If you bf was Very jealous and always accused you of cheating and looking at other guys when you dont, what does this mean?? and what if he doesnt let you go through his phone but he can go through your phone whenever he wants???
Im very suspicious right now, i dont even know where he works and we have been together for a year! :-(
2006-11-17 00:52:39 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well ur man is obviously insecure.
he probably feels that you are better
than him [maybe your smarter, more
athletic, better looking, etc.] and feels
that because of this, he has to be weary.
he goes through your phone just to assure
himself that you are in love with him and
only him. i had a bf that sounds very much
like yours and caught him looking through my phone
once as well. sounds like hes also pretty
possessive; like, when you go out in public
and some other guy looks at you,
he rushes to embrace you or put his
arm around you.
hes probably just insecure about your
relationship.
as for his reasoning behind not
telling you where he works;;;
maybe he works for the FBI?
im trying to be optimistic with this
part of the question. it is very odd
he hasnt told you where he is employeed.
its possible he is embarassed by it
or something, also. but dont rush to
distrust him unless he has given you
reason to. think back to the past; has
he lied to you before? been unfaithful,
or disloyal? if so, its very possible there
is something goin on.
if i were you, i would talk to him and tell
him whats bothering you. tell him theres
somethings you need to clear up and you
want to discuss them with him right away,
to ease you mind. if hes considerate enough,
he will listen to your every word and give
you understandable explanation. if he is unwilling
to listen, then he isnt worth spending all
your energy and suspicion on.
goodluck to you!!! :]
2006-11-17 01:03:38 · answer #1 · answered by sweet.heart_xoxo 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
he's hiding something. My husband did and still does sometimes, these things. And guess what? All the things he accused me of doing, he was doing himself....
guilty conscious playing a role here. He knows what he has gotten away with so far and is afraid that you will do it.
be glad you aren' t married to him so you can move on without too much trouble.
2006-11-17 00:59:19 · answer #2 · answered by Jennifer L 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's hiding something. If he goes through your stuff and he wont reciprocate the freedom..then he's keeping secrets. A year is a long time to still be in the dark. Cut your losses and move on.
2006-11-17 00:58:47 · answer #3 · answered by trevnme 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
That is not good. He does have something he is hiding. With the jealous and obsessive behavior, I wouldn't be surprised if he could also be violently abusive. I'd say get out of the relationship as fast as you can.
2006-11-17 01:03:53 · answer #4 · answered by sunflower 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yeah he could me. Maybe he is getting out his guilt by trying to find a problem with you. But with the info u have given, there is a BIG "maybe".
Anyway, open ur eyes n be aware of ur surroundings n ur bf.
2006-11-17 01:08:24 · answer #5 · answered by Qwerty 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Alert!!! This man is WAY controlling and possessive! Is that what you really want in a man? AND he can't even tell you about himself? LEAVE before it gets worse, because believe me it will and I KNOW there are way better fish in the sea for you honey :).
2006-11-17 01:00:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
l think a year is enough to know someone,so if you love him and he loves you,don't be suspicious save your relationship,sit down and talk to him ask why he behaves like that.you might just find that its insecurity.also you need trust good luck.
2006-11-17 01:22:47 · answer #7 · answered by Joreen M 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well....u could have gotten my answer faster by just switching ur first paragragh with ur last one...u've know him for a year and don't know where he works...I think YOU already know the answer to ur question....seems like u just need reassurance...
My OPINION (from experience) he is either married/engaged/has a girlfriend/has another life/ or he is cheating on u....
Guilty behavior =guitly person...
goodluck
2006-11-17 01:01:45 · answer #8 · answered by BuRn Di WiSdOm WeEd 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
he may be hiding something. but more than likely he is just a typical control freak ,i would change my code and not let him have access then get out of this relationship before it becomes a domestiv violence issue.
2006-11-17 01:01:28 · answer #9 · answered by robert s 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
For your first query, it proves that he loves you and doesn't want to lose you. For the second one however.... He doesn't let you go through it because he feels hurt that you don't trust him enough. He goes through yours because HE doesn't trust you enough.
In other words, he doesn't trust you.
2006-11-17 01:01:20 · answer #10 · answered by Bl00die 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋