Me and my bf been dating for a year, i used to go through his phone b4 and i did find some texts etc.. but for the past 2-3 months i have not gone through his phone because he hardly leaves it anywhere, he has always got it on him, but lately he always seems to have a low battery and his excuse is that he doesnt charge it!!i wonder if hes talking to other girls. We only see each other in the evenings because he works and im at uni, and we dont live together,his phone is mainly always on silent.The other day he questioned me asking me if i went through his phone because his auntie(married with children,who i have never met) had been recieving messages and phone calls from a man saying rude things,and he blamed me for it,he thinks that i gave his aunties number to someone to find out who she was because he said thats the only womens number he has got in his phone and his aunty is blaming him for the strange calls! BUT it wasnt ME, so what is really going on? should i be suspicious??
2006-11-17 00:01:05 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes, as I feel he is hiding something and the Auntie Ruse is just a cover
2006-11-17 00:08:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Firstly, I think you have to fess up to (and say sorry for) going through his phone in the past. If you want him to be honest with you, you have to be honest with him.
Secondly, the reason he's currently hiding his phone might be because he suspects (accurately) that you were going through it and doesn't like having his privacy invaded (would you?).
Thirdly, what about these texts made you think he was seeing other girls? Was it definite flirting, or could it have been your imagination? How does he treat you? Is he warm and engaging with you, or distant and not caring? Apart from this stuff with his Auntie, what has he done to make you suspicious? Is it anything specific, or do you just have a vague feeling?
Think very carefully about all those things before you talk to him. You *should* talk to him, though, because it's clearly bothering you. Be calm, rational and honest about it, and he should be the same. (If he genuinely cares about you, he should try and understand why you feel suspicious, even if those suspicions are unfounded.)
2006-11-17 00:17:12 · answer #2 · answered by Jeroboam 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you did find some texts from other girl in the past, then it is viable that he may still be texting other girls, however, the simple fact that he has a low battery most of the time is not enough to go on.
As for the Aunite incident, just tell him you didn't do it and he should be able to get over it.
If he continues to push this auntie issue, then he maybe "worried" that something he may be hiding is about to be uncovered. So, play it cool...if he is doing something, it will catch up to him and he will be exposed.
2006-11-17 00:12:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he is trying to catch you out with this rubbish about his auntie so dont fall for it, I really hope you didnt leave a trail that he knew you were in his phone. Did you see other womens names in the phone when you searched it, and remember that men and extremely fly, so they might have names under other mens names or companies etc so that you dont see its a females number.
I think you should tell him that you dont believe this auntie rubbish and if its true he should take you to meet her so that you can tell her that its not you and talk to her.
Maybe its his bit on the side getting sh*t for being a slapper, and she is panicking that its her current bf's girlfriend, you find that women who do that do it more than once.
Tell him that you know all about it and want him out, if he says "what do you know?" Dont even answer him, this will scare him and then you have the upper hand. Men are at their best when terrified
Good Luck and remember that you are better off alone than with someone that doesnt treat you the way you deserve to be treated
2006-11-17 00:36:37 · answer #4 · answered by carrienicholson23 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've known a lot of women who are so afraid their BF will leave them for another woman that they go through their guys phones/e-mails/voice mails/etc. In the end the guy leaves them anyway....not for another woman but because they are tired of being constantly accused of cheating and having their privacy invaded.
The bottom line is if a guy wants to leave a relationship, he'll leave. Getting freaked out over something that may never actually happen is not only a waste of time, having to continually defend himself just gives him a reason to leave sooner.
Unless your BF has given you a real good reason to be suspicious, stop checking up on him. A healthy relationship requires trust.
2006-11-17 00:49:16 · answer #5 · answered by Mary L 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, I think he's up to something because my now ex boyfriend that I had been going out with for almost 6 years does the same stuff with his phone. Dont get me wrong I do it too because if I cant see his phone why should he be able to see mines. And the low battery can be because of alot of txting or talking. Be careful, because you might go through his phone and find something you do want to see.
2006-11-17 00:15:34 · answer #6 · answered by Snookems 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ohh hun, That is how i found out my boyfriend was cheating on me... same excusses, low battery, then it got to where he'd always just turn it off when he was around me an tell me he left it at work... Then one night he told me he left it at work and he feel asleep an i went out an searched his car and found the phone an wrote down every number that was in it .... Then called them all the next day ... Well I had my friends boyfriend call them an ask for him.. An this girl answed once an said no he;s not here yet but he should be here in about 10 mins... I took the phone an went off on her then...lol.
2006-11-17 00:14:16 · answer #7 · answered by ohio_gurl042 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sure be suspicious. He is keeping his phone away from you for a reason. Then again if you are that paranoid about it, why not just find someone you trust. Obviously you are lacking trust in this one. While you're at it, try and locate a little self confidence in yourself. Usually when you are going through someones phone it tends to imply you have low self confidence in yourself and are trying to find a way to justify it. So stop the madness, grab some confidence and get someone you trust.
2006-11-17 00:09:25 · answer #8 · answered by Satsune 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In the first place LUV K. You should have trusted your bf and should not have went over his messages. You have invaded his privacy, Love is also trusting the other person. Be secure about his love. Because you are his girlfriend. It means he loves you. Focus on that fact, and be a good GF. Having suspicions and being nosy may ruin the love that you have for each other. Give him more space, if he goes astray, then he was never truly yours and you can not do anything about this. If he stays faithful to you , then he truly loves you.
2006-11-17 00:13:02 · answer #9 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its very clear that he wants a break. I dont know for good or for just some time, but he needs to separate from u for sure. No bf will else behave in the way u described.. watch him closely, u may be chasing a mirage.. if not then he could as well be true!! I guess no harm checking it out.
2006-11-17 00:32:21 · answer #10 · answered by adventurous 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋