What's wrong with me???????? Help please?

Question

if i died 2day, i wudnt have any goood 2 say about my life, i kno its clique , but iits tru .i can't remember the last time i was happy. I have hit all time low. I've jus started uni and im just feel lost. i think im have completed a full week of lecutres once , i hate it there, id much rather sleeep and i don't have any friends there, i don't have many friends much anywhere else nw , its like they have all abandoned me. MY family think im seriously damaged because i cry all the time, but just can't help it , i wish i could. I have difficultly commmunicating what i feel and what i think and when i do so , my family ridcule me and tell me 2 shut up, this makes me extremely angry and i go into an angry fit, i start screaming and crying hysterically. My dad and mum think im an awkard child. I just don't want to be me right nw. I have always been down, but not this low. What's wrong with me??????

Answer 1

Your family sucks! You have a low self esteem. Probably broke, hugh? You should go to a recreational center or church..and talk w/someone about finding a mentor..evade difficult persons. They are hurting and find satisfaction with your discomfort! There is hope..and it is not where you are buddy!

Answer 2

Mate I feel for you, it sounds as if nothing is right for you at the moment. Going to uni and studying is a very stressful time. However it can also be a great way of meeting people. try joining some clubs in uni or outside and you will meet a whole range of people with whom you can become good friends with.

If you feel that you may have mental issues holding you back then you should see a gp. They should give you good advice and maybe prescribe you something. I think the only other thing to do if you feel really down is get away from everything for a bit, claim mitigating circumstances in uni and drive somewhere and relax for a weekend or a week, maybe if youve got some money you can have a proper holiday.

Wish you all the best.

Answer 3

Sounds to me like you suffer from depression. The kind caused by a chemical imbalance in the brain. You sound like you have a lot of the classic signs. Don't worry, it's really common. But you need to see a phychiatrist (I know...scary, right? But don't get all creeped out by the shrink. They are there to help.) A psychiatrist can determine whether or not you have a chemical imbalance that can be balanced out with medication. If that is the case, they might also recommend you see a psychologist, so that you have someone to talk to once a week. That way, all of your frustrations and all the things that are bothering you, you don't need to keep bottled up inside. And they can offer advice (if you want it) on how to make going about your daily life, less stressful.

Once the correct medication and the correct dosage kicks in, you will feel better. It's incredible what the chemicals in the brain can do to a person when they are imbalanced. The meds will just balance it out so you will feel normal. You won't feel sad all the time. And being able to talk to someone every week will help you too.

It's going to be ok. Just hang in there. You're not alone.

Answer 4

It sounds like you are suffering from depression. You need to see someone - soon. Finishing school and heading off to Uni can be a daunting experience because it is a VERY BIG change in your life. Unless you have experienced it - it is impossible to fathom. Your parents may not understand your feelings as university is always depicted as this fabulous time of freedom and exploration - which it can be - but not without some teething problems. It can take a while to find friends and get yourself established. The rules are all different and not always clear! Drop out rates in Uni s all over the world are far too high. The orientation process is inadequate to say the least - particularly for students who have no network of friends to support them. Universities usually have counsellors to help and advise students finding the transition difficult - but alas - the service they provide is usually and sadly, under-utilized. Find a counsellor at your uni and make an appointment to see him/her. It's just a tiny little step but it may help you enormously. You need someone to help you. No one has the right to ridicule your feelings or thoughts. I hope you find your way. Good luck.

Answer 5

You're just feeling very insecure about yourself right now and you lack alot of self confidence...but believe me whenever you feel like you have it bad someone has it worst and you should always remember that. Cheer up, and forget what other people think about you - there's no need to cry and as long as you have life there are many great things you can accomplish. Find something that interests you and stick to it - you can even join groups where you can mingle with and meet new friends. You can be anything you want to be and now that ur in university many great things can come about. I wish i can see you just give you a hug and let you know that everything is going to be okay. Please don't cry and plz believe that there is nothing wrong with you...just smile and remember somebody, somewhere admires and loves you.

Answer 6

You are sounding a bit low.
You have gone to a place that is new and strange, it will take time but you will get used to it.
There are student councilors attached to your Uni and i think you need to speak to someone, NOW.
Have a look on the notice boards and see if there are any groups you could join and make new friends who have the same interests.
Please be assured you are not alone, there will be many people feeling the same way and don't know where to turn.
Stop feeling that it is all your fault, it is not, it is natural but you need to speak to someone right away even if it is for reassurance that you are not alone.
You need the support from your family, you could try speaking to a close family friend who will be able to speak to your family for you (if you can't)
You are on a long hard slog but believe me it will be worth it in the end.

Best of luck.

Answer 7

First of all, there's nothing wrong with you. I certainly believe that's not the issue! =) You are just going through a tough time right now. I would agree that the best thing you can do about this is to pray about it. Ask for guidance and strength for this difficult low you're going through. Pray for your family to be more understanding. It will all work out, just have some faith. You may want to consider getting involved with a church youth group and find some really cool friends. I'll pray for ya, just know that! Keep your chin up! Smile =)

Millie

Answer 8

Sounds like a serious case of clinical depression from here. My husband has same. There should be a counselor at the school you can talk to. Or the local MHMR. It doesn't mean you're crazy, you're not. You're just horribly sad. If you can talk to someone at the counseling office or mhmr, it really will help. Your family is like that because they don't understand. I didn't get it at first when my husband started acting different, thought he was just being a jerk. Then, when he finally got help, it was like this big light coming on. Oh. Ok, he's NOT just a jerk, there's actually something wrong. It's a chemical imbalance in the brain, that causes it, you can get meds that help, sometimes it takes several tries on different meds, but it will help! You can get your life back, and you can feel better. Please talk to someone who is actually trained to handle it, though. Your family obviously isn't. Please get help. It's not bad to ask for help. Really it isn't. You will feel so much better, even talking to someone who understands will help. I've watched my husband go through this quite often, because he keeps quitting the meds, so be smart about it and do what the doctors tell you, and you'll feel much better. Really. And people do care.

Answer 9

Hey man, sounds like you're definitely down in the dumps. I started a new college and it was very intimidating. I didn't do anything. Then I went to a meet and greet and networked with a few people who invited me to a peer group where I can help other students with their work. I ended up being able to totally control my schedule and do what i wanted, when i wanted. That was very motivating for me. So get off your butt and get out there! Even if you aren't friendly, just hang out somewhere like a coffee shop, or email your classmates off the roster online and create a study group, or discussion group about topic of your choice.

Answer 10

Depression Symptoms
Medical Author: Melissa Conrad Stöppler, MD
Medical Editor: Dennis Lee, MD

Depression is a very common condition that is believed by many experts to be the number one cause of disability in the world. In the U.S.,17% of people will experience depression at some point in their lives. An estimated 19 million people in the U.S. are currently suffering from depression. Depression is more common in women then in men, with 25% of women suffering from depression severe enough to warrant treatment at least once during their lifetime.

It’s important to remember that depression is an illness that affects both the body and mind. It is not something that we can just wish away or “snap out of”, nor is it a sign of a weak character. The good news about depression is that almost everyone suffering from this condition can be helped with treatment, so it is important to recognize the signs and symptoms of depression.

According to the U.S. National Institute of Mental Health (NIMH), the main symptoms and signs of depression are the following:

Persistent sad, anxious, or "empty" mood
Feelings of hopelessness, pessimism
Feelings of guilt, worthlessness, helplessness
Loss of interest or pleasure in hobbies and activities that were once enjoyed, including sex
Decreased energy, fatigue, being "slowed down"
Difficulty concentrating, remembering, making decisions
Insomnia, early-morning awakening, or oversleeping
Appetite and/or weight loss or overeating and weight gain
Thoughts of death or suicide; suicide attempts
Restlessness, irritability
Persistent physical symptoms that do not respond to treatment, such as headaches, digestive disorders, and chronic pain
If you have been experiencing several of these symptoms to a degree that they have impaired or affected your life, talk to your doctor. He or she can help you find out whether or not you are suffering from depression and direct you to appropriate resources for treatment and recovery. For more, please read the Depression article.


Reference: NIH Publication No. 00-3561, 2000.

Last Editorial Review: 9/27/2005