i am not really ready to have sex again becuase i am preety much mick up in my head with stuff going on for example my mum being ill etc but my boyfriend has been paitend we have been 2gether for 2 years and we have had sex before about a year ago.but we do other stuff...
but he dose go on about it alot, what do you think i should do?
2006-11-16 23:02:15 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
JUst tell him whats in youe heart and if he understands and loves you, he will understand. Nobody should pressure you into doing stuff you dont feel comfortable doing. Good luck and i hope your mom will be alright.
2006-11-16 23:09:59 · answer #1 · answered by wittlewabbit 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm a bit worried that the problem with your mother, which I am sorry about, is not really the cause of your lack of sex drive. It's true that if we are feeling down we do not get as "frisky" as we might at other times, but since it has been going on for a year at least I think there is something else about sex that you are not comfortable with.
It is difficult to tell your age though I imagine you are still relatively young. At this age the whole sex thing is a very troubling area and if it is at all scary, just don't get involved. A time will come eventually when you will feel much more comfortable.
If you have had other problems related to sex in the past maybe you should talk to your doctor and discuss what it is about sex that you find uncomfortable.
The most important thing is not to worry about your boyfriend. Explain things to him. Carry on doing what you are doing. If he is pressuring you into sex it will be much harder (and I don't mean like that!) for you to be comfortable.
Good luck, hun.
2006-11-17 07:23:06 · answer #2 · answered by Ask the chicken 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex is important but if your not feeling 'in the mood' don't do it just for the sake of it.
If you've got a lot on your mind at the moment that's bound to affect your sex drive. I would talk to your boyfriend and explain how your feeling and that it's not his fault (men can get insecure if neglected!). Maybe try doing some intimate stuff that you feel comfortable with rather than full on sex - you'll probably find if you work on the intimacy and closeness side of things you're sex drive will return when you feel relaxed and comfortable. Hope you work it out - sex is a wonderful thing and no-one should be missing out!
2006-11-17 07:29:12 · answer #3 · answered by Badgrl 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Under the age of 18, no, it is not important at all. Just don't.
As you get older, that depends on you and the person you're dating. If you're only casual dating, again sex is not important.
Here's the catch:
You need to find out if the person you are thinking about spending a lot of time with believes sex is important. Again, if you're under 18, let them go if "only by having sex will show how much you care" is their favorite saying, dump them.
If you're older and they want sex as part of the relationship and you don't, that's not good. It would be best if you both move on to someone more compatable. If you feign you like to have sex with them and then stop or curtail it, don't be surprised if they find someone else to satisfy their needs. That would be your issue more than theirs as you led them on saying you liked something but really didn't.
2006-11-17 07:16:50 · answer #4 · answered by Geo-Guy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sex is important yeah, but when you are in a relationship and especially like yours it brings you closer together. It is more of an intimacy between you both. But until you feel ready to do it again, then don't. Maybe you should talk to him about how you are feeling and what is holding you back from being able to have have sex with him??? Good luck x
2006-11-17 07:48:34 · answer #5 · answered by sparkling Princess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sex is very important in a relationship...hopefully there is more to the relationship than sex but you have more to think about right now....if you don't feel ready then don't do it...If he doesn't understand that and isn't supportive of your feelings now, what will it be like a few years from now. When you love someone, you don't put pressure on them in tough times, you try to make things easier....take a good hard look at your relationship because maybe you not wanting sex is an indication of your true feelings with him.....something to consider....good luck.
2006-11-17 07:17:42 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't want to dont, but Sex is defo an important part of a relationship. I know you said you have other things going on but come on, you havent made love to your boyfriend in over a year, maybe deep down you don't want to be with him anymore like that and your just tagging him along as you like the support he has been giving you since your mam got sick, just an opinion, good luck with whatever you choose.
2006-11-17 09:15:55 · answer #7 · answered by PinkPrincess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex is important but there is a time and place for everything, I was once told that if a couple doesn't get along in bed then they are not going to get along from their nose to their toes. Other things in life dictates what is to be soooo when the time is right don't just have sex, make love to eachother like there's no tomorrow.
2006-11-17 07:25:23 · answer #8 · answered by call2fly 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex is important. It is one way a person shows love to the other. Sex outside marriage is not good as it loses its meaning by assuming sex is a normal cheap stuff. Sex is the expression of oneself to the other. That means you give your total self to the other person and not the "total" that has been shared with "others". And so, sex is important.
2006-11-17 07:10:08 · answer #9 · answered by Yogurtlover 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes sex is important. No one would be alive if were no for it. As far as your mom being ill, I sympothize, but your life is still running it's course, and your bf is still with you...waiting. The 2 of you should plan a night out and let you head clear itself.
2006-11-17 07:11:30 · answer #10 · answered by Floss 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋