My family is very nosey. how do i avoid personal questions during the holidays w/out sounding rude?

Answer 1

Everyone's family is different, but whenever mine is being too nosey, I'll either say something so ridiculous that they know it's untrue or I'll say something so brief that they can tell I don't want to talk about. For example, I broke up with a girlfriend around a holiday once, and everyone asked "how is she doing?" To the people who I knew who had a sense of humor, I'd say "She's in a Chinese prison. I'm never going to see her again." and to the others, I'd just say "fine." Your family especially will be able to read your body language and know if whatever they are asking is bothering you.

Answer 2

Make a joke, keep it up and change the subject. Getting people to laugh gets them off guard and they ususally forget what the heck they were tallking about in the first place.
WE use this (my husband and I) with a certain family member and it almost ALWAYS works. If we come back with a question that is humorous etc. It makes them have to answer a question and puts the spotlight on them and not you. this also breaks tension (which is usually there with nosey relatives!)
IE: Q: How much did you pay for that car?
A: Awww nuthin"! The people at the dealership thought I was cute so they just gave it to me..Happens all the time, gets on my nerves! HAHAHA~
Then:
Isn't that what they do for you??
I heard that was how you got that_________.

Answer 3

ok, i think of which you rather need to vent, while it contains kin junk. do no longer overlook them altogether because of the fact kin is considerable and being with them (in spite of the undeniable fact that it relatively is painfully demanding ) is something that all of us would desire to do, because of the fact deep down there became a time while they have been there for you and that they do love you (once or twice a three hundred and sixty 5 days isn't something in the huge scheme of issues). So if this 3 hundred and sixty 5 days they supply you crap, or communicate undesirable approximately somebody or something you like and you're taking it in my view, only tell them that "i'd prefer to get off that difficulty because of the fact it makes me uncomfortable and in case you like and admire me such as you're saying you do then you definately would substitute the subject " and that's it. in the event that they proceed with the communicate which you do no longer wanna hear only %. your self a puppy undesirable and excuse your self, and confirm you thank the host and be great polite with all human beings. you have heard of kill them with kindness, they're going to experience so undesirable you had to leave they won't communicate disrespectful on the subject of something you like back.

Answer 4

Redirect the question. For example: "So, I hear that you and So&So broke up?"
Answer: "What lovely shoes, Aunt Nosey! Where on earth did you find them!"

And so on...remember this: People love to talk about themselves, especially the nosier amongst us. These people are control freaks and like to stir up the pot. I once had to quiet a relative who loved to stir the pot. I was 15, and I had just started smoking. I coughed and this idiot said aloud, "Why that sounds like a smoker's cough!" Without missing a beat I redirected with a snotty rejoinder: "Yeah, but I can quit smoking...you'll be a moron for life."
He never said too much more around me, and when he did, he was respectful.
Control freaks aren't ready to be challenged, so challenge them and you might even have some holiday fun while doing it!

Good Luck!

Answer 5

You could try what I did last year, work on Thanksgiving and Christmas, or drink a Holiday beer.
I'm feeling poetic, I just want to rant but to try and answer your QUESTION, who gives a rap?
Tell your family EVERYTHING IS JUST FINE, stop asking me how I'm doing all the time.
Or you could try something else I have chosen....
Be the black sheep of the family, Be a drifter, a bum...Have it your way ,I tried it, though it's not always so fun.
I'm living this life, havn't checked out just yet...
So what is my answer? I think I gave it.
Family is a trip, you know they love you and yet and still whats the right thing to do?
Wear a mask, be polite, just do whatever you think is right...
The Holidays, YUCK!!!!
I plan to be driving my friend in his 1957 Cadillac, for Thanksgiving and Christmas again this year.
Oh yeah I was a little bit lonely.
But it was pretty cool, I was in Seattle, so I went to go see my "AUNTIE".
I drove my cousin, in the back of the CADDY, and saw family i hadn't seen in ten years.
Met a second cousin' I never knew, was invited for dinner...Drank some stong coffee too.
But dinner was taking a long time to cook, SALMON for Thanksgiving, am I writing a book?
Well I had to go before I got to eat,
got lost on the way back to pick up the owner, of the Caddy.
But it all worked out for me.
So what do you do when family starts prying?
tell the truth there is no sense in lying, or just say you have to...or just work on that day, DRIVER FOR HIRE/ CHAUFFER on THANKSGIVING day.
To get out of the Holidays seems a blessing for me.
My parents divorced when i was seven, life was no picnic.
Two turkey dinners, two Christmassas too....
oh my gosh is my answer boring to you?
I think I may have drank wayyyy tooooo much coffee.
Sumattra Blend, my hands are shaking.
But I am having fun and I am on a roll.
blessings and peace to you and all...For the Holiday season is one season I'd like to miss...
Sad but true its depressing, yes I do confess.
I don't like my family to pry, so I just stay away, probably not my purpose in life.
25-30 various jobs.
Slept in my car for more than 5 years off and on...
Stayed at friends houses, couch surfed for awhile.
35 yrs. old now and still ready to run, but I can not seem to escape #1.
DJH

Answer 6

Well, they are family, after all, so they will probably ask some personal questions. You can always say something like, "I'd rather not talk about that right now." Then change the subject: "How's that new car you got last year?"

Answer 7

Your reply should be "Thank you for your interest/concern/thoughts." Period. Move on to another subject. If they persist with, "But you haven't answered my question," you reply with "Yes, that's true" and move on to another subject.

The other subject could be "so tell me about YOUR holiday plans," among others, of course not asking the type of rude personal question you want to avoid.

Good luck!

Answer 8

I guess you could say "thanks for asking, I appreciate your concern. I will handle it". Just be as nice as can be and just go around the question with comments that divert the attention to another subject. They will get the hint. If it were me I would just tell them that I don't care to discuss my personal life at holiday dinners.

Answer 9

Try changing the subject to something funny or lighthearted.

Answer 10

"i don't think that's an appropriate topic to discuss at dinner"
"that's a bit too personal"
"can we discuss that at a later time"
"i don't care to talk about that" (and promptly change the subject)