Can long distance relationships work? Or am I just being gullable?

Question

I was working in cyprus for the summer and fell for a guy I worked with. We got together and he's texted me most days since I've been home telling me how much he's missing me and wants to be with me, but I can't help thinking 'yeah right'. I'm due to go back in march time but do I go thinking I'm going to have a relationship with this guy and be with him or just get him out my head? I miss him so much it hurts :(

Answer 1

It depends on how much time you spent with him before you left and how well you got to know him. If you really hit it off with him and no one else you meet in the meantime comes even close, (that goes for him too) then it probably will work out. If you are both equally interested then there's a good chance it will work, otherwise it probably won't. Good luck! Hope it works out for you!

Answer 2

Well that all depends upon how strong of a woman you are. To be quite honest.. I'm the "Clingy-Type" of woman, and I want to know where my man is, at all times. Altho, I did have a boyfriend after two years of being devorced. And he owned his own home across town. He was a "jewel", and I just loved the way our relationship was going... But, it didn't grow.. He had his home, and never mentioned anything ever going any further than it was.. And at that time, I was in the middle of getting a bigger apartment.. so it all was just too wierd for me.. It was like our relationship was always a date.. Just a date, never grew into anything stronger... I wanted more, and he was fine the way things were.. so, we parted our seperate ways.. I think you need to be careful, because you could give your heart to this man, and being that there's all this distance between you two, could cause problems, in your relationship down the line.. That is if your "Clingy" or want more out of the relationship, than your getting. Good-luck,, to you hun.. Thats something I couldn't do again... But thats just me, some women are alot stronger about things then I am....

Answer 3

Long distance relationship is hard to manage and maintain but it depends on how deep your feelings are for each other. Communication is the right key to it, since it is the only way both of you can be together. You may be physically apart, but through communication, you can be psychologically, mentally and emotionally together. The secret here lies on the kind of arrangement you will come up with when it comes to communicating with each other. Your schedule as well as in what way you are going to communicate.
I am in a long distance relationship and my bf and I are on opposite sides of the world but we learn to adjust to each other's schedule and time zone. We see to it that we talk before we both sleep and when he wakes up each morning.
Take advantage of the power of technology nowadays...the power of the internet, webcam, pc to pc calls, pc to phone calls and the power of cellular phones.
If there's a will, there's a way.
Lastly, ask God to be in the middle of your relationship. The divine power of the Lord will help the relationship become stronger and deeper that can hurdle the difficulty of being physically apart.
Don't let distance hinder what you feel for the guy, take the risk and follow your heart.
Goodluck!

Answer 4

It depends. If it works, one of you will have to move to be with the other after a while. I went to a wedding in Cyprus (I know the Cypriot family) where an Irish girl met this Cypriot on holiday, she went back there for a week's holiday a few months later. The next time she went, she stayed there for good. They have been together eight years now. I must warn you though, I met a Cypriot who came over for two weeks and I couldn't wait to get rid of him. He treated me as a second class citizen, and his attitude towards women was disgusting.

Answer 5

My daughter had a long distance relationship. She would go over to Ireland every other weekend and he would come here. They both decided to move in together. He came over to England, the relationship lasted a month. I explained to my daughter, although you are both in love you have'nt really got to know one another properly, it is like an adventure. He did'nt know her bad habits and she hated his. His tea had to be on the table for 5pm prompt, if it was'nt he would be sulky and sit like a spoilt baby all night. I dont think that they do work. It was a pity that it did'nt work out because all of our family got on really well with him. But it was'nt us who had to live with him. They had been together for two years.

Answer 6

i think it can work but it involves alot of trust-strength-and openess.....as well as missing the other person a whole lot!
sweetie-i really think u r in love with this guy-try it out and see how it gose he just might be the one for you! you will never know if u don't try-and remember you were brought together for a reason---and u miss e/other for a reason-so i say jump on the oppertunity while you can-u don't meet the perfect guy every day!

Answer 7

Does put an added strain on things and no mistake.....talkingon the phone is not the same as being and doing together. Will work if you both want it too but not indefinately....the time will come when you are either together properly or not together at all.....

Answer 8

Yes, A long distance can work. You must understand though that you can not and should not hold him up/ or yourself to the same standards as a normal relationship. what happens to each of you while your apart can not be held against each other. Honesty always, long distance or not. But what happens while the two of you are apart can not be held against you are him and be a basis for a break-up.

Answer 9

I'm sceptical and I think not.

My sister in law just got with a guy in the navy, who spoils her rotten and has loads of money, but she only gets to see him for a few weeks at a time. She seems really happy though, I just hope she proves me wrong.

I guess money can buy happiness!

Answer 10

In my experience, they don't. But I know many couples that it has worked for. I think if you go in with high expectations, you're probably going to be disappointed. If you're more casual about what may or may not happen and something does, all the better.