ok, its true that we are not at all compatible with each other...n i don't want him as a boyfriend, but on our date i said some things that i suppose had offended him. he is actually a friend. before we went out, he always called me or wrote me emails. but now he has stopped doing all this. i sent him a text message saying that i left something in his car..n i wanted it back...he never sent its reply. i am quite sure he is very angry with me. n i am feeling bad for what i said...how can i ask him for forgiveness? please help me.
2006-11-17 01:57:38 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i said to him that my parents will never like him.
i said to him i don't want myself to be seen with him in school.
i wrote an email to him saying how pathetic i felt for going out with him.
how can i make him my friend once again?
2006-11-17 01:59:40 · update #1
You simply say : "I am so sorry that I said those terrible hurtful things to you. I was being very shallow , selfish and INCONSIDERATE ! I wasn't thinking of your feelings at the time, in fact... I WASN'T THINKING AT ALL!!! . If you can find it in your heart to forgive me, I promise to always remember how important you are to me, and how much I value our friendship!
2006-11-17 02:09:34 · answer #1 · answered by photogram1 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
wow, you said a mouthful to him - all bad. how would you feel if he or someone you called a friend did that to you? you just might have put the last straw on the camels back. you emailed him for something you wanted back from him - you didn't even apologize at that time. bad move! you can try to email, again, this time telling him how badly you feel for what you said; but, you better ask yourself, did i mean all those words? - and if you did, you better review your friendship with him. you can't change what you honestly feel, but don't use him because you feel lonely without him in your life. you can't have it both ways - don't want him around where people are - want him around when I need him. that's not a friend, that's selfish and self-centered on your part. so, if you do email him, be truthful, without being mean, speak kind words from your heart. then, it will be up to HIM if wants you as friend in his world. also, ask yourself, why am i feeling so badly - is it because i said those words, or i never meant those words - and how do i see him in my life, just as a friend or something that can develop into something. once you clear your own mind, what you say to him will come easy. good luck.
2006-11-17 02:17:48 · answer #2 · answered by try 2 help 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the best thing you can do is to work on yourself, whatever inside you makes you say such mean and hurtful things. Work on why you need to feel superior. That is the root of the problem. Trying to make up with this person is not a good idea. You need to change yourself on the inside so you are not driven to this.
Search yourself and see why you would say such things. Then try to change. This behavior will not help you in the long run.
2006-11-17 02:06:47 · answer #3 · answered by Sufi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ouch. That was some pretty painful stuff! You just need to say you are sorry for the things that you said and sorry that you hurt his feelings but you would still like to remain his friend. Good Luck!
2006-11-17 02:05:58 · answer #4 · answered by Lt 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So tell me, what is the difference between your parents meeting him as a boyfriend or as a friend? Are they going to like or dislike him any differently? Yeah you offended him alright. Just be honest and upfront and hopefully he will forgive you.
2006-11-17 02:07:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you have to buck up and apologize and take back what you said. Take the heat from him and then find a way to make it up to him.
It might be a lost cause, you said some pretty awful things.
2006-11-17 02:06:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who would want to be a friend to you after all of that trash mouthing? Not me! I'd say you played it all wrong and now you have to face the fact that ONE person won't like you. And that's ok. It was all probably true anyway.
2006-11-17 02:06:21 · answer #7 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you burned the bridge on this one, darling. If you said those things to me, even as a friend, I don't think I'd want to talk to you again.
An apology would have been a better place to start, than "I need my stuff back" but I think it's too late. Why would he want you as a friend after the things you said to him?
2006-11-17 02:05:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
first of all you should have never said that if you wanted to go out with him then you wouldnt have told him that you didnt want to see him at school
if you really cared you would pay him a visit, and you wouldnt continue to offend him, if you really care you would secretly send something for forgivness
wat does ge like??
send him a giant card saying sorry, and if he likes chocolate send him some,
i am sure he feels horrible too, for not writing you, for not responding to your emails for, maybe even going on the date with you!!
just un-announcingly vidit him, make it a surprise!!
2006-11-17 02:14:40 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Give him a little time to cool off and then slowly step back up and apologize but don't go overboard with it - face to face - and with a few simple words you can probably do it with no problems - but first give him some time to calm down a bit
2006-11-17 02:07:41 · answer #10 · answered by Mad Marvin 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋