keep your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus.
Sweetie - I love you and will be praying for you!
2006-11-17 02:40:15 · answer #3 · answered by padwinlearner 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Pray everyday and ask God to help you honor your mother. Thank him in your prayer for already changing your attitude towards your mom. Pray everyday and thank God for having a mother and rebuke any spirit of depression (that is where the not having feelings feeling is coming from)
I will pray for you as well. Keep your head up, you are a child of the almighty God and nothing would make him happier than to have you talk with him and tell him your sufferings so he can prove how much he loves you.
2006-11-17 02:29:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
2 Chronicles 9:7 Happy are thy men, and happy are these thy servants, which stand continually before thee, and hear thy wisdom.
Job 5:17 Behold, happy is the man whom God correcteth: therefore despise not thou the chastening of the Almighty:
Psalms 144:15 Happy is that people, that is in such a case: yea, happy is that people, whose God is the LORD.
Make a special time in your day, and spend some time praying and meditating with the Lord. Many people just can't miss their favorite TV show, or miss out on a ball game or even take time from being on the computer these days. But they always seem to be able to push the important need to spend some quality time with the Lord away.
Meditation with the Lord on a regular basis is the best way to draw yourself back into your relationship with Him. It will also give you the wisdom, patients, and strength and understanding you will need with your own relationship with your Mother.
The Lord promises us that He will never leave us or forsake us, but it is us who are the ones who forsake Him, due to our busy life that we leave not room for Him in it. The Lord does not walk away from us, but it is us who walk away from Him.
Study your bible every day, and you shall be brought back to the Lord where you belong, and your heart will be filled with love and comfort that can only come from him.
God bless you
Carol
2006-11-17 02:28:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Join the club. I'm 26 and I still fight with my mom. The thing is to get out once in a while. When I lived at home, it was every day. Now that I'm out, it's not as often. When we're angry, we have a better chance of cooling down. don't be afraid to say, "I dont want to fight. I"m going to my room for a while and cooling down. I'll talk to you in a while, when we're both calm." Be the bigger person. She'll soon catch on.
2006-11-17 02:19:48 · answer #6 · answered by sister steph 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
At this point in time the most important thing for you to deal with is your relationship with your mom. God is very firm in His commandments regarding relationships with parents. He says in Ephesians 6:2 "HONOR YOUR FATHER AND MOTHER (which is the first commandment with a promise), 3 SO THAT IT MAY BE WELL WITH YOU, AND THAT YOU MAY LIVE LONG ON THE EARTH." This passage points out that how well our lives go and the lengh of our lives is hinged on how we honor our parents. This is not to be taken lightly. Don't say "I want to be happy and stop hurting my mom!" If you want to be happy, stop hurting your mon. Sin is an act of will. Make up your mind that you are not going to oppose her and seek with all your heart to be pleasing to her. See her as a friend, not as the enemy. When she gains confidence in you and sees that you are making efforts to reconcile with her, she will ease up on you and life will be better all around. It is normally our pride that makes us dig in our heels with our parents, or peer pressure, so just humble yourself because "God is opposed to proud people but gives grace to the humble. (James 4:6) God will not side with you against your parents.
2006-11-17 02:35:46 · answer #7 · answered by oldguy63 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My parents live about 1200 km from me, and although we talk often on the phone, I sure wish I was able to be there close by to hug and kiss them everyday, and to tell them how much I love them by doing little everyday things for them. Maybe instead of fighting, you should determine to DO some little sweet gesture for your mom each day, and I bet it won't be long before your relationship turns around, Honey! God Bless you!
2006-11-17 02:31:06 · answer #8 · answered by lookn2cjc 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Early in your walk with the Lord, you will learn that feelings can be deceptive. We can't go by them. We ALL go through dry places in our walk, when we feel far from God. The only thing you can do is pray, and make an act of will that despite your feelings, you WILL to obey God, and by extension, your parents. Your feelings will come around eventually. God bless!
2006-11-17 02:26:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think you should talk things out with your mom. Try to settle your differences, whatever it is that makes u hurt her or she in turn. Besides this turn to God in prayer whenever you feel sad. At times this might be difficult but this is the time we most need him to be there and he will be because he has promised to be there. I hope these scriptures can help. Ps 55:11 tells us to throw our burdens on him. Phillipians4:6,7 gives us assurance that he will guard our hearts and mental powers. 1Peter5:6,7, tells us that God cares for you personally. Ps68:19 assures us that he daily carries the load for us.
So please be assured that God will daily carry the load for you as you work hard in living in harmony with your prayers he'll help you overcome all the obstacles in life
2006-11-17 02:34:02 · answer #10 · answered by girlfunny 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋