I don't know what to. I work a typical 9-5 job and I have a young daughter while she sell drugs, go to school, and have two kids. I rarely next to never ask her do to anything for me; when I do, I cringe because I know it would come back to bite me in the ***. Like the first time I ask her to watch my daughter while her daycare teacher was at a siminar, a couple of days later she asked me to use my car and I said no (for a VERY good reason, she drives like maniac and my car is 11 years old). She gets pissed and starts talking bad behind my back. This time I asked her if I could borrow some money and I would pay her back. She calls me Monday, ask me when would I bring the money and why didn't I get a birthday gift for my niece. I'm hurt by the question but of course I pay back the money and then I have to explain, like thousands of Americans, I live in a state where the cost of living is at a records high and can't really afford things like that right now. She says okay and then with...
2006-11-17 02:02:49 · 9 answers · asked by Yondie 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
...the money I gave her, she puts it in my daughters pocket. Yesterday she calls me up and ask me if I could spend the night so I could watch her kids and I say no because I don't have a car to get to where she is at (she lives more that 40 miles from where I live), and I don't have a change of clothes...I was at work. She gets pissed off and tells me to give me her money back. I just hung up on her because again, I was at work. She does this to me all the time. Am I being selfish? Should I just get on with my life?
2006-11-17 02:09:24 · update #1
You need to stop asking her for help at all, even though it is only once in a blue moon. I know how hard it can be with not having enough money but you need to learn to budget better and take away the things that you and your daughter do not really need, I can say this as i am divorced and had to look after 3 kids with very little money and i know its hard but you will learn that i the long run its easier to go without then to borrow for what you think you need. I also did the same thing you have and borrowed money from my sister it was the first and last time i did that and have never asked for help from anyone again. You need to show your daughter that you can do things on your own and without getting in deeper with having to try and payback what you borrow, the more you borrow the harder it gets. As for the sister thing my sister and i grew up as best friends and we where always close, but in the last 3 years we have become astranged from one another for reasons i won't go into. Yes it hurts but if you want to have a meaningful life you will learn to get over it and move on. The one good thing you are doing is saying no to her but you should also remember that she can do the same to you.
As for her looking after your daughter when you need her to i would stop that as anyone selling or doing drugs is not a good place to put a child even if its only for a little while.
2006-11-17 03:07:22 · answer #1 · answered by mcruckle 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to find more reliable people to watch your daughter.
Just pay back any debts you have to her, and be as nice to her as you can. But don't depend on her for anything.
It sounds like she is keeping score and figures on using it against you when she feels you "owe".
Does she really sell drugs?!? I hope you mean she's a pharmaceutical drug rep (sales person) or some legitimate job, although it doesn't sound that way from the way she behaves.
2006-11-17 10:18:46 · answer #2 · answered by kristin c 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She sells drugs and has kids? And you're thinking youre selfish? No, call the cops on your sister! I live an abusive household and things can only get worse. Call the cops before things get out of controll - the last thing you want is one of your cousions/njeieces/nefews in cocane.
2006-11-17 10:11:36 · answer #3 · answered by He See My Tears, He Saw Me Cry 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes for our own self preservation we must distance our selves from others family included. If you like the drama stay in the same situation only you can make changes for yourself to be happy. What do you think daughter is learning from this.
2006-11-17 10:40:11 · answer #4 · answered by dettie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl u need to go on with your life and take care of your family and stop streessing your self out with your sisters mess my sister is the same way i dont pay her any mine, because sometimes your family will bring u down more than strangers
2006-11-17 10:59:40 · answer #5 · answered by gwendolyn_vassell 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your sister sounds very selfish. It also sounds like she really doesn't have that much sense either.
2006-11-17 10:09:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
NUMBER ONE SHE IS SELLING DRUGS .
THAT IS A NO NO.
I WOULD NOT LET HER LOOK AFTER ANY KID OF MINE .
I WOULD TELL HER TO STAY OUT OF MY LIFE .
UNTIL SHE CLEANS UP HER ACT
2006-11-17 10:21:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you both have serious problems.
maybe you would have more money if you made sacrifices i.e. the internet.
2006-11-17 10:09:29 · answer #8 · answered by Harold I 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think both of you have issues.........get to therapy
2006-11-17 10:14:50 · answer #9 · answered by classy&sassy 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋