Is it just me, but when shitty stuff happens in your life, all the other shitty stuff REALLY gets magnified?

Question

What I mean is, something happens. By itself, not the end of the world, but when it DOES happen, it makes you remember with perfect clarity the REALLY shitty stuff that has happened in your life. Like for example, you break up with somebody, you knew it was going to happen, but none the less it happened. And because of THAT sadness, you also remember that your a single parent, your divorced, your twin brother committed sucide, your 30 and starting over, blah, blah, blah. You know, for example. Any one get what I'm getting at?

And I mean shitty stuff from years ago, not just recently, stuff that you may have not thought about in a couple years.

Answer 1

I know and it seems to hit you big time at 30. I've just recovered from mine. For some reason we are made to think that things should be set in place & we should have it all worked out by age 30 & so when we get there and it's not.. we start to wonder about our entire life and everything that got messed up along the way.
I lost 2 close friends to suicide & 3 to drugs & illness in the last 5 years also & my own problems were magnified throughout. Sometimes it seems that it all happens to you personally. One day I sat at the beachfront watching people walk past after another funeral & I looked at every persons face.. I knew that no matter how they appeared, everyone has SOMETHING big they are dealing with somewhere inside & there's nothing you can do about it but put one foot in front of the other, live the next minute, hour, day & just as sadness attracts more sadness, so does happiness. It DOES come then it pours also & without the tapestry that got you there, it wouldn't exist.

Answer 2

Yeah I do!

Sometimes that's just the way it is.

I don't know what more to say. I am sorry for all you are going through and for what you suffered in the past.

Something insignificant (or less significant) that makes you remember painful events is called a trigger. So for you the breakup was a trigger for other painful events to come flooding back into your present thoughts.

Again, I am sorry. You're not alone, this happens to me too, even with remembering nasty things people said to me or bad arguments.

Answer 3

Sometimes, when I was very young (7) I was the primary caregiver to my 5 yr and newborn brother. My sister who was older pretty much was doing her own thing, my mother was hopped up on antidepressants, and my father was the bread winner who worked long hours to keep a roof over our heads and food on the table. After caring for them until I was 16 I moved out and my youngest brother slowly started getting in with some rather bad crowds. When I saw how he turned out I felt responsible because I felt I should have stayed to take care of him. Now I am going through some of the same difficulties with my own son and it dredged up all those feelings and memories.
I would really like to wish you well and I hope everything works out for you.

Answer 4

It's because when something bad happens that forces you to become negative and think negative and remember all the bad stuff. Try thinking on the positive side, you have kids that you are doing a great job raising and they love you endlessly, you got out of a bad relationship to make yourself happier and because of that you are developing strenght and independence, you still have family that loves you very much and will be there for you no matter what, your 30 still VERY MUCH YOUNG! And you are just now waiting on someone who is even worthy of YOUR TIME!

Think positivie!!!!

Answer 5

Amen! It's like the shitty stuff all snowballs downhll and grows bigger and bigger until you feel like you are being buried under a massive wad of cold, wet, slimy....shitty stuff....that is suffocating you and you can't figure out how to get out from under it. I totally feel for you, shug!

Quick! Somebody get The One a case of Yuengling, some bong hits and some meaningless hot nookie! Stat!!! Or a pedicure, some chocolate and a copy of Moonstruck. Whatever works....

Answer 6

always relate to stuff that happened from a child to an adult
icluding finding out my brother was in fact my father and my parents were my grandparents at 13
being attacked as a child by a pervert finding a friend of mine hanging being ripped off and losing 20k losing my home
having to pay out for something that i had planned to treat myself with finding my natural mother was lovely loads i could write a book and its hard to remember the nice things

Answer 7

I understand.So let the old stuff go,cause it's over so let it rest in peace.And if you keep remembering it,you haven't come to terms with it yet. You need to learn how to think positive and know that things will change when you make them by doing what right for yourself,no one can do this for you,but you.

Answer 8

When something shitty happens in my life i always bring in the past with it as well. Something i gotta deal with i guess as it brings me a pretty stressful life by having it all mixed up in this cauldrum.

Answer 9

Yes, this happens to many people! I wonder if its because we somethimes dont resolve old crap in our lives. And remember things happen for a reason! Every event, whether it is good or bad, makes us stronger and wiser human beings.

Answer 10

You are absolutely right about this! And the best thing that I can even think of to say is keep your chin up!
We all have our own journey to travel in this lifetime and sometimes what we want isn't what we need.....but someone else is watching over that!