My ex-girlfriend thinks I still love her. Everytime we talk on the phone she tells me how much she loves me. What do I tell her back? I want to be nice, but I just want to be friends, she wants more. I would be comfortable telling her I love her but she takes everything to seriously.
2006-11-17 01:40:05 · 25 answers · asked by x/x|xM!c#@3Lx|x\x 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I would tell her the truth but the thing is I still want us to be friends. Or is this not at all possible? (she's the manipulative type that always has to have her way.
2006-11-17 01:53:31 · update #1
Tell her the truth. You don't feel that way about her. She deserves the truth.
2006-11-17 01:46:01 · answer #1 · answered by imrtl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its always best to tell the truth, if you only care for her as a friend then you should stress this to her, you should not tell her you love her because there is a difference between being a friend only and being a girl/boyfriend relationship. If she can't except what you say and keep it as a friends only relationship then you should stop taking her calls and stop spending time with her until she can except your decision, the longer you speak and spend time with her the longer it will take for both of you to get on with your lives.
2006-11-17 09:53:10 · answer #2 · answered by mcruckle 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The problem here is you are not being a man. You are worried about being pushed into something you don't want to do so you avoid entanglements, or "obligations".
Look. You can say anything you want to her. You can DO anything you want to her and then, when she pushes you for something you don't want, you say....NO. What is she going to do about it? Force you? You are a MAN. She is a little girl. Stop worrying about what she may make you do because that simply won't happen unless you specifically choose to do it.
Do you care about her? Want her to feel good about herself? Then, by all means, feel free to say that you love her. You can even have sex with her, if you want (and we both know there are plenty of times that you want to, but you don't....because you worry that somehow that obligates you). Sheesh, get over it already. Do what you want to do and then, when she asks/demands/whatever, something that you don't want, simply tell her no. Quite frankly, this is not a big deal to her. If you tell her you love her and then, 2 weeks later she starts going, I'm glad we are back together again and you say, honey, I do love you but I don't want to be your boyfriend anymore, she will nod her head and go, okay. And that includes if she moves into your place for a couple of weeks to be your sex slave, btw.
All that neurotic crap about what you will have to do is in your head. You would be VERY surprised if you could read her mind. What is going on in there isn't what you think.
2006-11-17 09:53:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should be honest with her. I'm sure you are worried about hurting her feelings, but think how she will feel when she finds out you have lied to her. If you truely don't love her, then you need to tell her. She seems to be under the impression that there is a possibility for the two of you. Stop playing games with the girl and be straight and honest with her. Good luck.
2006-11-17 09:49:16 · answer #4 · answered by cookie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, if you have no feelings for her, then dont take her calls... By doing so, your leading her on to think that there is something there...
Second... Give it time. You may find that you "do" have feelings for her, (you did have her as your girlfriend at one time for "something", or was it just trying to get some sex from her?)...If it "was" just trying to get sex from her, and she didnt go for it, then you may be more shallow than you thought!
Also, the chemistry may not be there for you and you should tell her the straight truth. If she cant handle it, then tell her that its over and that you dont want to be friends anymore if she cant stand the truth...
I wish you well..
Jesse
2006-11-17 09:49:47 · answer #5 · answered by x 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to just tell her the truth. Tell her that you understand that she has these feelings for you but you only want to be friends. It may make her realize that she needs to move on like you are doing. Good Luck!
2006-11-17 09:49:12 · answer #6 · answered by Lt 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what you need to do is when she tells you love her tell her ok. Eventually just tell her you just want to be friends and nothing else. If you tell her you love her back she may think you do. So don't tell her. Just tell her the truth. She will eventually accept it.
2006-11-17 09:49:27 · answer #7 · answered by onetoughhotbabe 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her it makes you uncomfortable when she says that because you don't know how you feel. Also tell her it's better if she doesn't call. Dude, you can't be "friends" with this ex. Just do her a favor and cut it off. Change your number or something.
2006-11-17 09:48:26 · answer #8 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you need to end the phone conversations for awhile----this is just making it hard for her to accept that you are her EX now.....you need to back off and jus tell her you don't have feelings for her in that way anymore but you woudl like to be friends and that u think u should cut way back on the phone conversations to help the prosesss......i hope this helps
good luck n take care
~Ally
2006-11-17 09:51:51 · answer #9 · answered by greenismylife.songismyworld 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, first of all, just tell her you've moved on with your life, and say you love her as a friend, and you can't love her as a lover anymore because you just don't feel that way about her, then reassure that you love her as a friend, and tell her to forget about the history you and her had together, and just be friends.
2006-11-17 09:48:18 · answer #10 · answered by superboredom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋