Wedding Shower....?

Question

I'm going to a wedding shower next weekend and I've never been to one before. I don't know the bride very well, but she is marrying by b/f's good friend. I'm not sure what goes on at a wedding shower, could someone explain it to me. Also they have a registry at The Bay what the appropriate amount to spend on a shower gift?? Also, I'm a little nervous because I'm not going to know anyone could someone give me pointers on getting to know the people there. Thanks....

Answer 1

You can spend as much or as little as you want on a shower gift. Unless the woman's a real b...witch, then she will appreciate anything that you give her.

I'm sorry you're not going to know anyone there. I always seem to be the odd one out, too! Just smile and be friendly. Try to learn everyone's names. Ask them how they know the bride, what they do for a living...cover all the bases. Laugh at their jokes. Sometimes, people play silly games at wedding showers (like baby showers), and if they do that, get as into it as everyone else does.

Good luck!

Answer 2

Spend what ever amount you feel comfortable spending. It's a gift, not a requirement.

At the shower, there should be refreshments, and probably some cheesy games for the participants to play, and prizes involved. Everyone will probably get a small token gift to take home. And before the end, the bride will open her gifts and get a chance to thank everyone.

Listen, as someone who has been a bridesmaid way too often, and a bride as well... these are never the most exciting events in the world. It'll be a little awkward for you since you don't know anyone, but hopefully someone will be kind enough to do introductions, and you might even meet a couple of women you might become friends with. At the least, you get some good food, and get to see how these darn things work for when the time comes for you to throw one for your friends, or for yourself... (and you might find a fun game to play, or learn one that you will NEVER have at your shower)

Answer 3

If it's a good shower there will be plenty of opportunities to get to know the people there. Sit next to someone that looks as lost as you are. There should be a couple of silly games and everyone will get a chance to introduce themselves and how they know the bride. Take advantage of the opportunities to open up. Showers are supposed to be fun. And the gift... I would say spend about half of what you plan to spend on the wedding gift.

Answer 4

I would say $30-40 is a good amount to spend on a shower gift. I have been to showers where each guest had a letter and their gift had to start with that letter...other time guests just bring what they feel is enough. Usually the things a bride gets during her shower is used on the wedding night...champagne and other "fun" things. It will be a great time...don't worry!!

Answer 5

Usually if you don't know someone that well, a $20-$30 gift is a good place to start.

The shower will be fun, there will be:
-Cake
-Punch
(while you eat and drink, you can sit and make casual conversation with people)
-Occassionally some games wil be played
-"Helpers" will open the brides gifts (after that you can go browse to see what all she got)
-Tell the bride congrats and be on your way

Answer 6

if she's marrying your b/friends good friend, then you'll see her more in the future-- I'm guessing so really try to get to know others. If you're not that outgoing, sit next to someone who IS. Their energy alone will help you get to know others, and is an easy way to be included in other conversations. Don't sit next to a wallflower, since they won't be as talkative.
People ALWAYS love to talk about themselves... esp women!
Gift buying: Depends on what she registered for. There is definitely a range of gifts on her list. Look it over, if prices aren't on the list, as the associate. I'd choose something more "middle of the road" pricewise. Not the cheapest, and not the most elaborate. Don't do the gift card.

Answer 7

You should spend whateve ryou feel comfortable spending and can afford.
At a shower you mostly sit around, eat, usually play some kind of games. Even if you don't know anyone, I wouldn't worry too much. Just be friendly adn talk to the people at your table. Ask them how they know the bride.

Answer 8

Get them a gift card to their favorite restuarnt. And a wedding shower is like when they get gifts for the bride and groom. Kinda like a baby shower! Just a little diffrent. Just go up to the bride and say "Hi, I am (insert name here) and I am a friend of your husbend's good friend, I am his girlfriend."