My bf and I have been dating 8 months...it started great, but now things are going downhill...we argue ALL the time, we've almost broke up like a million times, he's cheated on me with 3 or 4 different girls....he's 19 and I'm 17....we live 2 1/2 hours away from each other b/c he's in college. I don't want to leave him because I love him, but is that what's best for me?
2006-11-17 00:48:45 · 29 answers · asked by sheand24 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you stay with him, you'll have a life of misery. Cut your losses and dump him. He wont change his ways
2006-11-17 00:53:36 · answer #1 · answered by trevnme 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
In 8 months he has cheated on you with 3-4 different women. He has had 2 every other month that he has been with you. You are still in high school he is in college. You are living 2 different life styles. He is more independent and has the freedom to see other women and he is. He is not ready to be in a committed relationship. Why would you continue to want to be in this relationship and he is hurting you?
2006-11-17 00:59:30 · answer #2 · answered by justturning40 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I;ll tell you like I would tell my lil sister, You deserve better.
What does it take for people to understand about cheating. He is cheating for a reason. I don't see how noone could care about another and cheat on them. Why are you with me then? Your bf has done it 3 or 4 times just think about it. What if one of these girls he was with had AIDS or something and he came back to you not knowing that he was infected. People have to understand that excepting the fact that someone cheated on you 3 to 4 time, you are playing with your life because you don't know who has what these days. In my opinion I believe you are to young to be dealing with things like this, think about school, or volunteer some where. Sorry if I sound like a mother but I told you I would tell you like I would tell my lil sister. Good Luck on whatever you do.
2006-11-17 04:03:09 · answer #3 · answered by T. S. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I realize you're both young and you love him but he's obviously not ready to settle down and be loyal. He's cheated numerous of times already and is now arguing with you all the time. Sounds like the classic case of "let me make you break up with me so I don't have to and feel guilty". I'm sure he cares for you but he seems to be at a point in his life where he wants his freedom more than a relationship with you. It's utimately your choice to decide what is best for you. If I was in your shoes, I'd dump him. You deserve someone who not only loves you but is loyal to you and respects you. Remember, when one door closes, another one opens to bigger and better things. Good luck!
2006-11-17 00:59:54 · answer #4 · answered by Oracle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Alert! Alert! Warning! Warning!
This is the jerk alert, step away from the jerk and get a new boyfriend stat!!!!! Choosing to remain in the area of the jerk may cause damage to your health, self esteem, goals, dreams and many other vital areas of your existence.
Repeat after me:
I am a good person.
My boyfriend is not a good person.
I am smart.
My boyfriend is an idiot.
I am better then him.
I do not need him.
I will leave him.
I will be better off without him. (In fact I might be better off living with a radioactive and starving polar bear then with this a$%hole)
Thank you, this has been a public service announcement.
2006-11-17 00:58:13 · answer #5 · answered by jjbeard926 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No it isn't helping you in any way to stay. You're only hurting yourself. He has cheated on you many times, and you argue. Find the strength in you to leave this man now and move on with your life to bigger (HAHA right) and better things. Honestly, it's only hurting you more than it's helping you.
2006-11-17 00:56:54 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How could you love a person who cheated on you. Once a cheat, always a cheat. Find someone who loves you, and who also lives closer to you. You say you love him, but what do you love about a man who OBVIOUSLY doesn't love you?
2006-11-17 00:54:44 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do what you think is best. but personally i think leaving him is best. obviously he doesnt have the respect for your feelings. I don't know why you haven't left him yet even if you do love him. He must not love you as much as you love him. He doesn not have any respect for you and doesn't care about wrecking the relationship. You should leave him RIGHT NOW.
2006-11-17 00:57:31 · answer #8 · answered by devltam 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No don't leave him! You LOVE him! Don't let go of your one true love and soul mate!
So what if he cheats on you? He is just so much of a man that women can't resist him and he has to spread his seed because that's what real manly men like him do. He can't help it! And besides, you aren't there with him, what is he supposed to do?
You should drive to see him everyday and have unprotected sex with him so you can have his child and raise it yourself while he does what he wants to do in life.
Don't leave him cuz you will never ever find another man like him. YOU LOVE HIM!! DON"T LEAVE !!!
2006-11-17 01:04:32 · answer #9 · answered by Mr. Right 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hello, hmmmm. It seems from your question you desire to hold onto this guy; but it doesn't seem like he wants to hold on to you. "If a person shows you who they are, believe them" (Dr. Maya Angelou )
"people don't care how much you know until they know how much you care" (John Cassis)
This guy doesn't seem to show how much he cares for you (I may be wrong) If that is the case start developing if you already haven't activities and hobbies that help you think less of this guy and more with moving on in your life.
2006-11-17 01:01:16 · answer #10 · answered by dymps 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's cheated on you multiple times, your arguing, you are semi-long distance, what's to hold on to. Dump the guy. There will be other loves in your life.
2006-11-17 00:56:42 · answer #11 · answered by jazzman6812 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋