okay so my [ex] boyfriend still really likes me we dated all last summer and half of last year. He still tells me that he thinks about being with me and that he still likes me and all this but i have gotton over him and had about 3 boyfriends sence him well actually 3. i just dont feel the same way anymore and things have changed sence we havent been together if he wanted to be friends i am fine with that but i dont wanna be anything more. how do i till him ...i mean i understand that i could just be like " HEY I DONT LIKE YOU ANYMORE" but i dont wanna say it like that he can be very emotional and if he gets really upset i dont want it to all fall back on me and then him play a guilt trip on me. and try and make me feel bad but thats normally what a peron does when you break up with them they guilt trip you into feeling bad so that something good can come out of it.
2006-11-17 01:54:41 · 10 answers · asked by *[Hanna]* 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You need to be tactful and not ever burn any bridges behind you. The best thing is to tell him that you have moved on in your life and that while you still think of him as a friend, you have developed other interests to replace that void formed when you two broke up.
I would also tell him, as a friend, you will be there to support him and talk with him as friends, but your life must go forward just like his needs to move forward.
You have close it off nice and neat, without being deliberately hurtful and tacky. He may try the mind game, get upset, but dont let him make you feel guilty. When two people dont get along and break up, its an equal amount of blame for each one, so, just tell him he needs to get over it and go on with his life. Only if he starts to play head games with you, then be firm.
2006-11-17 02:07:31 · answer #1 · answered by George C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could be honest in a nice way. Maybe telling him that you're going to tell him something that comes truly from your heart but it may hurt him and ask if he is willing to hear. Tell him that you have no wish to deceive him and he'll find someone else that suits him because it'll be unfair to him if you've no feelings for him. You could say that you two don't suit but you still think he's nice. Tell him you're not meant for him or he should find someone better... I don't know if this helps but these sort of things can be emotional, right? Ok, good luck!=)
2006-11-17 02:04:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A big part of growing up is having your ego crushed every now and then, it makes you humble.
Just be upfront with him. I know it might seem harsh, but he needs to be told outright. Men don't often pick up on subtle hints. If he continues to make you feel bad about yourself for feeling that way, then just stop talking to him. Tell him you won't let him make you feel like crap for expressing your feelings, or lack thereof. A real friend will support you in your decisions.
2006-11-17 02:05:30 · answer #3 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't matter how you tell him, nice or not, he's going to be hurt. So, just tell the guy you found a new boyfriend. And, no, you can't be friends with him because he will never get over you if you do. Tell him the truth. Ask him not to call. Just cut it off and it's not a problem anymore.
2006-11-17 02:04:46 · answer #4 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it really is a problematical concern. that is hard to inform him your emotions without coming throughout as materialistic or worse. i imagine you should purely communicate over with him and tell him that you're extremely searching ahead to something specials because it is your 21st birthday. make confident you're sparkling on your emotions. attempt utilizing the I statements even as discussing it (i recognize sounds corny besides the undeniable fact that it does help). I had a similar issue with my ex-husband. I favor I had informed him formerly how i extremely felt. For quite a few years I made a gigantic deal about his b-day and he grabbed something on the most suitable minute on mine, in a good number of cases accessible save plant existence or something both thoughtful. My aspect is, once you experience damage or upset you want to communicate over with him. He can not study your recommendations. do not get disillusioned, purely be honest. also, do not save a tally about how a lot you spend in evaluation to him. bear in mind, that is the concept that counts.
2016-11-29 05:33:19 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just say that you can't be with him, and you wanna be friends but nothing more. Give him a big hug and let all your guilt out.
2006-11-17 02:04:58 · answer #6 · answered by Allie loves Nick J. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes you HAVE to be blunt with men. They really don't get it unless you are. So, just let him know that you still want to be friends with him and that you value that relationship with him but you do not want anything more. Good Luck!
2006-11-17 02:04:30 · answer #7 · answered by Lt 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, don't scream it at him, but say gently, "there was a reason we ended, and i don't feel that way about you anymore." but stand your ground.
i don't think that a woman needs a man to make her great, she is great on her own.
2006-11-17 02:05:53 · answer #8 · answered by sam 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
show up somewhere with another guy... guys hate that and it might be a good check on reality...
2006-11-17 02:06:08 · answer #9 · answered by Dave M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats normally what a person does when you break up with them
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2006-11-17 02:02:57 · answer #10 · answered by c g 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋