If you were abused do you think you would be able to tell anyone?

Question

If you were a teenagfer and the abuse was by your uncle

It's not me, thanks for the consern

I just wanted to know what YOU would do - I am NOT abused, Thank God, and if I was, I would try and find the courage to tell

Answer 1

I've suspected for several years that my brother-in-law is sexually abusing my nephew. I've reported it but nothing was ever done. All the signs are there. My sister and brother-in-law are now separated and my nephew (nine years old) is living with his dad. I'm so worried because he sleeps with him every night. He doesn't let the boy stay the night anywhere, not even with my sister (the boys mother). My nephew will go to my sisters house for a couple hours but once it gets close to bedtime he starts getting angry, throwing fits, crying... wanting to go home. There is no way I could approach my nephew about this as he is sooooo protective of his dad. He gets VERY angry when someone even talks about him, let alone ask him questions about him. So I guess I would like to know the same thing, if a child is being abused would he/she tell someone?

Answer 2

cant answer that one im afraid,,,abuse isnt just down to the physical and depending on how long this had been going on the mental abuse may stop someone telling even close friends/family about it,,abusers usually try to do this to people who they feel are vulnerable and that being the case,would convince the person to tell ,would be something they could not do and even if they did,,bad things would happen..awful

Answer 3

I wasn't abused by an uncle of mine but I was made to give a hand job to a lorry driver when I was young. I didn't tell anyone then and I regret not doing so. I would say tell someone, before he does it again.

Answer 4

I would scream it to the rooftops! If I were a teenager I would tell my parents, the police, Child Protective Services, and STOP HIM! If he was abusing one girl, he was probably abusing several others. There is a law against sexual abuse and I'd get it used to the full extent on this pervert before one more kid got hurt!

Answer 5

I was physically mentally and sexually abused by my Step dad he was 74 years old. My sister was done the same way but it started with her at age four. I was six before it started with me. I tried to tell but no one listened. Everyone including our mom believed him. But things are different you can go online and find help whether it's you or a friend you need to report abuse and do it now before it gets worse.

Answer 6

I was sexually abused by the son of a family friend between the ages of 6 and 12 I told in the beginning but no one believed me. It wasn't until he was "caught in the act" that I was finally believed and then blamed for the actions he took.

Answer 7

its easy for everyone to say "you gotta tell someone" but they dont really know how bad the situation makes you feel. i was abused from the age of 6 - 11 and only tried to tell someone once and of course they just went to the guy and asked him why would i be saying things like that since they know he would never do anything like that. of course it only mad things worse for me so i never said anything to anyone else about it until about a year ago (im 31 now) when i told my husband about somethings that had happened to me. He was wondering why i wouldnt let anyone babysit for us besides my mom or his mom and i had to tell him why. i hate talking about it because it makes me feel dirty and as if it was all my fault but i wish now that i would have said something to someone because now i believe that im still carrying the anger and fear from way back then. i dont want to hurt my family but i may be over protective. i just wish i had someone that wouldnt think i was trying to get attention or cause trouble and could help me out of my situation. the guy was a close family friend that really my parents accepted as my "uncle" when they couldnt find a babysitter they would make me go to his house after school until one of them got off work. to them he was a nice guy that chose to take care of his invalid grandmother which is why they thought it would be ok for me to stay for a couple of hours. please get some help

Answer 8

This is a hard one. I think it would be so hard to really talk to anyone about about it as you wouldn't want to relive the horrible memories, but on the other hand it might feel goo to get it out in the open. Maybe talk to a Police oficer or a close friend or family member that you can trust.

Answer 9

If you or someone that you know is being abused then tell your teacher, the police, school counsellor or parents. The uncle is the adult and he should know better. You need to stop this before it gets worse.

Answer 10

I don't find it easy to tell but i would advise you if you are the one being abused to report this to some kind of youth hot-line for advise on what to do since the trauma is too much to handle all alone.