I really need to know...(serious answers please..men only!!!thanks)?

Question

i am a black attractive woman and i try my best when it concerns relationships..the thing is black,asian and white men seem to like only white women,no disrespect but i want to know the reason why..is it a pride thing?you can be best in bed ,a good cook,nice body n all that,even have humour and style but their first preference is white girls..nothing you do is enough..and even when i like a guy i have no chance because he is either looking for blonde,latino,or otherwise..?the rest just want to have fun and do not really consider serious relationships with me..

Answer 1

well i'm a white guy and color means nothing to me, skin hair or eyes, sure i will have to admit i have a spot for drity blonde semi long curly hair but not meaning aht is all i will ever go for....i love black women, i have never dated one cuz there are not many were i live but if i ever met one that was attractive and i found her fun to date and in the bed hell yes i skin color would mean nothing to me

Answer 2

While unfortunately, most men dont actually hold anything against you for being black. People are generally attracted to what they are a little more familiar with pertaining to how they were raised. You may want to look in places where there is a greater percentage of African Americans.

My overall answer is that for the most part, things go on a case-by-case basis and there is no complete answer I cen give you without knowing more about where you are from. While the explanation above is often true whether the person realizes it or not, I can't state that as fact for everyone. Im sorry about your recent run of bad luck, but chin up, you'll land a guy eventually.

Anyways, if you have to win someone over, it usually isnt worth it. The 'one' will be attracted to you from the beginning.

Answer 3

Thats actually a very hard question. But I'll throw my few cents in. Most men are afraid of strong women, so if you give off that, strong woman vibe. Alot of men will avoid you. Also most people have a fear of rejection so if they think you will reject them, they probably will not take the risk. Its redictulous and unfortunate but thats the way it is. So you might need to take that first step to get the attention.

As for the only liking white women, maybe thats just the men you have been running into. It might be a pride thing for some men. It might be just preference for others. Even others it might be for variety. Its hard to say really why the men you run into seem to like white women. You could try to ask one next time.

As for serious relationships thats definately determined by the man in question. Chances are those men are probably not looking for a serious relationship regardless of who they are with. So I wouldn't take it personal.

But rest assured there are men out there interested in more than just white women.

Answer 4

Long ago the landlord of my brother, an elderly gay gentleman, had quite a quaint way of identifying with people in general.

Dealing with blacks and whites, he said everything is seen as status symbols. He defined that the white male is at the top of the ladder, with white women, black men and black women following in order down the ladder.

It certainly isn't equal or fair since there's millions of people of many races and of either gender that defy those stereotypes, but in some cases it made sense (even though it's very unfair.)

Like most people, I see how various people of color (or not) act and treat each other on a daily basis and there's certainly room for good blacks, good Asians, good whites, etc., and bad blacks, bad Asians, and bad whites, etc.

From my perception, the best thing in all this that you've made a discovery that you can tell if a person is serious enough for a relationship with you or not. Most people never get to that level.

While I can feel for you by not being treated fairly, at least you're aware on how to weed out men who only want fun.

By being patient and trusting your values and instincts, one day you'll meet a man who will be serious and worthy of having a serious relationship with you.

Answer 5

Untrue. I know a black women who is married to a good looking, nice white guy. I myself and some of my friends would not have a problem with a serious relationship with a black girl. Are you sure you are looking at the right guys. Rather than trying to find reasons why a guy would not have a serious relationship with, look for reasons why they would. Who knows, a change of perception might just work, worth a try.

Answer 6

After reading your entire question I reached to the conclusion that you consider yourself degraded as compared with white girls. No you are mistaken. If you are an intelligent and attractive woman, if you are good in bed, nice behaviour, you are an acceptable figure for permanent relationship. I LIKE BLACK. It is not bad . Black are not inferior to any one as far as humanbeing is concerned.. They have equal rights and opportunities. I agree with you that todays guys are prone to relationship with wihite girls. Whiteness should not be taken as a creterion for permanent relationships. White girls are very infidel. They change friends very often. If on the other hand, you want to win the heart of a good man, apart being black, you must prove as being a good wife, a good friend, and a very nice life partner. You should not discount yourself. You are equally good.

Good Luck Darling.

Answer 7

You have just had bad luck with stupid guys, who didn't deserve your time in the first place. I know many white guys (attractive too) and many black guys, who only find black girls attractive. I also know a white guy who only dated white girls (just ended up that way) and then he ended up marrying a black girl and they've been together for 5 years and they just had a baby recently (so it wasn't because of a baby that they got married). Just think of your luck with your guys in the past stepping stones to your true guy....kind of corny.....but seriously, we all had to cross some kind of shi**y path to be with someone we really love.

And I want to mention "Richard G-idiot" is speaking only for himself. I'm sure he's a prize.....

Answer 8

i dont belive that to be true...and i think it depends on where you live..i am a white male, and find black females just as attractive as white females or asian or anyother race. but you have hit on another subject that i belive is the root ..really, and its culture..
usually to me it seems when i see a white male with a black female it appears as though they have a cultural understanding, i am the typical cant dance white guy , who likes country and heavy metal..i think id be hard pressed to find a black girl who cant dance and likes country !!!
But really black women are very sexy and attractive, i just feel as though they wouldnt be interested, so therefore i never aproach them ..i guess my ignorance assumes that if im not the g'd out thug (meaning the clothes and car style) then shes not interested......so really i think most white guys assume the cultural diferences are too much and their advances would be scoffed at.

Answer 9

look dear i tell u the fact about some guys.. mostly guys go 4 looks of d gals,wen dey feel they r attractive,& so sweet by looks.they jump on one conclusion that how to get this gal. U r right men have pride little bit(not all)but ya... u dont worry u r absolutely right at ur place, but wat2 do.. there r guys who go 4 more brighter & shorter way then bit darker ,long way.. I pray & hope u get the right person in ur Life who wil love u 4 wat u r .. not how u look.
BEST LUCK!

Answer 10

You just need to find the right guy. societal conditioning plays a great roll, down on a subconscious level for 'some guys' and can be very hard to shake. You need to find a guy who wasn't raised in this type of environment. probably about 10-20% of guys out there are like this,, unconditioned.