My 17 yr. old daughter is allergic to many medications. Vicodin is the only thing she can take that seems to help her cramps. I hold the drug and dispense it as needed. 4 female drs. have said they would put their own daughter on the pill rather than give them a narcotic. I agree with them but my husband is dead set against her going on the pill. I have had several frank talks with her about sex and STDs and I feel like she is going to have sex if she wants to whether she is on the pill or not. I feel like my husband is being unreasonable and not truly thinking of my daughter's overall health. I feel the pill is a proactive solution to her cramps rather than giving her Vicodin which is a reactive approach to the problem.
2006-11-17 00:06:53 · 10 answers · asked by justnotallthere 1 in Health ➔ Other - Health
I know I'm not a father but I went through a VERY similar issue with my mother. You MUST sit him down and explain to him that this is for her health and that though he may not agree with this, it's better than NOT having her on the pill and something does happen with her sexually. Bringing your daughter on the pill will not promote sexual activity (which I assume is his thought on the subject) Unfortunately, he can't stop anything if it is to happen but can prevent other things. Also explain to him that prolonged usage to ANY narcotic can increase risk of addiction as well as increase the chances of the pill no longer being suitable to the child's needs as the body adapts. If she is allergic to medications, however, she might also be allergic to certain types of BC. Your husband is being unreasonable and the importance of the issue MUST be stressed. The pill will not only help her with cramping but it will regulate her flow and since she would'nt be in so much pain, she'd probably be a happier person. If you really must, take him to the doctor with you and have THEM speak to him. Or you could go behind his back, but I don't reccomend that at all.
I hope this was of some help. Good luck with your husband AND your daughter.
2006-11-17 00:24:22 · answer #1 · answered by the_rosebride 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
On the long-term, the pill will be best for her. Narcotics are fraught with addiction and other side effects like constipation. I would advise you schedule an appointment with one or two of those physicians and to have your husband present possibly during the decision process. I can understand if your daughter may not want him present since this is her sexual health. Really tough decision especially since she is a minor.
But think of it, she is 17. What is your state's regulation on age for minors? She might be able to take a decision without her parent's involvement.
Good luck!
2006-11-17 00:20:54 · answer #2 · answered by Prodigy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just get her on the pill and don't tell the father. Narcotics are horrendous drugs especially at such a young age. She may end up with a lifetime of addiction. Her sex life is not your business anyway. Please don't keep her on the narcotics I have two friends that were on them for a short period and now they are on methadone trying to get off the drug.
2006-11-17 00:40:50 · answer #3 · answered by Gone fishin' 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your husband to do his research. We had to put my daughter on the pill during her teen life for other "female" conditions and it worked. My sister-in-law was put on the pill for a similar situation. I also have heard about many other teens that were prescribed the pill for other reasons than birth control. As long as you have taught your daughter right, there should be nothing to worry about.
2006-11-17 00:19:54 · answer #4 · answered by krkretz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-25 00:17:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know you said help from fathers but i am a recovering vicodin addict.. is that the choice he would prefer? because thats what he will get.. lets see here have your daughter safe from pregnancy and cramp or become a drug addict...thats how you should word it to him.. then if he still won't give in. go behind his back...fathers don't always know best..
2006-11-17 00:22:27 · answer #6 · answered by iwearpink4life 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she was diabetic, would he refuse her drugs to help with that? If she has severe migraines, would he refuse her drugs to help with that? If she had the flu, bronchitis, or pneumonia, would he refuse her drugs to help with that? It is just birth control pills... they aren't going to make her want to have sex, and they aren't going to encourage her or stop her from doing it either.
Ask him how he would feel if his man parts hurt severely, where it felt like someone was squeazing and twisting them for 5 straight days... would he deny himself drugs?
2006-11-17 00:24:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
So, he would rather her risk pain medication addiction and eventual illicit drug use than to receive the proper medical care? That's how I would put it to him. Or do it and don't tell him about.
2006-11-17 00:14:46 · answer #8 · answered by Blunt Honesty 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her take the pill. She is 17, she is legally old enough to have sex! It is also taking percautions also
2006-11-17 00:18:03 · answer #9 · answered by theguyintelford 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if it wasn't "the pill" but an anonymous hormone pill would he have the same problem? Approach it that way.
2006-11-17 00:19:46 · answer #10 · answered by David B 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋