My 13 yo daughter is lovely, respectful, get good grades, a sweetheart and a bit crazy. She gave in to peer pressure and went to a mall with some friends in the car of a 19 yo boy we havent heard of. She knew she couldnt do that, but..I got to know cause she called me and asked me to get her at the mall. She told the truth, apologized, said she acted without thinking and promised not to do that again, But as a mom I have to correct her, which is hard after her sincere sorry mom, didnt mean to hurt you. But for a week she'll do some chores in the kitchen, thing she hates. She'll exchange swimming and hanging out with friends for a sweet kitchen pinafore, lol, 2hours a day. Of course I heard that Oh mom, please, but I just said, sorry hun, I love ya, youre a wonderful girl but needs a lesson. Thats how its gonna be. I wont forbid email, TV, etc, just want to give her a motherly lesson. She agreed she needed a lesson and isn't resentful, though a bit embarrassed with her sweet pinafore
2006-11-17 01:49:47 · 15 answers · asked by Anabela 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Go to the mall, clean the kitchen for a week?
Sounds like a pretty dumb lesson to me, sorry.
2006-11-17 01:55:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
I am a 16 year old and i have parents too...so i can say this that when you get punished after you appoligize it really sucks and you dont want to admit anything...so i think the whole clean the kitchen thing is a way of pawning off your responsibilities on your daughter., although what she did was wrong and even if she did say she was sorry and said she wont do it again.. but she really cant be treated like a little girl anymore you should be glad thats all she did. when you tighten the leash all we do is pull farther away..so you should really just talk w/ her and make sure that you and her are on the same page.
xoxox
emily
2006-11-17 10:06:11 · answer #2 · answered by ♥ Emily ♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm...I don't know that the punishment necessarily fits the crime, but I do think you did the right thing in sticking with it. She has to learn that when she does something wrong she has to pay consequences- no matter how sorry she is. That's life.
P.S. You're lucky to have such a sweet daughter- I was a tyrant when I was 13!
*Edit* To the people who say: "Now she won't ever tell you anything." You're simply wrong. I still tell my parents everything, and I was disciplined as a teenager, as do lots of other kids I know (I'm a youth coach). The phylosophy "might as well let them do it, cuz they're gonna do it anyway" is absolute rubbish. See how far that gets you in raising your children.
2006-11-17 09:59:10 · answer #3 · answered by Gillian W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am also a mom and I have always told my child no matter what if u need help call me I will be there do u really think that your child will call u next time I tink u need to rethink the issue even though she did something foolish and probably did not think before going she called u even though she knew u would be mad she trusted u now what about u trusting her
2006-11-17 09:58:35 · answer #4 · answered by bridgettemarie123@yahoo.com 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's perfectly fine. Actually making her do work instead of just grounding seems better than confining her to the house where she will just brood and sulk!
Good job!
I know others think you are pawning off your chores, so what? Your daughter disobeyed, and did something that could have been dangerous. I'm sure you talked to her about why you were so upset and why it was wrong. And it seems like she knows better. Now she has to take the consequences.
thanks for sharing!
2006-11-17 10:13:35 · answer #5 · answered by kristin c 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you, 13 is way too young to hang out with a 19 yr old boy. That's how trouble starts. She sounds very responcible and respectful. Good job on raising her right. Your punishment seemed appropriate.
2006-11-17 10:17:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your daughter is 13 and she told your the truth, your lucky. You may of over reacted you will be lucky if she tells you anything again. You taught her a lesson alright , don't tell mom. You may want to reopen the communication door that you slammed.
2006-11-17 10:31:37 · answer #7 · answered by dettie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the last thing yoou want to do is just pawn off chores you don't to do and expect her to learn the error of her ways. you need to sit down and explain to her why it is dangerous for her to do these things. but remember she is a young women now and should be treated as such if she isn't sexually active now she will be soon and yoou can't run away from that and hide your head in the sand it is your responsibility as a parent to educate her and give her the power to make those choices for herself
2006-11-17 10:00:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can't treat her like shes 7 forever, she's going to grow up and get new freinds and start talking to more boys, its part of life, theres no point in disciplining her for growing up, Not to sure that making her do that was right, especially at that age, shes not 10 anymore
2006-11-17 09:56:17 · answer #9 · answered by Salad Tosser 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What's a pinafore?
2006-11-17 10:12:46 · answer #10 · answered by He See My Tears, He Saw Me Cry 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋